Do you actually like them… or do you just really fucking want them to like you?

This week, I’m joined by Nadège, sex scholar and founder of Pleasure Science, and we’re getting into the psychology behind how we flirt, date, choose partners, and sometimes completely lose ourselves trying to create connection.

We break down different flirting styles, what they can reveal about how we approach attraction, and one distinction that had me looking at my entire dating history differently: Are you a trying person or a positioning person?

Because there’s a BIG difference between showing up in dating thinking, “How can I make this person like me?” and showing up thinking, “Let me be myself and see if I even like this person.”

We talk about people-pleasing, validation, attraction, the types of people we choose, and how constantly trying to be desirable can keep us focused on being chosen instead of asking whether the person sitting across from us is someone WE would choose.

Basically, if you've ever changed how you act around someone you like, overanalyzed whether they’re interested, tried to become their “type,” or realized you were more obsessed with getting someone to want you than whether you actually wanted them…

Girl. We need to talk.

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Happy fucking Monday, bitches — we’re BACK. And after taking a few months away from the podcast, it only felt right to come back with a life update and a minor 30-year-old identity crisis.

I spent most of my 20s building a career and a life that gave me exactly what I wanted: financial independence, freedom, the ability to provide for my son, travel, have fun, and create a schedule that was mine. But nobody really talks about what happens when the dream works… and then you realize you might want a different dream.

In this episode, we’re talking about the weird identity shift that happens when you outgrow a version of yourself you’re still really fucking proud of. I’m getting into my Type A struggle with slowing down, why having MORE free time has somehow made me question whether I’m doing enough, and the uncomfortable feeling of knowing what I want next without knowing exactly how the hell I’m going to get there.

I’m also catching you up on my pivot into content creation, UGC, building the YAP Challenge and UGC course, and what it looks like to build a new career while the old one is still paying the bills.

No five-year plan. No inspirational speech about having it all figured out.

I’m quite literally just figuring it the fuck out — and maybe you are too.

This week’s episode is a real-time check-in — life, mindset, and everything in between. It's honest, reflective, and probably a little too relatable if you’ve been feeling off, overwhelmed, or stuck in go-mode without a pause button.We’re starting with my 75 Hard journey, honestly, felt like I failed… but ended up realizing I’m actually making decisions that are better aligned with me long-term. Growth isn’t always perfect, and this was definitely one of those moments that humbled me in the best way!From there, we get into BURNOUT— what it actually looks like (because it’s not always obvious), how it shows up in real life, and why so many of us don’t even realize we’re in it until we’re already overwhelmed...(que the downward spiral...)Then we layer in the real problem: being a Type A personality. When you mix high standards, constant pressure, and the inability to slow down… it’s basically a recipe for burnout on steroids! I’m breaking down the signs, the patterns, and how this cycle keeps repeating — plus sharing how you guys are coping, based on real life experiences and write ins from YOU! If you feel like you are exhausted with 6,000 tasks to do, fatigued and don't understand why, or always moving the goal post… we need to talk.Don't be shy, share you thought wherever your listening/watching! I read every sing comment, and LOVE chatting with my girls!Xo,Tatum Zoeee

This week on Girl Stop Talking, we’re getting real about something I like to call “reflection projection.” You know that moment when someone sees you showing up for yourself, chasing your dreams, and instead of being inspired… they project their insecurities onto you? Yeah, we’re unpacking all of that.

I’m sharing some real-life experiences where I’ve dealt with projection, where it comes from psychologically, and how to navigate it—whether you’re the person receiving the projection or the one who might need to do a little self-reflection yourself. Because sometimes the hardest growth comes from realizing the mirror is pointing back at us.

Of course, we’re also celebrating our weekly wins, shouting out listener victories, and talking about what it’s like navigating social events and festivities without alcohol while still having a damn good time.

And because this is still Girl Stop Talking, we’re keeping things spicy with a brand-new Position of the Week (P.O.W.) — this week’s title: Space Cowgirl.

To wrap things up, we’re diving into the Love Is Blind Season 10 finale, breaking down the weddings, the drama at the altar, and whether my predictions were right or completely delusional.

Growth, accountability, sex positivity, and a little reality TV gossip… basically everything you came here for.

Happy fucking Monday, bitches.

EP126- This week’s episode is all about stepping into the next version of you — loudly, confidently, and without asking for permission.

I’m opening up about shifting careers into personal development, what it looks like to lean fully into inspiring and encouraging others, and how scary — but necessary — it is to evolve in public. We’re talking reflection, self-awareness, and the power of showing up as your everyday self instead of waiting to feel “ready.”

Of course, we still had to debrief our weekly Position of the Week (because growth and pleasure can coexist), and break down Love Is Blind with predictions on who’s actually making it to the altar — and who is absolutely not.

This episode is about positive change, bold pivots, and choosing to become the fullest version of yourself instead of shrinking to stay comfortable.

If you’ve been feeling the pull to level up — this one’s for you.

EP125- This week’s episode is giving glow-up energy, bedroom upgrades, and reality TV therapy.

We’re debriefing weekly wins — including hitting 300 YouTube subscribers (hi, I love you), being two weeks into 75 Hard, and stepping fully into this new era where I feel high on life, locked in, and hyper self-aware about who I’m becoming.

Then, of course, we check in on last week’s Position of the Week (because we are committed), add a new one to the repertoire, and keep things spicy.

After that? We get into the relationship breakdowns on Love Is Blind — meeting the parents, living together, red flags waving aggressively — plus a quick take on the America’s Next Top Model documentary and how wild it is to rewatch certain behaviors through an adult lens.

And finally, I open up about the similarities between what we’re seeing on TV and one of my most toxic relationships — why some endings feel unsettling, and why it’s actually important that we see relationships like that play out publicly. Because ignoring red flags never ends well.

Growth. Sex. Self-awareness. Reality TV hot takes.

(Episode 124) -This week’s episode is part weekly check-in, part confidence pep talk, and part chaotic girl debrief— just the way we like it.

We’re starting off with our weekly wins… but one of mine turns into a full-blown story time about fear, missed opportunities, and why playing it safe is basically a one-way ticket to staying stuck. We’re talking about how fear can literally be the death of growth — and how pushing through what scares you is the only way to build real confidence and step into the life you’re meant for.

I also get real about my own fears around being in an authority position as a fitness coach and trainer — because growth is cute until you actually have to believe you belong in the room.

Then, of course, we debrief last week’s Position of the Week (yes, we’re still committed), add a new one to try, and end the episode with some Love Is Blind hot takes… because this season is giving stale, and someone has to say it.

Grab your drink, get comfy, and let’s talk about fear, confidence, intimacy, and reality TV disappointment — all in one episode!

This week’s episode is a little bit of everything — wins, chaos, creativity, and a sprinkle of “did that just happen?”

We’re starting off with our weekly wins and a real chat about what it’s like posting content every single day — balancing feeling inspired and creative… versus procrastinating, spiraling, and suddenly feeling overwhelmed for no reason.

Then we jump into Week 2 of Sex Positions of the Week (because yes, we’re committed to the cause), with a full debrief on how they went and what we learned along the way.

And just when you think it couldn’t get more unhinged… I share a wild story about how I may have helped a mom escape a.... situation — or possibly almost ended up in the wrong place at the wrong time. I’ll let the people decide.

Grab a drink, buckle up, and let’s get into this week’s mix of wellness, intimacy, and real-life chaos

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Let's play catch up.. On our dreams. LOL

Celebrating wins after being sick and rambling on about taking a chance on yourself. Dream Big and watch it pay off..

Weekly WINS, new positions, and finding structure this week.

If this is your first episode, there are better ones I promise LOL

This week’s episode is part real-life check-in, part motivation, and part “get your life together” energy — even if you’re PMS-ing, sick, and feeling like you’ve been hit by a truck.

We’re starting off with three wins from my week (because growth doesn’t stop just because your hormones are spiraling), and then we dive into one of my favorite topics: GOALS.

I’m breaking down the 30-60-90 day rule, why people give up way too fast, and how momentum builds the second you start proving to yourself that you can actually do what you say you’re going to do. We’re talking about turning big dreams into daily tasks, staying consistent when motivation fades, and realizing that “too busy” is usually just code for “too distracted.”

If you’ve been needing a little push, a mindset reset, and a reminder that your future self is built in the boring days… this one’s for you. 💋

Grab a drink, get comfy, and let’s get into it.