Girls Who Do Stuff

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Rob and the Girls Who Do Stuff talk about the changing nature of online marketing, including adding video content to your marketing strategy as a small business owner.

Often times the millennial younger generation can be categorized as lazy but Rob believes that what some perceive as laziness is actually efficiency. They are looking for a more efficient way to complete tasks and even how to communicate with others.    

Rob helps unpack some of the best practices for creating great content on youtube. The importance of your branding, titles, and tags.

If you have the resources you can start to outsource the things you like the least. Often times on youtube, that is the video editing process.   

Rob talks about how the entertainment choices of younger generations are being converted into a marketable skillset as those young people enter the workforce. For example, kids that have spent time on twitch streaming their games have learned how to get better at keeping peoples' attention.

Rob shares his biggest challenge as a business owner, time management, and how he has worked to overcome this challenge. Looking at ways to maintain his relationship at scale using Facebook groups instead of DMs. 

The Girls Who Do Stuff pick Rob's brain about should their podcast go onto youtube? 

There are so many moving parts to divorce and real estate is often pushed to the side. This is where Julie and her team can help.

We talk about what happens during the divorce process with real estate. In North Carolina, it takes one to buy and two to sell. So both people have to be in agreement to sell the home. This can be challenging if the divorce is not amicable.

 Julie also got her life coach certification and mindfulness certification to better help her clients who are in a difficult headspace due to a divorce.

"When you're in that headspace, you can't really think forward." - Julie

Divorce is a trauma, even if you are choosing it.

Julie tried nesting with her divorce. In her opinion, it was the worst way to live in the world. There is a lot of passive aggressive roommate type behavior and you need to maintain three households.

A client of Julie's had a one-night stand during a 25-year marriage and she was awarded no alimony. Nothing. He was the primary breadwinner and she stayed at home with the kids. We talk about cases that represent antiquated divorce law in North Carolina.

Julie shares tips for those going through a divorce when it comes to the financial decisions around real estate and shares from her personal story of divorce and what she learned on her journey.

You can contact Julie at (919) 412-0185 or her website at redivorcespecialists.com 

The kids are in the studio! It was a bit crazy. We took the opportunity to talk about expectations, work-life balance, and giving yourself grace as a "MOM-BOSS."

Hear clips from our kid's adorable and sometimes challenging answers to our questions.

Like when asked what questions they have for us, we got "Why do you spend so much time at work?"

Parenting is tough and you are not alone.

Work-life balance may be the wrong word. We like work-life harmony. You can fall in and out of harmony and it allows for each person to set their own harmony. Some people may like to work 4 or 5 hours a day while others may find their harmony at 8-10. Also, life is seasonal and there are times when you may need to put in more work and you have to find ways to keep harmony in those seasons. 

Work-life harmony can also apply to your family life. What does harmony look like with your spouse and with your kids. People are individuals and individuals have individual needs. 

Cary is married to her biggest encourager Rob and Mom to Ashlin and Carver who attend Apex High School. Cary grew up in Myrtle Beach, SC, and has lived most of her adult life in Raleigh. She’s a Clemson Tiger at heart where she attended early in college but graduated from Coastal Carolina University in South Carolina. Her family attends Hope Community Church’s Raleigh Campus and have for over 12 years. Cary’s international mission experience working with women’s artisan co-ops in Central America and Africa inspired the birth of Designed For Joy. She's a serial entrepreneur and has founded small several businesses around creating a community for women in the Raleigh area. Cary’s a big believer in encouraging women to pursue their passion.

Designed For Joy is a transitional work experience for women coming from trafficking, homelessness, time in prison, overcoming addiction, or other vulnerable situations. They provide living wage work hours while building confidence and refreshing resumes. They are launching equipped women into the marketplace.

After a life-changing trip to Rwanda, she felt called to start a non-profit to empower women, came back, put together a board of advisors, and started hiring women.

Cary shares with us her entrepreneurial journey. It takes a while and you need to pay your dues. We talk about the developmental age of your business. One business may be in its infancy and another may be a misbehaving teenager and we shouldn't compare our beginning to someone else's middle.

She also shares about the role of spirituality in her non-profit. She is for Jesus and for justice and believes that those two things work together well.

We talk about how as women entrepreneurs we need to give ourselves permission to be business owners and grace for balancing our work and life responsibilities.

Cary opens up about how she is gifted to bring people together and create community but can often still at times feel like an outsider. This leads to a deeper conversation about what it feels like for women who are often the planners of social events when someone else takes on the role of planning.
 
You can find out more about Designed for Joy on their website | Instagram | Facebook

Wulwyn talks about the importance of character and how you would not have wanted to meet him before he valued character. One of the key things in his life was basketball. Learning to be competitive taught him to want to win, but win with character. His mother invited a man to their house as a child who was on the national team in Liberia. He spent a couple hours on a Saturday and taught them the fundamentals and they ran with it for the rest of their lives.

Liberia was run by, at that time, a dictator.

Basketball. Turmoil. And then the war occurred.

There were natives of Liberia who originally were on the land, where there's a fight between the natives and they call home ever that came from the States to Liberia, American Liberians.

And that thing just brewed a certain discomfort. It brewed distrust of this loyalty within that environment since the inception of Liberia till 1990. And that's when it blew up. The American librarian ruled the country. And then the natives started to rule.

And in American Liberians saying, this is not the way you rule. So the American Liberian American librarian comes back to rule. And boom, civil war, roughly about 250,000 plus die.

Wulwyn shares his experiences growing up during a time of war. The first thing to go is the electricity and you have to go down to the bare necessities. You are surviving. You will be amazed at what your body can do to survive. It's bullet flying, with child soldiers on your way to get water in the morning. You're crawling with a wheel barrel to get water from the well.  Wulwyn lived in fear of being recruited as a child soldier. His mother would often have to come to his defense at checkpoints so he would not be recruited.

Their family fled to the states because the education system in Liberia was shattered by the war. He didn't know racism in Liberia. He shares his experiences of racism in the United States.

We talk about empathy and how we can relate the emotions without relating to the experiences of our fellow man.

You can reach out to Wulwyn on his website or his foundation. 

Sadie shares her experiences as a ghost-writer. She talks about the process of working with her current client, a professional baseball player.  She talks about her career up to this point, being a parent, and finding her path.

Corporate was not a fit for Sadie. Then she tried pampered chef. Then she started shifting into consulting, and that's where she started doing interior design. She just figured it out as she went along. After the arrival of her third child, she had to put it on the back burner. She went to grad school in hopes to get back into interior design one day. But it didn't lead right back into interior design, she instead started writing for businesses.

After about four years into the writing business, she decided to start up the interior design business again! The second time around she is much more process-oriented and that has made the business more efficient and makes her able to service her clients better. 

Sadie shares her perspective of herself now versus before she turned 40.

We had a compelling conversation about how starting out most creative types don't charge what they are worth or do projects for low cost to build up their portfolio and that is not sustainable. We talk about the mental process of realizing that it's okay to charge what you are worth and provide quality products and services to your clients.

Right now there seems to a trend in the business world that everyone should consider writing a book. Sadie shares her perspective on this trend.

Find out more about Sadie Harper at www.southernambition-nc.com   

We recognize although this is predominantly an issue for women, men struggle with body positivity as well. Unhappiness with our bodies is the number one shame trigger for women.

Beth shares her story of becoming okay with her body. She described it as "my body and I had a conversation."  There were times where she was very angry with her body and she metaphorically said to her body, "I want to be friends again."

Having tried every diet and program as a self-described, "chubby kid". 

We talk about the health factor of body image. We also talk about the assessability of healthy food for many Americans. And finally, we discuss what is in alignment for you and your core values and how you come to terms with who you are, and how you choose to move.

We discuss how people disconnect from their bodies. Sarah shares that her disconnection is rooted in objectification. Others may deal with anxiety and develop issues with food because it is the one thing they can control. Trauma may be another issue. Today we talk about the ways you can reconnect with your body.

Sarah describes the phenomenon of when we look in the mirror, we may not see the same things as others in our lives like our spouses. We often don't look through the eyes of love but focus on what we believe are our imperfections. She had to put a poster board to cover the area she was negatively focusing on so she could break the habit of only seeing the negative. 

During the more than 27 years that he has been turning the art of communications into the science of remarkable results, Bart has embraced a unique training approach. This approach helps people transform their communications skills so that they can experience remarkable work success, and more meaningful relationships with family, friends, and co-workers.

Bart shares the story of how he fell in love with communication and helping people develop the skills to be remarkable.

"I have just learned out of my experience that people find their purpose really at two major buckets, they either find it out of their passion, something that they just love and they want to go do, or they find it out of their pain." - Bart Queen

"Our ability to communicate both spoken and written are the two things that will separate you out from everyone else." - Bart Queen

Bart shares three areas he is constantly trying to get people to think about during presentations:

• It's a conversation, not a presentation
• Focus on connection
• When you have a connection you will feel more confident  

The idea of learning to be a good communicator is a lifetime journey. Within that journey there are certain skills you need to develop:

• body language/delivery mechanics
• build your command presence
• reduce the distractions for your audience
• promote your sense of authority and balance that with your sense of presence
• the length of your sentence (look for sound bytes)

The average person listens for 4 seconds. So the most important part of your message is the beginning and the end.

The highest goal of communication at 100,000 feet is about three goals

• How do I build trust with my listener?
• How do I build a relationship with them?
• How do I keep them engaged? 

To reach out to Bart contact him at [email protected].