A lot of men joke about single women dying alone with 12 cats... but here’s the truth: that’s projection.

Men are facing a loneliness crisis. We isolate ourselves, chase careers across the country, let friendships die, and pretend we’re fine being “lone wolves.” Then we wake up in our 40s, 50s, and 60s and realize—we’ve built a resume, not a life.

In this video, I break down why so many men end up disconnected, how modern culture pushes us to go it alone, and most importantly—what we can do about it.

If you're tired of the silence and ready to start building real connection again, you're not alone. This is your wake-up call.

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Most men carry shame. But they don’t talk about it—especially when it comes to sex.

They were raised to be "good boys," "nice guys," and "respectful partners"... but underneath that, many are dealing with something toxic: sexual shame. It wrecks their confidence. It kills their desire. And it silently poisons their relationships.

In this video, I break down how sexual shame develops in men, how it fuels codependency and dead bedrooms, and what it takes to finally own who you are as a man—without guilt, without apology.

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📚 Recommended books mentioned:

• No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover
• Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody
• Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw

Dating after divorce is a minefield—and if you haven't been single since your twenties, you're stepping into a completely different world.

In this video, I break down what actually happens when men re-enter the dating market after a long-term relationship. I cover the emotional aftermath of divorce, the brutal realities of modern dating apps, what women are looking for now, and how to rebuild yourself into a man who wins in today’s dating world.

This isn’t about cheesy pickup lines or pretending to be something you’re not. This is about becoming the kind of man who attracts quality women—because he’s done the work.

✅ What we’ll cover:

• Why dating today is nothing like it used to be
• The most common mistakes divorced men make
• What modern women are REALLY looking for
• How to flirt, vet, and build real connection again
• How to avoid getting used, scammed, or heartbroken all over again

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Every man has felt it—that wild rush of lust, energy, and connection in the beginning of a relationship. You can’t stop thinking about her. You’re having sex like teenagers. It feels like you finally “found the one.”

That’s the honeymoon stage… and it’s biology.

In this episode, I break down what’s really going on inside your body (and hers) during the early phase of a relationship—dopamine, oxytocin, testosterone, all of it. But more importantly, I explain why it doesn’t last… and what happens after the chemicals fade.

If you’re struggling in a sexless marriage or wondering where the passion went—this will make sense of everything.

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In this Dear DSO, a military husband opens up about his wife emotionally and physically checking out of their marriage. After three kids, mood swings, and now being on SSRIs for anxiety, she’s not the same woman he married. No sex for nine months. He does 95% of the parenting while she’s glued to her phone and in nursing school. Is he being anxious… or is it time to walk?

We talk about the mental health toll, the “mom bot” transformation, the impact of meds on libido, and what men in this position can realistically do. You’re not alone.

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A 65-year-old woman wrote in with a gut-wrenching story. After 42 years of being married to a man who never listens, never remembers their anniversary, and always puts his own priorities first, she's wondering if it's time to finally walk away.

She’s tried everything—even picked up The Dead Bedroom Fix hoping for one last Hail Mary. But this story? It’s way too familiar. Men, if you think women don’t deal with this kind of thing too, think again.

Let’s talk about what happens when you realize—after decades—that the person you're with isn't going to change.

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In this Dear DSO submission, a man reaches out from the middle of an eight-year sexless marriage. He’s passive, anxious, and paralyzed by confusion—and he’s not alone. So many men fall into this trap.

In this episode, I walk through his message and break down what’s really going on here: the anxious attachment, the avoidant wife, the therapy cycles that go nowhere, and the desperation that leads men to stay stuck for years. I also bring up a common thread I see in my community: many of these guys are neurodivergent—autistic, ADHD, or OCD—and they bond fast and deep, which makes walking away feel impossible.

If this sounds like your story, you’re not crazy—but you do need help. Watch to the end to hear what this man should do next—and what you can do if you’re stuck too.

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Seventeen years of marriage. Three kids. Nice house. Dead bedroom for almost a decade.
 Then, during an argument, she looks him in the eye and says the words that’ll haunt him forever:
 “I’m just not attracted to you anymore.”

No yelling. No drama. Just a calm, matter-of-fact gut punch.

This is what happens when a woman has emotionally and physically checked out — and finally wants you to get the message.
 In today’s Dear DSO submission, I break down why this happens, what it really means, and what your options are when your wife finally says what she’s been feeling for years.

This one hits hard.

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Why do so many women in long-term relationships cheat—and often with men who seem like total losers?

In this video, I break down the science behind two popular theories about female infidelity: the Mate Switching Hypothesis and the Dual Mating Strategy. One of these is more “romantic.” The other is... well, it’s the one most men fear deep down.

We’ll look at the latest research—including a 2024 study co-authored by Macken Murphy—and how it lines up with what I’ve heard from thousands of men in sexless marriages or reeling from betrayal.

This is hard to hear. But if you want real answers, here they are.

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So many men ask me the same question: "How do I know when I've done enough?" They’ve put in the work. They’ve read the books. They’ve hit the gym, led with strength, stayed patient—and still… she avoids connection.

In today’s Dear DSO, Alejandro writes in with a story that I’ve heard far too many times. A disconnected wife. Years of emotional avoidance. A man trying to fix things alone.

I break it all down—how much responsibility is really on the man… and when it’s okay to say: “I’ve done all I can.”

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