Highly Sensitive, Happily Married

020  This is the first of a 3-episode series that will help you start experiencing your man as a great partner, and have you feeling more affection and connection in your marriage.

You want to love the person you’ve chosen to spend your life with. You want to love your relationship.

But that may not actually be your experience much of the time. Instead, you feel hardened towards your partner. Unhappy with him. Maybe even mad at him a lot.

This is, unfortunately, super common. Especially when we are seeing so many things that he’s doing --or isn’t doing--that make us mad, that hurt and bother us...so many things he could be doing so much better.

For moments or even weeks, our partner can start to feel like, well, kind of the bad guy. 

Nobody wants to be married to the bad guy. Luckily, you can start to change that today-- even if he doesn’t change today.

Join me in this episode as we take a step in a much better direction and start opening the doorway for you to experience way more understanding and connection with your husband, and ultimately have a deep love and true affection.


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#019  For highly sensitive people, who can tend towards perfectionism and getting overwhelmed easily, the idea of doing the work to improve your marriage can feel daunting and like just too much. 

Especially if you are recognizing that you have some work on your end of things and feel you’re not doing things “right”, or you're feeling a bit discouraged that things aren't changing as fast as you'd like, even with all the efforts you've been putting in.

Thinking this way will always slow us down or even stop us from making changes. Ultimately it keeps us from the happiness we want in love.

Luckily, the truth is actually very different. Making huge improvements in your marriage does NOT need to be an overwhelming undertaking. It’s not nearly so hard as you may have thought.

Listen in as I tell you how it’s actually done and the way to think about it that will make it feel EASY and totally doable to start making difference right now in your marriage.

In this episode, I offer you some words of big encouragement and leave you feeling hopeful and ready to start ( or keep!) putting one foot in front of the other --the only way to actually change things and bring the love you want into your marriage.


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# 018   When my client Lauren first came to me, she felt anxious about her relationship and all the hard emotions and conflict that was coming up. She was waiting for “the other shoe to drop”, and in need of lots of reassurance from her partner that she was loved and things were going to be alright. It was not a dynamic that led to security and feeling close to the man she loved.

These days things couldn’t be better. She’s done a total 180-degree shift in how she handles conflict--one she didn’t even think was possible. Her relationship feels not only safe and deeply loving but like an arena in which both she and her partner are supported to follow their big dreams and passions in the world. 

Listen to Lauren share:

• How she’s come to be able to calmly deal with her big feelings and feel safe with all of them.
• What she’s learned to be able to handle conflict in a way that leads to solving problems and feeling MORE love and connection than ever.
• Specific things she’s done and perspective shifts she’s made--and you can too- that have changed everything. 
• How she is “harnessing” the power of her sensitivity to benefit her life and relationship (instead of letting it make it more challenging as she used to)
• How she learned to experience the validation and love she was looking for and has come to feel cherished.
• How her efforts have rippled out and up-leveled other prime aspects of her life, and how she now feels she--and all HSPs-- can make a powerful impact on the world around us.
  
  

Lauren truly embodies the best of an HSP when we learn to honor our sensitivity and grow our relationship skills.

Listen in to see the immense power one woman has when she decides to change her relationship to make it deeply loving, safe, fun and connected. 

Come laugh, cry, and feel how much is possible for you in your marriage, too.

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#017   What we sensitive people believe about our marriages, partner, and the things that go on between us deeply impact our relationship. 

In this episode, I share 10 beliefs that will truly improve your marriage in the best of ways (and what things will be like if you don't believe them--you may be able to identify yourself here).

These beliefs have made all the difference in my own marriage and my clients, too. I selected them knowing specifically which key beliefs we highly sensitive women tend to be weak in, and which ways of thinking help us and our relationships most. 

Once you adopt these beliefs --even a little bit more ---you will:

• have a much easier time with conflict
• feel so much more secure and stable in your relationship
• free yourself up to enjoy your partner so much more
• feel more respected
• give yourself permission to do more of what you want to do in your life
• make a bigger difference in the world
• and feel better about your marriage --and yourself--than you ever have.
  
  

You’ll also begin to learn how to intentionally develop beliefs that really serve your marriage and bring you way more happiness in love and life.

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016    If you feel any form of emotional suffering in your relationship--like discouragement, resentment, disappointment, hurt, annoyance, anger you don’t have to just live with it.

Making your marriage a place that feels like a nourishing, joyful, safe space to come home to, instead of a cluttered, stressful, constricting  or lonely place, starts with being willing to look at what’s REALLY going on under the surface inside of your own self. 

Without peering into the dark recesses of our minds, cluttered, as they are, with a bunch of assumptions, expectations, biases, fears, and unquestioned ideas about how a relationship should be ( we ALL got ‘em!), we won’t ever be able to make real lasting improvements in our marriages. 

But, you may never have been taught how to SEE what’s really there. 

No more! Join me in this episode to:

• Explore a few basics of self-coaching to start experiencing the huge influence you have over your feelings and your marriage.
• Learn a 4 step process to discover the source of your hard feelings and unfulfilling and difficult interactions with your partner. 
• Begin clearing these internal obstacles to love out of your life and marriage, and own the power you have to feel like you and your man are a loving team facing the world together.

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Notes:
This episode builds on Episode 6, 13,  and 14. If you have not listened to them yet, I highly recommend doing so first.
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015   Today I bring you a fresh perspective on love --one that will allow you to feel so much more love in your marriage.

We love love. Unless we have some misconceptions about it, which many people do. I know I used to, and it actually made it so I experienced LESS love than I was able to. A whole lot less.

I used to think if my husband did things I didn’t like, and I still felt lots of love for him, he’d get away with things he shouldn’t.

But this way of thinking made me miss out on feeling love. And on getting more of it in return.

If you don’t understand love as it is and where it comes from, you may very well be depriving yourself of a huge amount of it. 

Listen in to this episode to understand what I mean. Because love is an essential nutrient. I want you to have lots of it! Having tons of love in your relationship and life is your birthright. This episode will open the doorway to it.

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014   You may have caught on already, but let’s bring this into sharp focus: You shape your emotional experiences SO deeply. 

This is the best news EVER. Because it means you have so much more power over how you feel in your relationship--and how the relationship goes-- than you've ever known. It’s time to learn to access this power--what I call Emotional Agency.

In this episode, you’ll delve deeper into what you’ve learned in earlier episodes and hear many concrete examples that will help you see exactly where your feelings come from (likely not where you’ve always assumed they come from) so you can:

• develop a whole new, way more empowered relationship with your emotions. 
• start to soften, influence, and guide your emotions, regardless of outside circumstances
• Start to feel way less disappointment, resentment, frustration and upset, and WAY MORE ease, love, lightness, and closeness, so you can naturally make your marriage how you want it to be.
  
  

It all starts by being truly open to understanding the real source of your feelings, so dig in.   

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013  Today I have a powerful tool for you that you can start applying right away to limit a lot of the unnecessary pain and negative emotion that may be going on for you, so you can and start to have so much more influence over your experience in your relationship. It’s a go-to tool I use regularly in my own marriage.

Your brain is a meaning-making-machine. It creates meaning automatically. This means you are already influencing your own emotions majorly...although likely unconsciously and in a way that makes your relationship harder and more painful. 

Why not, instead, learn how to do it on purpose and in a way that brings you more connection, understanding and depth? How? Become the steward of that meaning-making brain of yours.

Once you become adept with this tool, it will also be very powerful in actual conversation with your partner, as a way to share what’s upsetting or not working for you in your relationship really effectively.

It helps avoid getting a defensive reaction and creating unnecessary conflict and, instead, makes it way easier for your partner to really hear you.  It even lets him “in” more, so he can really know you more deeply, leading to more understanding, respect, and closeness between you. 

Curious about this tool yet? Dig in to learn.

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012  Because you live in our world, HSP or not, you are making this mistake--at least to some degree some of the time, unless you’ve done deep work around it already. 

Though it seems all innocent and well-intentioned on the surface, it’s a mistake that leads to way more heartache and strife than necessary...that’s why it’s so sneaky. 

Listen in to this episode to hear personal stories and tips to help you to stop this dangerous cultural conditioning mistake from making your marriage harder. 

Learn the 3 powerful replacement perspectives I offer that are KEY, once you really adopt them, to actually having the fulfilling, loving, supportive marriage you want with your husband. And a way better life overall.

This foundational episode will also set you up with the big picture perspective you need to make best use of the next wave of love and relationship improving tools I’ll be offering in upcoming episodes, so dig in!

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#011 If you’re cranky, snappy, frazzled or overwhelmed a lot…

Or you’re feeling numb, down, or aren't able to connect to love or warmth or affection...

If you don’t have much interest in being around or touching your partner…

...You may be in what I call a Mind-Body-Heart-Slump (MBHS).

Clearly, having a thriving marriage (or life) is out of reach when we are in a MBHS. Unfortunately, many of us HSPs are in one chronically!

 Being prone to MBHS’s is at the very heart of relationship problems for HSPs, so understanding why this happens and how to address it is essential if you want a connected, secure, joyful marriage.

In this episode, I share where Mind Body Heart Slumps come from (some of this may surprise you) and why getting out of one may be easier than you think--BECAUSE you are Highly Sensitive!

I offer 10 + things you can do to get and stay out of the clutches of an MBHS and back to feeling calm and centered. 

Which will gain you access to the most deeply wonderful, deeply powerful parts of the HSP trait--along with more laughter, more lightness, more pleasurable sex, so you can feel so much better IN your self and ABOUT yourself-- and your relationship. 

Apply what I share here to lay the ESSENTIAL foundation for the ease, love,  and connection you want.

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