Rediscovering and Integrating Your Authentic Self Post-Alienation

In episode 147 of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, hosted by Shelby Milford, the topic of self-abandonment among alienated parents is explored in depth. Explore & understand how alienated parents often separate from their past selves as a defense mechanism, leading to feelings of disconnect and existential crisis. Shelby proposes reintegrating cherished qualities and hobbies from the past to cope with and overcome the challenges of alienation. She emphasizes the need for balance, self-compassion, and small wins, offering practical advice and personal anecdotes to help listeners reconnect with their authentic selves and enhance their overall well-being.

Talking Points:

• Do you feel like your ability to feel joy was stolen the day your children were?
• Severance between who you are and who you were before alienation happened
• Why many alienated parents self-abandon
• Negative effects of severing past self from today
• Why doing so might be keeping you miserable
• How this mindset can keep a wall between you and your children
• How to reconnect with the best parts of you and still honor your children

00:00 Introduction and Episode Setup

00:11 Personal Health Update and Episode Motivation

01:40 Listener Feedback and Encouragement

04:17 Understanding Self-Abandonment

06:59 Rediscovering Your Authentic Self

11:13 Challenges of Severing Your Past Self

17:39 Reconnecting with Your True Self

25:26 Self-Sabotage and Loss of Traits

26:11 Impact of Alienation on Emotions

27:46 Disconnecting from the Old Self

35:42 Reintegrating the Old and New Self

38:30 Practical Steps for Reconnection

47:46 Celebrating Small Wins and Consistency

49:33 Final Thoughts on Reincorporating Good Qualities

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