What do you want to be known for?

One thing we want to be known for is this podcast. 300 episodes in, we are committed to offering fresh perspectives and value as healing medicine for our listeners as well as conversations that help to heal the culture of medicine.

When we ask the question, "What do we want to be known for?" it becomes a decision-making filter, a boundary-setting tool, and a compass for alignment—helping us lead with love and live closer to our true selves.

In this episode, we explore:

• How "default identities" form in medicine (often unintentionally)

• The cost of being known for something that no longer, or never fit

• How to use the question "what I want to be known for" as a values-based filter

Pearls of Wisdom

• Default identities form through repetition, people-pleasing, and conditioning—not always conscious choice.

• Naming what you don't want to be known for helps refine what matters.

• Values like authenticity, compassion, and love support intentional leadership.

• There's no urgency for a perfect answer—clarity can emerge slowly.

Reflection Questions

• What are you currently known for?

• Did you choose this, or did it just happen?

• Where does your current identity feel true? Where does it feel heavy or misaligned?

• What's one small step you can take toward being known for what really matters to you?

Resources & Next Steps

• Read Jessie's blog on this same topic: https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/jessies-blog/what-do-you-want-to-be-known-for-1?rq=known%20for

• I fyou want to work on this question, reach out 1:1 coaching or join Jessie for a mindful coaching retreat at Nicasio Creek Farm in 2026.

• Join Jessie and Ni-Cheng for Connect in Nature at Green Gulch Farm and Zen Center (the only retreat we offer together and an opportunity to bring friends, partners, and colleagues of all genders and professions.

• Speaking/Workshops:

• Dr. Mahoney: www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking

• Dr. Liang: www.awakenbreath.org

Disclaimer Nothing shared in the Healing Medicine Podcast is medical advice.

A conversation about living through a "fun filter." What does it looks like to let joy, ease, and alignment guide our decisions instead of obligation, striving, or outdated beliefs?

A special co-released episode with Dr. Melissa Parsons, fellow retired pediatrician, coach, and kindred spirit. Together, we reflect on our own transitions out of pediatrics, how we've redefined success, and the freedom that comes when we allow ourselves to change, grow, and choose what lights us up. We also share honest moments about parenting adult children, reimagining purpose, and how sometimes the most meaningful transformations begin when we stop pushing and start listening. If you've been wondering what gets to be "enough," this episode offers a gentler compass.

In this episode, we explore:

• What a "fun filter" is (and what it isn't)

• Redefining success after leaving a long-held identity

• Why we don't have to earn rest, joy, or white space

• How change can be a sign of being fully alive

• Letting alignment and impact coexist

Pearls of Wisdom

• Choosing what's fun is not frivolous and can be freeing.

• You don't have to earn rest, white space, or joy.

• Change doesn't make you flighty because it means you're alive.

• Fun and impact can coexist.

• "Enough" isn't a milestone; it's a mindset.

Reflection Questions:

What currently feels fun, easy, or light in your life?

Where might you be holding onto old definitions of "success" or "productivity"?

What might open up if you trusted fun as a valid reason to say yes—or no?

Resources & Links:

• Enjoy these Mindful Yoga Classes about Fun

• Playfulness + Connection + Flow = Fun Mindful Yoga with Jessie Mahoney

• Breathe in Fun, Lightness, and Love. Exhale Stress and Anxiety. Mindful Yoga to Explore Ease.

• Coaching: www.jessiemahoneymd.com/coaching

• Retreats: www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats

• Speaking/Workshops: www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking

• Dr. Melissa Parsons: melissaparsonscoaching.com

• Listen to Melissa's podcast, Your Favorite You: www.melissaparsonscoaching.com/podcast

• Melissa Parsons, MD, is a board-certified pediatrician, who practiced in Columbus, Ohio for 22 years, retiring in 2021. She became interested in coaching in 2017, recognizing that she liked her life, but she did not love it, and could not figure out why. Coaching helped her create a life she never dreamed possible. Melissa started her business, Melissa Parsons Coaching, in May 2020, and she has not looked back since, except to help other amazing women learn to love themselves and their lives, too! Melissa hosts a popular podcast called Your Favorite You,. She runs a group coaching program by the same name for small groups of women looking to become their favorite versions of themselves, often by treating themselves as they would a best friend.

Disclaimer: Nothing shared on the Healing Medicine Podcast is medical advice.

We have been taught to wait as a measure of professionalism. We delay rest, joy, and alignment because medicine taught us that patience equals commitment. Many of us are still waiting long after training ends, hoping the system will change. This waiting can feel loyal, responsible, even virtuous. Over time, it quietly costs us our presence, our health, and our lives.

PEARLS OF WISDOM • Waiting is not neutral. It often preserves systems that rely on our overfunctioning and silence. • Many of us are not waiting because it is right, but because we were trained to believe it is required. • The system is not always broken; sometimes it is functioning exactly as designed. • Agency begins when we stop waiting for permission and choose alignment, even in small ways. • Fear often shows up when we stop waiting, and fear does not mean we are wrong.

Reflection Questions: Where in our lives have we normalized waiting that no longer feels aligned? What are we postponing because we believe now is not the right time? What might become possible if we stopped waiting for permission? Who benefits from our waiting, and who bears the cost?

CLOSING INVITATION

This conversation is not about leaving medicine. It is about staying in medicine without disappearing ourselves in the process.

Many of us were trained to endure quietly and trust that relief would come later. What we are exploring instead is the possibility of choosing ourselves now, even gently and imperfectly.

Coaching and retreat spaces are one way we practice this shift together. Not to fix ourselves, but to remember that our lives matter now, not someday. We are allowed to live full lives alongside meaningful work.

If coaching, a retreat, or an intentional pause feels supportive, notice what comes up when you consider not waiting. Often, the only thing standing between us and alignment is the permission we can give ourselves.

Find out about 1:1 coaching with Dr. Jessie Mahoney:

Learn about Jessie's small group coaching programs:

www.jessiemahoneymd.com/group-coaching

Join Jessie at Nicaiso Creek Farm CME Wellness Retreats for Women Physicians

or

Jessie & Ni-Cheng at the COED Connect in Nature Mindfulness Retreat at Green Gulch Farm and Zen Center. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats

*Nothing shared in the Healing Medicine Podcast is medical advice.

Other useful links to explore:

• National Academy of Medicine – Clinician Well-Being https://nam.edu/initiatives/clinician-resilience-and-well-being/

• University of Arizona Integrative Medicine https://integrativemedicine.arizona.edu

In honor of National Women Physicians Day 2026, this episode, Why Women Physicians Overfunction (and How to Start Doing Less Without Guilt) is an invitation to notice overfunctioning with compassion.

Overfunctioning may have helped you succeed in medicine—but it often costs intimacy, energy, and connection.

We explore overfunctioning and underfunctioning as relational dynamics, not personality flaw. When one person consistently does more, the system adapts: others do less, resentment grows, and "holding it all together" becomes a role that feels hard to step out of. We talk about why doing less can be an act of love—creating space for relationships and systems to reorganize—especially when you start by tending to your own nervous system instead of stabilizing everything around you.

If you've been asking, "Why am I always the one who handles it?" this conversation offers a grounded place to begin.

In this episode, we cover

• Why overfunctioning isn't a flaw—it's a role shaped by training, culture, and context

• How overfunctioning/underfunctioning patterns form in relationships and teams

• Resentment as information (often pointing to over-capacity)

• "Doing less" as a path to clarity, growth, and alignment

• Why change begins with your nervous system

Pearls of Wisdom

• Overfunctioning is a relational role developed in response to internal and external expectations.

• When one person consistently does more, others often do less; systems adapt that way over time.

• Resentment is information. It often signals over-capacity.

• Doing less can be an act of love that allows relationships to reorganize.

• When we stop stabilizing what's falling around us and tend to our nervous systems first, change begins.

Reflection Questions

• Where in your life are you doing more than your share simply because you are capable?

• What feels most uncomfortable about stepping back?

• What might happen if you rest or stop managing?

• What would love do this week in your relationships or at work?

Work with Jessie Mahoney

• Coaching + retreats: www.jessiemahoneymd.com

• Speaking: www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking or [email protected]

• Mindful Love Small Group Coaching (intimate relationships)

• Leading from the Heart + Transition Well Small Group Coaching (career/life pivots, leadership)

• Retreats + advanced coaching (moving beyond overfunctioning across your life)

Work with Ni-Cheng Liang

• Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang: www.awakenbreath.com

The Healing Medicine Podcast was formerly known as the Mindful Healers Podcast. Nothing shared on this podcast is medical advice.

Other Healing Medicine Podcast episodes specifically relevant to Women Physicians you may want to explore:

These episodes explore the inner experience of women physicians—without pathologizing it.

• 293. When Feedback Feels Threatening: Nervous System Wisdom for Women Physicians

• 292. When Physicians Stop Believing in Themselves: Burnout, Skepticism, and the Hidden Cost

• 290. The Overs, the Toxics, and Why Awareness Alone Isn't Enough

• 269. You Were Never Meant to Carry It All: Healing the Eldest Daughter Effect

• 259. What Are You Proud Of? A Conversation About Worth, Identity, and Redefining Success

• 154. Move Beyond Imposter Syndrome

These episodes highlight connection, culture shift, and the idea that "you don't have to carry this alone."

• 275. The Power of an Introduction: How Women in Medicine Can Change Lives and Culture Through Connection

• 281. Be Radiantly You: The Antidote to Exhaustion and Judgment

• 263. It's Okay to Have Fun: The Evolution of a Happy Doctor (with Dr. Beni Seballos)

• 262. Standing Tall in Surgery: Finding Fulfillment Outside the Mold (with Dr. Jenny Kang)

• 261. From ER Burnout to Soulful Living: Enia Oaks on Poetry, Pause, and Healing

These episodes give practical frameworks for agency, boundaries, and sustainability.

• 289. How to Take Intentional Action So You Don't Burn Out

• 280. From Powerless to Purposeful: Reclaiming Choice and Agency in Medicine

• 279. Victimhood in Healthcare: Naming the Problem with Empathy and Truth

• 282. The Art of Not Fixing People

• 278. Finding Peace by Letting Go of Fixing, Managing, and Controlling

• 285. Mindfulness + Money: Rewriting Financial Stories for Physicians

• 239. Breaking the Over Helping Habit: Valuing Your Expertise as a Woman Physician

We are not here to pretend this is fine. We are here to help you get steady enough to choose how we respond.

When fear narrows your thinking, you can come back to the body first.

Regulate first. Respond second.

In this conversation, Ni-Cheng and I name the collective fear, grief, exhaustion, moral distress, minority stress, and racial trauma.

These are real, lived experiences that shape safety in our bodies.

When we are activated, our wise brain is harder to access. That is when we send the text, make the decision, or take the action from urgency instead of intention.

This episode offers practical micro-tools that work in real life.

The breath, a longer exhale, box breathing, 4-7-8, orienting to safety by feeling the ground under our feet, and hand to heart are ways to physiologically downshift. Yoga is too.

Read more about this topic in Jessie Mahoney's blog: What would love do when the world feels usnsteady.

https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/jessies-blog/what-would-love-do-when-the-world-feels-unsteady

PEARLS OF WISDOM • A dysregulated nervous system makes urgency feel like truth. Regulation gives us back clarity, choice, and values-based action. • Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn are adaptive responses. We can name our defaults without judging, then choose the next step. • Moral distress, grief, anger, numbness, and exhaustion are normal human responses to instability. Nothing is wrong with you. • Trauma and minority stress live in the body. When safety feels threatened, hypervigilance and shutdown make sense. • We do not have to do everything. We choose a lane of helping that matches our capacity and sustains us over time.

Reflection Questions: When you feel activated, what is your default—urgency, over-functioning, numbness, shutdown, or fawn? What helps you return to the green zone —long exhale, feet on the ground, hand to heart, movement, nature? Which lane of helping feels like desire and alignment, and which lane feels like guilt or over-responsibility? If your future self looks back five years from now, what do you hope you feel proud of in how you showed up?

If we want to practice these tools in community, especially in nature, explore our offerings here:

www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats www.jessiemahoneymd.com/coaching www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking

The Healing Medicine Podcast was formerly known as the Mindful Healers Podcast Nothing shared in the Healing Medicine Podcast is medical advice.

Practicing peace is an intentional choice. It's not something we wait for once circumstances improve. It's something we practice in our breath, our bodies, and our awareness—even while uncertainty and grief remain present.

In this episode, we explore peace as a regulated presence with what is real (not denial, not bypassing). When the world feels overwhelming, we often notice it first in our bodies: urgency, vigilance, reactivity. Nervous system regulation is a skill for sustainable medicine and a sustainable life—and small, consistent embodied practices can interrupt spinning and bring us back to ourselves.

We also talk about why community matters: coaching, yoga, mindfulness, and retreats can offer structure, support, and repetition—so these tools become lived practices.

In this episode, we cover:

• What "practicing peace" actually means (and what it's not)

• How uncertainty shows up in the body

• Simple embodied tools that support regulation

• Why small practices ripple outward into relationships and culture

• How community supports steadiness and agency

Pearls of Wisdom

• Peace begins with you.

• Regulation is a skill for sustainable medicine and life.

• Small, consistent embodied practices interrupt reactivity.

• Internal peace ripples outward into our families, workplaces, and communities.

Reflection Questions

• What does your body need to feel even a little more settled today?

• What is within your control right now, even if it is very small?

• If "peace" doesn't resonate, what word feels supportive right now: peace, kindness, love, connection, or something else?

Practices mentioned

• "Peace Begins With Me" finger-tapping mantra

• Grounding through the feet

• Restorative yoga

• Sound healing

• Mindful time in nature

Links

• Individual + group coaching: www.jessiemahoneymd.com/physician-coaching

• Nicasio Creek Farm retreats: www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreat-nicasio-creek-farm

• July 2026 Connect in Nature Mindfulness Retreats: www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreat-connect-in-nature

Disclaimer Nothing shared on the Healing Medicine Podcast is medical advice.

The Healing Medicine Podcast was formerly known as the Mindful Healers Podcast.

Giving a TEDx talk taught me a lot about nervous system regulation, self-trust, and choosing love over control.

In a medical culture that rewards certainty and discourages vulnerability, visibility is a nervous system challenge. Standing on a red circle requires staying present when every instinct says to hide.

Through the question "What would love do?", this episode offers a grounded framework for decision-making, leadership, and communication that integrates data, values, and human emotion. It is an invitation to choose integrity and presence when outcomes are uncertain and what we carry matters.

PEARLS OF WISDOM

• The questions we ask shape the answers we receive. Fear-based questions rarely lead us where we want to go. • "What would love do?" is not sentimental or self-sacrificing; it is grounded, honest, and committed to doing no harm, including to ourselves. • Physicians are trained to equate control with safety. • Visibility and vulnerability are nervous system challenges, not character flaws, and they can be practiced with intention. • Choosing love often means choosing discomfort in service of what matters most.

Reflection Questions:

Where in your life are you trying to manage or control when a different question might bring clarity? What decisions feel heavy right now, and how might they shift if you asked, "What would love do?" Where are you being invited to tolerate discomfort so something meaningful can grow? How might your work, relationships, or leadership change if you asked what love would do?

CLOSING INVITATION

Giving this TEDx talk deepened my trust in the question that has quietly guided my life and work for years. It reminded me that love stays present even when outcomes are uncertain, and that choosing reach over ease is often part of meaningful contribution.

Please listen to the full TEDx talk here: www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRQwr8-ITBQ

Please share it and spread love-based decision-making far and wide. It is more needed than ever right now. You sharing the talk is the way it will reach those who really need to hear it. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

If you want to learn how to use this tool in your own life, join me for coaching or a retreat. www.jessiemahoneymd.com

*Nothing shared in the Healing Medicine Podcast is medical advice.

Feedback can be a nervous system event—especially for women physicians navigating leadership, visibility, and the pressure to perform.

In this episode, we reflect in real time on what happens in us when criticism lands unexpectedly: the body activation, the urgency to fix or explain, and the shame that can follow. We explore how medical culture and perfectionism shape these patterns, and how we can build the capacity to pause, process, and respond with more compassion and presence.

This is not about "getting it right" in the moment. It's about practicing a different relationship with feedback—one that makes room for our humanity.

Learn more about coaching and small group programs: https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/coaching

*Nothing shared in the Healing Medicine Podcast is medical advice.

Physicians are trained to believe that skepticism keeps us safe and belief is generally risky. Over time, this quietly erodes trust in ourselves and what might be possible. What once felt protective can slowly narrow our lives and choices. Stuckness, disconnection, and a subtle loss of feeling alive grows.

PEARLS OF WISDOM

Medical culture often rewards certainty while sidelining imagination, hope, and belief. • Not believing in ourselves can feel protective, yet it frequently keeps us confined to versions of life that no longer fit. • Belief is not naïve optimism. It is a skill and a gift that can be practiced and borrowed when our own feels unsteady. • Imagining what is possible, even without a clear path, is essential for healing, leadership, and sustainable change. • Practicing belief does not abandon logic or science. It creates the spaciousness and courage to move toward alignment.

Reflection Questions Where have we organized our lives around not believing, perhaps to avoid disappointment? What have we stopped believing in, and what did that belief once offer us? Who has offered us borrowed belief, and how did it feel to receive it? What might it look like to risk a small disappointment in service of something more alive or more true?

If you are ready to gently begin believing again, mindfulness and coaching offer grounded places to start. Slowing down allows us to notice where fear has shaped our choices and where belief may still be quietly present.

Whether you are navigating burnout, transition, or a longing for more meaning and spaciousness, coaching and retreat spaces can support this remembering. They all offer a compassionate, practical way to reconnect with belief and possibility.

Enjoy a yoga class on this topic on Jessie's YouTube channel - Mindful Yoga to Grow Trust and Belief with Dr. Jessie Mahoney

Read more about this topic on Jessie's Blog - The Gift of Belief

The Connect in Nature Retreat is also a meaningful space to rediscover awe, wonder, and belief—in ourselves and in what is possible. Partners and colleagues are encouraged to join. Shared experiences often deepen connection and clarity. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats

If we would like to bring this work into our organizations, Dr. Liang and I both offer speaking and workshop experiences that support belief, healing, and connection in healthcare and beyond. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking www.awakenbreath.org

Nothing shared in the Healing Medicine Podcast is medical advice.

Have you ever considered how a few carefully chosen words could shape your year, your energy, your decisions, and the way you experience life?

In this annual tradition, we share our personal practice of choosing intention words for the year ahead. This isn't about goals or resolutions. It's about choosing how you want to be, move through, and live your life.

This year's process was deeper, slower, and more nuanced than in past years.

Intention words act like a GPS for your nervous system. They offer clarity and direction through challenge, and how the right words if chosen with care can become some of your most transformative tools for personal and professional growth.

Whether you're new to this practice or returning to it, you'll find inspiration, permission, and a deep sense of possibility.

Pearls of Wisdom:

• Intentions are not goals, they're a mindful orientation. They work at the nervous system level to support aligned action and self-compassionate growth.

• Choosing multiple words (including a stretch word) adds richness and dimension. Life is complex, and your words can meet that with grace.

• Words should feel aligned, not performative. Let go of judgment, and choose words that support the version of yourself you're growing into.

• Words are powerful tools for decision-making. Ask yourself: Will this make me feel wealthy, healthy, strategic, or exquisite?

• This practice is most powerful when done with intention, over time, and often with support. It's subtle but profoundly transformative work

Reflection Questions:

• How do you want to feel at the end of next year?

• What do you want to experience emotionally, physically, and in your relationships?

• What version of yourself are you growing into? What does she wear, how does she lead, how does she make decisions?

If you'd like support in choosing your own intention words and integrating them into your year, I offer this process within all of my 1:1 coaching and group programs. This work is gentle, profound, and truly life-changing.

If this episode resonates and you're ready to lead your life, your relationships, or your team more strategically, bravely, and exquisitely—join me in a coaching container or at a retreat. Explore retreats at www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats Learn about coaching at https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/coaching

If you'd like to bring this mindful approach to your team or conference, I'd be honored to speak or lead a workshop. Learn more at www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking For Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang's speaking and workshops, visit www.awakenbreath.org

Nothing shared in the Healing Medicine Podcast is medical advice.