Highly Sensitive, Happily Married

108   If you’re a classic highly sensitive woman, you love a good deep conversation. But you may find you have less of them than you want to with your significant other. 

Today I will help you change that, so you can have more of that intimate connection –via conversation–that you love. 

In this episode I share one simple– but powerful –key to engaging your partner in meaningful conversations more regularly, a whole bunch of diving off points, and the preconditions necessary to have them succeed. You will also learn what it takes to invite your (reluctant) partner to be more of a frequent conversationalist himself.

Although deep meaningful conversations are not the only way to bring more closeness and connection into your marriage, they are a rich way to create it. Listen in!

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107  If you’ve ever experienced the wonky hormones of PMS or perimenopause, you know they can impact how you feel and act with your loved ones–especially your significant other.  And if you’re highly sensitive, the effect of these hormonal times can be extra hard.

If, at certain times of month, you feel more irritable, snippy, and averse to your husband, if you tend to have more arguments, or feel more easily hurt or don’t feel attractive or attracted to you husband, you’re not alone. Many of my clients have shared with me how their relationship is negatively impacted by their hormones, too.

So I brought on a special guest, Functional Nutritionist, Christine Maccarroll, to help you understand what’s going on with your hormones and how you can bring them back into more balance so you can feel better, restore your mood, and have an easier time in your relationship all month long.

Join us as we laugh, empathize, and wonder at the female human physiology, nutrition’s effect on us, and the interrelationship between our personal wellbeing and our marriages well-being. 

She gives us simple but highly effective steps we can take to gain back our mood and energy for a better life and marriage through and beyond perimenopause. 

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106  Feel resentful towards your partner sometimes?

Find it hard to let go of his small or large wrongdoings –or things he’s done in the past?

If so, you’re holding onto grievance–and it’s like a poison that’s eating away at you and your emotional well being, and preventing true happiness in your long-term relationship. 

So long as grievance and resentment are a regular part of your experience in your relationship, you will NOT be able to have teh love and connection you really want.

In this episode, I dive into:

• Why grievance is such a problem, and how much it costs us in our marriages
• What keeps us stuck in it
• How to tell if you are holding onto grievance
• Why it’s not just a problem in your marriage, but a planetary problem– one you can be part of the solution for. 
• What you can do about it to free yourself from it’s toxicity,
• My 5 step process that will help you open your marriage back up to the loving intimacy you truly want. 

Listen in now to begin overcoming this huge barrier to the marriage you want–and the WORLD you want.

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105 The ESSENCE of what it takes to have a good–even amazing –marriage is not complex– it's actually very simple. So in this episode, I boil down EVERYTHING I teach my clients to do–and everything I have done to make my marriage the amazing loving thriving one it is– into the 3 things you must do to have the same. Just 3! 

Because I want you to see how simple it really is. 

That said, DOING them may not be “easy”. Which is why, in this episode, I also point you to other resources that help you learn how to DO these in easy, digestible, do-able steps. 

Tune in to learn:

• The 3 simple things you must be able to do to have a great marriage–the WHAT you need to do to make your marriage loving, supportive, affectionate and fun
• How to determine which of the 3 areas YOU personally would benefit most from focusing on first 
• A deeper overview of the 3 things, what happens when you aren't good at them, and why they are so key to a great marriage.
• HOW to learn each of these 3 things (what will make doing the 3 things so much easier) beyond this podcast, so you can reap the huge rewards of your marriage becoming the way more loving, connected, light-hearted one you want it to be.

Listen in. You will come away with a clarity that has likely been missing up until now, and a clear direction to move in to make your marriage better, and better… and better!

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Take the QUIZ to find out which of the 3 areas to focus on first: What's Your Best Next Step To Improve Your Marriage?

CHECK OUT THE COURSES MENTIONED: 

• Stop Taking It So Personally 
• Closer To Your Husband in 7 Days

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104   Being honest and authentic with your partner is important to intimacy–but being  transparent, authentic and open (TAO) with yourself is even more important if you want to  have a relationship you feel great in!

I want this to be the year your marriage changes for the better forever.

So let’s start it off on the right foot: with a TAO process that helps you take a clear-eyed look at yourself in your relationship over the past year, and helps you decide how and if you want to adjust anything on your side of the street this year--so you can be set up for the most success you've ever had at making your marriage the best it can be this year.

Because a marriage that grows in peace, fun, connection, loving team-ship and intimacy can’t happen if you aren't willing to look at yourself: how you act, the choices you make, the ways you interact –and most especially– the ways you THINK. 

If you want to have any sway over your experience in love and the way your marriage goes…you must be able and willing SEE your mind.

In this episode I dive into why and exactly how to do this, along with a process to get the ball rolling right now.

Grab your pen and perk your ears–because this is the beginning of the most influence you’ve ever had over how happy, living and fulfilling your marriage is.

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103  Ready to start the New Year off on the most love-empowering foot, for REAL positive change in your marriage?
 
The most powerful way to do that (actually the only way to do that) is by taking super-responsibility for all you can in your marriage–in particular the pain or unhappiness you are experiencing.

Doesn’t sound like fun? I’ve heard that before from other sensitive people. And it’s the reason so many people don't take responsibility–and therefore lose out majorly on having the kind of loving fulfilling marriage they want.

That doesn't have to be you.

In this episode I share how taking responsibility for your experience in your relationship can be the most EMPOWERING experience— instead of it feeling crappy! In fact, you can make this key to great love FUN. 

Dive in to hear: 

• My definition of self-responsibility and what it means to be 100% self-responsible
• How, if you live without it,  it will cost you love, connection, happiness, fulfillment, laughter, joy and passion in your relationship.
• why it’s like winning the lasting-love-lottery once you learn to really do it, giving you way more power than you ever knew you had to make your marriage the best it can be. 
• The totally avoidable mistake people make that leads to it feeling bad
• What the people who are good at it have that others don’t (you can develop this!)
• How to make it feel empowering, fun and totally rewarding, so you can GROW the love, connection, happiness, fulfillment, laughter, joy and passion in your relationship.

Honestly, I can’t believe I didn't make this episode for you sooner! It’s one not to miss-–giving you the biggest foundational key to breaking through to long-term happiness in love.  

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102   Ever felt that stinging (or punch-in-the-gut) feeling when your partner says or does something hurtful? Or maybe it’s something he doesn't do that leads to you feeling like he just doesn’t care. Like you don’t matter. Like you aren’t loved.

For highly sensitive women, this is oh-so-common.

It may very well be true that your partner could be more skillful in his interactions with you. At the same time, so much of the hurt you feel in these moments comes from  taking things personally.

Which you can put an end to NOW.

And you want to. Because taking things personally doesn't  just hurt–it costs us big time in our intimate relationships, leading to all sorts of AVOIDABLE pain and diminishment of affection and connection.

The good news is you can learn to not take things so personally. And it will free you up to have way more of the support, connection and loving intimacy you want with your partner. Listen in as I share how.

I used to take all sorts of things personally, and it hurt me and my marriage. I spent years learning how to put an end to that unnecessary pain, and replace it with the closeness, ease and love I want between my husband and I. I want that for you to.

In this episode, I dive into 3 big keys to stop taking things so personally so you can feel less hurt and more love everyday of your life.

And don't miss the announcement about the new course to make your habit of taking things personally a thing of the past for you.

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101  If you want more connection, love, and joy between you and your partner, but you're often disappointed, frustrated, resentful or irritated with your significant other, you're definitely going to want to listen to this episode.

We are diving into what has been researched to be the #1 thing happy couples do to keep their marriage fulfilling, connected, and strong for life: Making regular gestures of connection, as I call them.  But there is something overlooked in the research that will make or break whether these gestures of connection work successfully in YOUR marriage.

All too often these gestures of connection don’t make the impact they could. Because they just won't work if you are emotionally not truly open to connection–and the truth is, so many of us aren’t a lot of the time–and don't know how to get back to that place where you are able to both offer and receive these gestures of connection.

But you can change that, and therefore tap into the power of these gestures of connection to make your marriage one that deepens in love, intimacy–and all things good–over time.

So today I share:

• What these gestures of connection look like
• How they benefit you and your marriage
• How just doing them superficially can actually backfire
• What the common obstacles are that keep you from being able to harness the marriage enhancing power of these gestures of connection
• what you really need to make this key actually have the positive impact on your marriage they are touted to.
• Ways to shift back into the emotional states that make these gestures so successful for so many couples.

In fact, what I share here isn’t just the key to making these gestures of connection work for your marriage's success, but it’s key to the success of ALL the expert communication and connection building strategies.

In other words, nothing will make your marriage the loving one you want as deeply, powerfully, and quickly as developing the skills of guiding yourself out of emotional states that are closed to connection, and into ones that grow connection, as I share here today.  So dive in!

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It’s episode 100!!! And we are celebrating with a special conversation with my very own husband about what it takes for you, as a sensitive person, and your partner to have a marriage you LOVE for the long-haul.

He and I dive into a few of our keys to keeping our marriage “real-enchanted” (fun, passionate, and loving despite being real–and flawed– humans living real, messy lives.) We cover:

• How we have a marriage we both feel so good in–and yet, we still experience real human relationship difficulties at times. But we let those times bring us closer together, instead of further apart–and how you can do this, too. 
• How we went through a hard phase this summer and what we learned from it together and individually–that is so relevant for all HSP couples.
• How we choose to focus on what we love about each other more than what we don’t like so much–and how you can do this, too.
• How, throughout our marriage, we have continued to keep alive a sense of excitement and eagerness about our future together–and how you can do this, too.

Join us for this light-hearted but serious conversation with a real-life couple who truly loves the marriage they have created! You’ll laugh and go aha right along with us.

If you missed episode 25, Interview With My Husband: Growing An Amazing Marriage With An HSP give that a listen, too. 

To help me CELEBRATE this 100th episode, if you’ve been enjoying this podcast, please leave a review on apple podcasts. Thank you so much and cheers!

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099  If you’re an HSP and your partner doesn't understand what High sensitivity is and how it impacts you and your relationship, it can make things between you harder.

You’ve been listening and learning all about sensitivity and having a great marriage as a Highly Sensitive Person. But you still feel your partner doesn't understand you or your sensitivity sometimes. I made this episode to change that: it’s for your partner to listen to, if they are willing. Or even better: listen together.

 When BOTH of you are educated about high sensitivity it will make a big difference in your relationship.

This episode will help him learn about the trait, how it affects you and things in your relationship, and how he can not just understand you better, but also support you and work WITH your sensitivity to make your marriage one of the best ones possible!

Listen in as we cover the research-based facts about the trait, how it affects you and your marriage, and what HE can do to ensure more love, connection, understanding, and happiness in your relationship.

If you’re having a hard time convincing him to listen, I give you some tips to help in the first few minutes of the podcast. And if he still won’t–I’ve got tips for you, too. 

There’s lots to gain from this golden episode for your marriage. 

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