The search for simplicity and slow can be overwhelming. As we looked for where to start the prompting to go inside was reoccurring. In this we start with clearing and cleaning up our mind first. How can we free up our minds, create more mental minimalism to live in the present moment, while still accomplishing our goals and managing our lives day to day? Do you have too many big rocks in your jar? We explore the concept of balance and where we may be confusing balance with perfectionism and bringing awareness to the time we realistically have. Lastly we touch on time, not getting stuck in our thoughts of the past or pushing for the future but how we can live here in this moment.

Related Episodes

Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better

Finding Solitude Through Digital Minimalism

How to Find Slow Simplicity in Your Life

Simplifying Our Lives Through the Beauty of Minimalism with Diane Boden

Books and Links We Mentioned

Essentialism and Effortless // Greg Mcowen

The Artist’s Way // Julia Cameron

Stillness is Key // Ryan Holiday

When the Heart Waits // Sue Monk Kid

Think Like a Monk // Jay Shetty

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In an age when materialism is rampant and we are craving simplicity in our lives, the logic of minimalism offers us a beautiful alternative. In this episode, one of our favorite minimalists and authors, helps us move towards minimalism in our lives by giving us some very applicable concrete tips on where to start making shifts in our lives.

Related Episodes

Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better

Finding Solitude Through Digital Minimalism

How to Find Slow Simplicity in Your Life

Books and Links We Mentioned

Minimalist Moms: Living and Parenting with Simplicity // Diane Boden

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We all have the same 24 hours in a day. And yet, somehow, it often seems like others somehow are doing more, accomplishing more with their time and we are left feeling like failures. We have people who need us, responsibilities to fulfill, and what can seem like an endless to do list that we are never caught up on. This can lead to us chasing after achieving and we end up in a space of burnout and being constantly busy.

In this episode, we hash out how we ourselves struggle with the balance between accomplishment and calm, and the things we have found helpful as we search for the elusive balance.

Related Episodes

Feeling Burned Out? How We Use Healthy Treats to Take Care of Ourselves

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections

Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better

How to: Create Pockets of Peace

Why Your Desires Matter and How to Define Them with Heather Dhauvin

Anxious Depletion / Magic Moment # 1

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Most of us say that happiness is something that we want, and society is all too willing to volunteer a recipe for finding it. If only we had the right size house, in the right neighborhood, with the right job, then we would be happy. In this episode, Jess Klaznick helps us recalculate happiness as she shares her family’s journey to joy. She found that after achieving the recipe that society offered to her for happiness, she was surprised that the happiness promised didn’t automatically follow. She and her husband sold much of their belongings to travel the world with their children, and the insights she gained along the way are both inspiring and helpful.

You can find more about Jess on her website, https://www.recalculatinghappiness.com

Related Episodes

Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better

How to: Create Pockets of Peace

How to Find Slow Simplicity in Your Life

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In a time when we feel like we need to do more and more, it is easy to become overwhelmed. In this episode, we discuss many tips that we have used as an antidote the the issue of constantly being busy we addressed in the last week’s episode. We offer you tools that help us stay present and take time daily to align our actions with our vision for our life.

Related Episodes

Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour

Make Your Morning Routine Happen!

Feeling Burned Out? How We Use Healthy Treats to Take Care of Ourselves

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections

Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better

How to: Create Pockets of Peace

Books and links we mentioned:

Essentialism // Greg McOwen

When the Heart Waits // Sue Monk Kidd

Hands Free Mama // Rachel Stafford

Child Whisperer // Carol Tuttle

Resucceed // James Colburn

Clean Mama Instagram

Live Free Creative

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When we have a child who is misbehaving, it is easy to see him or her as a “problem child”. We don't want to crush our child, but also don't want to be so loose that our child becomes a tyrant. The paradox is that as we see our children for their worth and raise them in their own power we can begin to feel feelings of frustration, that we aren't listened to or disrespected. This can cause us to swing wildly from extreme discipline to lax parenting. We can find ourselves at a loss as to how we can maintain some semblance of order and connection in our homes.

In this episode, Felica explores this dynamic with Joe Newman, author of the incredible book, Raising Lions.  Joe has decades of experience working with children whose behavior is so difficult that they are medicated, sent to other learning facilities, etc.  His work has helped countless children who have been labeled as a lost cause, and has given relief and hope to many parents who are at their wit’s end.

He explains how we can use compassion within structure and firm boundaries as we navigate raising our children by finding the balance between power and connection.

Related Episode

To Raise Strong Children, We Need to Be Strong Parents

Book we mentioned:
Raising Lions // Joe Newman
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Even though it can FEEL like there is one right way to parent in any situation; in our hearts we know that isn't true. We can feel the parenting advice that aligns with our personality. We can see the change in our child when we are acknowledging them for who they are. Parenting is not a one size fits all for us or our kids. 

This week we are distilling concepts from the book The Child Whisperer by Carol Tuttle. Her unique take on recognizing our child's nature guides us to a more true interpretation of their needs and how we can guide them true to their personality, energy and desires! We loved this book so much and think you will too. If you are feeling at odds with one or more of your children and need a reset; this unique way of interacting with your children may be just the thing you need!

Related Episodes

Patience With Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood, and Making Peace With Your Inner Landscape

Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect with Your Child

Books and links we mentioned:

The Child Whisperer // Carol Tuttle

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When most of us think of our experiences with conflict in communication, we feel emotions ranging from mild discomfort to full fledged panic or dread. In this episode,  we explore our approach to conflict with Clair Canfield, a brilliant professor on the subject of communication. He models what he teaches throughout this conversation and he offers us amazing tools to help us improve our relationships by holding space for others and changing our lens about what it means to connect with others. Clair's pillars of communication are nothing short of groundbreaking and have changed our approach forever. 

Here they are:

1. Belief in the capacity to change

2. Belief in self determination (people have the right and ability to choose. Advice giving is counterintuitive)

3. Everyone has dignity

4. Safety- do not cause harm

5. Ethic of care (benevolence)

You can watch Clair’s Tedx talk here, and his website is Canfieldconsulting.net. You can also find him on instagram @collaborativeconflict:)

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Connection is a foundational pillar of our parenting philosophy on Find the Magic along with boundaries, unconditional love and presence; we view connection as the vital, healing salve that can repair wounds and refill our empty buckets. In today's episode, we break down how we can connect with our kids, ourselves, and our spouse.  Filling our own bucket first allows us to connect with others. We offer some of our favorite tips for reconnecting with yourself and specifically how reconnecting with our bodies can remedy feelings of burnout and exhaustion. How gratitude offers us strength through trying times and realizing that we are connected with those who came before us can bring perspective.  We dive deep into the traditional differences in need between males and females and how need for affection can collide with a need for sexual connection.  We wrap up with gentle reminders of how we may be distracted in our parenting and guide you in ways you can find little moments sprinkled in your day where you can take advantage of connecting with your kids (even in discipline!**). 

Books that inspired this episode 

His Needs Her Needs // Willard F Harley Jr 

Elevated Childcare // Janet Lansbury

Our Related Episodes: 

How to Embrace Childhood  

Putting Connection First  

How To Parent Less and Love it More

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Dinner can be the most joyful part of our day but often the preparation and pressure of getting something on the table brings stress instead of enjoyment with our family. If you strive to meal plan, make homemade meals and enjoy dinner time tune in! In 2021 we are focusing on being essential, minimizing the extra energy expenditures that cause us friction and burnout. In this episode we have a wide ranging conversation about many tips that can bring you more joy in meal planning from ways to budget and buy in season to picky eaters and how we can include them in meal planning and prep. We touch on back pocket dinners (meals made from ingredients you already have on hand) like black beans, cheddar cheese and tortillas from the freezer! Or a simple parmesan pasta or tuna melts, this is your fail safe back up plan! As much as we want to meal plan our best intentions can be thwarted by time, expired ingredients or lack of energy. Back pocket dinners are your go to in these moments. We also discuss narrowing down our dinner favorites and add them to our reoccurring dinner list!  Meal planning is a task that brings many of us stress, Claire helps us see that it doesn't need to. We can choose to find joy in meal planning! How we start is how we mean to go on. Let's find our groove together. 

Related Episodes:

HOW TO Eat with Intuition

Cultivating Joyful Eating Habits / Deep Dive into Feeding our Kids

French Kids Eat Everything (and so can YOURS!)

You can find Claire’s books below:

Dinner, Uncomplicated: Fixing a Delicious Meal Every Night of the Week // Claire Tansey

Uncomplicated: Taking the Stress out of Home Cooking

You can also connect with Claire on Instagram @tanseyclaire and on her website

Clairetansey.com

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