Happy Slut

Thank you to all the listeners who sent in questions for my advice series! Here is the very first one I've chosen to feature on this series, mostly because it's a really common question I've heard from folks who are questioning whether some form of nonmonogamy might be right for them. Listener Preston* asked:

My wife and I are in an interesting part in our relationship that we both consider monogamous. After being intimate with just each other for 13 years, we have started talking more openly about our desires. We fell into a "normal" rhythm when it came to our sex life. Opening up about other desires, seemed dangerous, and specifically on my end, felt like they coild shatter the relationship. However, after having honest conversations, I found that she had surprisingly been open to just about all ideas. One we talked about was inviting another person in to bed for us to enjoy mutually.

What is your take on the healthiness of this and the sustainability of it for a relationship such as ours?

How would you go about setting healthy ground rules that makes us all feel comfortable including the potential third person?

How do you open conversations with people about this?

* Name has been changed.

Thank you, Preston for this wonderful question! I did my best to answer it, and I want to open this up to my amazing audience of listeners. If you have a response to Preston that I didn't cover in this bonus episode, please oh please send it to me as a comment on social media, a DM, or in an email to [email protected], and I'll include it in an upcoming bonus episode!

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That's all for now! See ya next week, pinecones.

xoxo,

Samia

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Get into PART 2 of this sassy, sexy, totally unfiltered conversation about sex toys and personal sex stories that I had with the fine and fabulous April & Amy of the Shameless Sex podcast! PINECONES!!! These ladies give LIFE. We had so much fun chatting it up that we ended up recording for double the length of time we meant to and I am not sorry. Enjoyyyyy and find all things April & Amy below.

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I love you all so much!

xoxo,

Samia

Get into this sassy, sexy, totally unfiltered conversation about sex toys and personal sex stories that I had with the fine and fabulous April & Amy of the Shameless Sex podcast! PINECONES!!! These ladies give LIFE. We had so much fun chatting it up that we ended up recording for double the length of time we meant to, soooo this baby is a two-parter. I'll be releasing part 2 next week! Enjoyyyyy and find all things April & Amy below.

Shameless Sex on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ShamelessSexPodcast/featured

Shameless Sex on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/shameless-sex/id1242394336

Shameless Sex on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ZdhZeupiXtBZxCeI7jkEk?si=f029bbc2dd5d4381

Buy Shameless Sex the book: https://purepleasureshop.com/products/shameless-sex-1

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Stay tuned for the second half of this feisty, flirty convo next week!

xoxo,

Samia

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I am tha-rilled to bring you my looooong, super-chatty, unfiltered conversation with Mattie Jo Cowsert, an actor and author based in New York City. Mattie Jo wrote a memoir called God, Sex, and Rich People, in which she documents her deconstruction from evangelical Christianity and purity culture to become the most wholesome sex-positive activist you've ever encountered. Her pitch of a TV show version of her book won the Audience Choice Award at the Yale Innovation Summit (!!!) and she's now developing it into a one-woman theater piece as an artist in residence at Collective Connecticut. This woman is a powerhouse! And damn funny to boot!

In this episode, we discuss:

1. Mattie Jo's origin story as a born theater kid with a pastor dad in a heavily evangelical community.
2. How her sex education consisted mostly of scare tactics but her parents were a little looser about it than the community around them.
3. How making gay friends at theater camp made her question the existence of Hell.
4. Her move to New York City, and why having Jewish and Muslim friends blew open her worldview and made her leave evangelicalism for good.
5. Her "Rubble Years" and the bad experiences she had when she finally made her sexual debut without any idea of how to handle things.
6. How she eventually developed her own sexual ethic and value system around sex and relationships and wrote an amazing dang book about all this! I just love her.

Buy God, Sex, and Rich People and learn more about Mattie Jo here: www.mattiejocowsert.com

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That's it for this week! Love ya, pinecones!

xoxo,

Samia

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Okay, pinecones, I am getting real personal with you in this bonus interview! Adam Darrow is a man of many extreme talents - house-building, extreme sports including free solo rock-climbing, tankless scuba diving, and BASE jumping, and you know, running tech companies, whatevs, no big deal - and he recently published a memoir about his foray into extreme non-monogamy with a woman named Jane, who told him up front that she has LOTS of casual sex and never plans to change that for any relationship. The book is called Seek the Risk, and in it, Darrow provides the most clear-eyed perspective I've ever encountered on the struggles that men face in nonmonogamous relationships with sexually voracious women...women like, oh y'know, ME. We have a fascinating conversation in which I reveal some intimate details from my own life, and Adam dispenses wisdom that is invaluable to anyone who's curious about the pleasures and pitfalls of nonmonogamy.

Learn more about Adam and buy the book: www.seektherisk.net

If you are a Spotify subscriber, the audiobook of Seek the Risk is free with your subscription!

xoxo,

Samia

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This week, I bring you another snippet of my origin story, with the sordid tale of the first time I confronted my own feelings of rage-y, crazy jealousy in my very first healthy, functional nonmonogamous relationship. The number one question people curious about nonmonogamy ask me is, "How do you deal with your jealousy?" This story answers that question and also gives you some insight into how to navigate jealousy in your own relationships, whether or not they are monogamous. Enjoy, pinecones! And as always, let me know your thoughts, send me your requests for advice, and send over your own anonymous confessions to [email protected]. I LOVE hearing from you.

Watch the video version of this bonus episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/FatznKzHClE

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xoxo,

Samia

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This week, I'm bringing you my feisty, flirty, rambly conversation with comedian and podcaster Billy Procida, host of the Manwhore Podcast, in which he has vulnerable, funny, sex-positive conversations with all sorts of fascinating people. I have become a devoted listener. Billy also hosts the Naked Comedy Show, which is exactly what it sounds like and has monthly shows in Brooklyn (next one is February 12, 2026), as well as upcoming shows in LA (Jan 17, 2026) and Philadelphia (Feb 14, 2026). More info and tickets available at manwhorepod.com.

In this interview, we discuss Billy's origin story as a kid who got bullied a lot and how he grew up to be a guy with enough confidence to do stand-up comedy naked and show up regularly to sex parties. We discuss body image, consent issues and the gray areas that can arise in sexual encounters when consent isn't properly sought out, nonmonogamy and polyamory, what can go very right (and very, very wrong) at a fully naked comedy show, and lots, lots more. It's a fun convo and I hope you dig it, pinecones.
For all things Billy Procida, go to manwhorepod.com.
xoxo,Samia

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This week, I bring you my fascinating conversation with the adult sex educator, Kenneth Play, whose Beyond Satisfied Pro video course I've been advertising on this show since the beginning. Kenneth is the real deal: attuned, curious, determined, and passionate, he's made being a good lover his life's work, and he wants to help you have more earthshattering experiences, too. In this interview, we discuss Kenneth's origin story, some of his best pro tips for toe-curling sex, and his openly polyamorous marriage to his wife, Karen, and navigating her having a child with her other husband, Geronimo. It's juicy, thought-provoking stuff, pinecones!

For all things Kenneth: www.kennethplay.com (warning: not suitable for work!)
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Thank you as always for your support! None of this would be possible without you.
xoxo,Samia

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Just dropping into your feed right quick to wish all you sexy babies a very happy and safe New Year's celebration! I'll be back next week with another yummy interview, but for now, party well, don't drink too much (it's bad for sex!) and enjoy the chillest week of the year. I hope you're all surrounded by loved ones, laughter, and deliciousness!

xoxo,Samia

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Because I'm a curmudgeon who hates Christmas, here is something to tickle your earholes that has nothing to do with any of the winter holidays! An audio essay about why I identify as nonbinary, for your listening pleasure.

If you'd like to see the written version, check it out on my Substack:
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And while you're there, subscribe to my Substack! Get in now while it's still 100% free!

Happy unspecified winter holiday to all of you saucy little pinecones!
xoxo,Samia

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