Hi, Fam!

Have you ever had thoughts or conversations about natural consequences, logical consequences, punishments, rewards, positive or negative reinforcement, etc., and felt like there was something missing – like there’s a deeper level to it all?  

Today we’re going to dive into these terms and get some clarity on what consequences really are, how we can apply them mindfully, and common pitfalls to avoid.

What I cover in this episode:

• Why you should avoid punitive consequences and positive/negative reinforcement.
• How natural consequences are good, but often aren’t enough.
• Extend yourself grace. You won’t get it right 100% of the time. I don’t always get it right, and neither will you.
• 3 types of consequences you probably haven’t heard of

Show notes:

https://theparentingjunkie.com/8

Learn more:

https://theparentingjunkie.com/empathiclimits

You might have been reasonably happy in your marriage before kids came along – but we all know that going from two to three is a major life change and some marriages don't survive it very well.

It's really hard to go from wife to mom, or husband to dad. Although parenting is hard, many find that it's easier than marriage. And so we get stuck in our parenting role and neglect our marriage role.

You may feel you have more control, influence, and even love for your kids, which can make you feel more and more disconnected from your partner. If any of this sounds familiar, there's hope!

What you'll hear in this episode:

• How just like mainstream parenting advice is no longer working for families today, mainstream marriage advice is failing us. A new approach to relationships is needed.
• How it's possible to have a type of home life dynamic where:
  • We can all become extremely content and even in love with exactly what we have as we have it.
  • We can manage conflict with relative ease and experience high levels of connection and presence with our partners even with very young children.
• How you don't fix or find a soulmate you BECOME a soulmate.
• Peaceful partnering – creating a loving, lasting, sustainable, and synchronized marriage.
• 3 secrets behind the Parent In Love method.

Show notes: theparentingjunkie.com/7

Watch "How Peaceful Parenting RUINED My Marriage and How I Saved It": theparentingjunkie.com/marriage

You might have been reasonably happy in your marriage before kids came along – but we all know that going from two to three is a major life change and some marriages don’t survive it very well.

It’s really hard to go from wife to mom, or husband to dad. Although parenting is hard, many find that it’s easier than marriage. And so we get stuck in our parenting role and neglect our marriage role.

You may feel you have more control, influence, and even love for your kids, which can make you feel more and more disconnected from your partner. If any of this sounds familiar, there’s hope!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• How just like mainstream parenting advice is no longer working for families today, mainstream marriage advice is failing us. A new approach to relationships is needed.
• How it’s possible to have a type of home life dynamic where:
  • We can all become extremely content and even in love with exactly what we have as we have it.
  • We can manage conflict with relative ease and experience high levels of connection and presence with our partners even with very young children.
• How you don’t fix or find a soulmate you BECOME a soulmate.
• Peaceful partnering – creating a loving, lasting, sustainable, and synchronized marriage.
• 3 secrets behind the Parent In Love method.

Show notes: theparentingjunkie.com/7

Watch "How Peaceful Parenting RUINED My Marriage and How I Saved It": theparentingjunkie.com/marriage

It doesn't take two to tango.

Do you ever feel frustrated, disconnected, or misaligned with your spouse or partner? Does it seem like the spark and passion you once had is gone?

Have you ever thought that maybe your relationship has run its course, and it's time to go separate ways?

If so, I've got good news for you! There is hope for you, AND change is possible, even if you have to work on it without your partner.

Free Masterclass: "How Peaceful Parenting RUINED My Marriage...and How I Saved It." theparentingjunkie.com/marriage

In this episode, I interview Meredith. Things we discussed:

• How she felt overwhelmed by the demands of life, the unrealistic expectations of society for partners and parents.
• She was so tired of how everyone paints this [phony] picture of what life is supposed to look like, and how it can make us all feel like we're missing the mark.
• How Meredith and her partner were on the verge of splitting up.
• Not completely miserable, and they had their up moments, but there were a lot of down moments, and it was wearing on them.
• She knew that something needed to change. She was tired of trying to figure it out on her own by reading articles, asking friends for advice (who often ended up reinforcing the negativity), etc.
• They were having the same fights over and over.
• • Budgeting and money.
  • Misaligning over approaches to parenting.
  • Arguments over where they should live.
• How as partners, we're supposed to fill each other up, not deplete each other.
• Remember you have choices (own your own choices). Just because you feel it doesn't make it true. You can always choose how you respond. Don't let your emotions rule you. You can take a break, clear your head, and come back with a fresh perspective.
• Stop saying yes to everything. Prioritize your time. It's ok to say no and spend more time with your family. Give yourself permission to say no, to have some downtime, to just be.
• Instead of shoving everything down, putting on the game face, dig in and investigate when you're feeling angry or stressed.
• Outsource/delegate to give you more time.
• Crystal clear communication (learn to really listen and not take what your spouse is saying personally).
• Think about what kind of memories you want your children to have of you, of their childhood. (what helped her decide to go through the course).
• Investing in the course is a no brainer. We all want our children to grow up to be amazing adults, and feel connected to us.
• The course not only helps you learn how to improve your relationship with your partner, but also helps you deal with other people.
• It doesn't take both parents. Change is possible even if only one partner is working on it.

Links & Resources

Show Notes: theparentingjunkie.com/6

Free Masterclass: "How Peaceful Parenting RUINED My Marriage...and How I Saved It." theparentingjunkie.com/marriage

It doesn't take two to tango.

Do you ever feel frustrated, disconnected, or misaligned with your spouse or partner? Does it seem like the spark and passion you once had is gone?

Have you ever thought that maybe your relationship has run its course, and it’s time to go separate ways?

If so, I've got good news for you! There is hope for you, AND change is possible, even if you have to work on it without your partner.

Free Masterclass: “How Peaceful Parenting RUINED My Marriage...and How I Saved It.” theparentingjunkie.com/marriage

In this episode, I interview Meredith. Things we discussed:

• How she felt overwhelmed by the demands of life, the unrealistic expectations of society for partners and parents.
• She was so tired of how everyone paints this [phony] picture of what life is supposed to look like, and how it can make us all feel like we’re missing the mark.
• How Meredith and her partner were on the verge of splitting up.
• Not completely miserable, and they had their up moments, but there were a lot of down moments, and it was wearing on them.
• She knew that something needed to change. She was tired of trying to figure it out on her own by reading articles, asking friends for advice (who often ended up reinforcing the negativity), etc.
• They were having the same fights over and over.
• • Budgeting and money.
  • Misaligning over approaches to parenting.
  • Arguments over where they should live.
• How as partners, we’re supposed to fill each other up, not deplete each other.
• Remember you have choices (own your own choices). Just because you feel it doesn’t make it true. You can always choose how you respond. Don’t let your emotions rule you. You can take a break, clear your head, and come back with a fresh perspective.
• Stop saying yes to everything. Prioritize your time. It’s ok to say no and spend more time with your family. Give yourself permission to say no, to have some downtime, to just be.
• Instead of shoving everything down, putting on the game face, dig in and investigate when you’re feeling angry or stressed.
• Outsource/delegate to give you more time.
• Crystal clear communication (learn to really listen and not take what your spouse is saying personally).
• Think about what kind of memories you want your children to have of you, of their childhood. (what helped her decide to go through the course).
• Investing in the course is a no brainer. We all want our children to grow up to be amazing adults, and feel connected to us.
• The course not only helps you learn how to improve your relationship with your partner, but also helps you deal with other people.
• It doesn’t take both parents. Change is possible even if only one partner is working on it. 

Links & Resources

Show Notes: theparentingjunkie.com/6

Free Masterclass: “How Peaceful Parenting RUINED My Marriage...and How I Saved It.” theparentingjunkie.com/marriage

Deal with distractions, enjoy them while they're young and bring peace and calm to your mind.

In this episode I'm going to give you actionable ways to bring more presence into your life so that you can experience regret -free living, enjoy your children (even while they're young) and feel satisfied that you're living life to the fullest.

Here's the best part: It takes less than a minute a day.

In this episode you'll hear:

● What presence is (and isn't).

● How you're not the only one who's constantly feeling distracted. We all are!

● Why you shouldn't wait for the "perfect circumstances" to be present, avoiding the "I'll be present when..." trap.

● Why this is crucial for everyone (even if you think you're already present or think it's not for you).

● How to parent a child who grows up thinking "my parent connected with me and was there for me."

● The 5 simple ways you can pull yourself into any moment and be present.

Links & Resources:

● Show notes: theparentingjunkie.com/5

● The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware

● Sponsorship: theparentingjunkie.com/design

● Parent in Love Course: theparentingjunkie.com/parentinlove

● Facebook Community: theparentingjunkie.com/loveparenting ●

Deal with distractions, enjoy them while they're young and bring peace and calm to your mind.

In this episode I’m going to give you actionable ways to bring more presence into your life so that you can experience regret -free living, enjoy your children (even while they’re young) and feel satisfied that you’re living life to the fullest.

Here’s the best part: It takes less than a minute a day.

In this episode you’ll hear:

● What presence is (and isn’t).

● How you’re not the only one who’s constantly feeling distracted. We all are!

● Why you shouldn’t wait for the “perfect circumstances” to be present, avoiding the “I’ll be present when...” trap.

● Why this is crucial for everyone (even if you think you’re already present or think it’s not for you).

● How to parent a child who grows up thinking “my parent connected with me and was there for me.”

● The 5 simple ways you can pull yourself into any moment and be present.

Links & Resources:

● Show notes: theparentingjunkie.com/5

● The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware

● Sponsorship: theparentingjunkie.com/design

● Parent in Love Course: theparentingjunkie.com/parentinlove

● Facebook Community: theparentingjunkie.com/loveparenting
●

Show notes: theparentingjunkie.com/4

Show notes: theparentingjunkie.com/4

• Show Notes: theparentingjunkie.com/3
• Sponsorship: theparentingjunkie.com/tantrums
• Empathic Limits Course: theparentingjunkie.com/empathiclimits/