Highly Sensitive, Happily Married

If you are a normal HSP, you feel irritated and annoyed at your significant other sometimes. Maybe a lot of sometimes…And likely more so in these times, love in the time of corona….with perhaps your only social outlet being your partner!

Even in normal times….there are many reasons for this. Especially for the sensitive soul. 

But feeling annoyed a lot is an all too common struggle and makes a pretty negative impact on your relationship. Because who wants to feel annoyed at the person you ultimately want to be experiencing the most LOVE with, right? 

Though we may not be able to fully escape an occasional bout of irritation, we can make it a lot easier on ourselves, and on our relationship! 

In this episode, I dive into some reasons why we HSPs often feel annoyed and irritated and give you some solutions you can apply right away to make it less of an issue and to prevent it all together at times. 

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My highly sensitive client, Jade, was having a very rough time with her man, taking things personally, feeling angry at him much of the time along with a lot of blame and resentment. And he was not being very proactive about improving things. She wasn’t sure the relationship could work. 

Luckily, she listened to her inkling that maybe she could shift the tides by making some changes herself. 

After coming to me and diving into taking responsibility for what she could, things are SO much better. 

Their relationship is light and laughter-filled, he surprises her with romantic gestures she had always craved,  they feel so much closeness and love, and when hard things do come up, tension melts away so easily. 

She’s feeling so proud of herself for having transformed things in such big ways and confident that their relationship is just getting better every day. 

In this interview, she shares what the biggest keys for her were to create such amazing shifts. 

Don’t miss this real life success story that will bring you hope and inspiration, along with some concrete take-aways, so you, too, can sway the tides of your marriage for the incredibly better.

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#008   You didn’t get married to just tolerate your relationship. You signed up for something way better than that. You want to truly enjoy your marriage.

But sometimes “working” on your marriage can feel like another tiring chore--one that you’re all alone in. If you’ve ever felt that way, or asked yourself,  “Why do I have to be the one to put effort into this relationship?”, you likely aren't seeing much success or positive change from your efforts. 

If that’s the case, it’s because you’re using the wrong emotional fuel (or you may have just run out of gas entirely!). 

Trying to create brighter love from a sense of burden and resentment will never work. 

Motivation? Tenacity? Applying what you’ve been told could work? Not gonna happen --at least not effectively.

You CAN have the deeply loving relationship you want. 

But you need access to the right fuel to be truly powerful and effective .

In this episode, I share the key to gaining access to the emotional fuel you need to position yourself optimally to make your marriage what you want it to be. 

I share how I provide myself the essential fuel to continually  improve my marriage every single day--- with joy, passion, and feeling like it’s a sacred honor that I GET to do. 

Like my clients and me, you, too, can fall in love with doing the sometimes uncomfortable yet deeply joyful rewarding work of creating real change in your marriage. It can even be FUN.

Get inspired and set yourself up for the biggest best change in your marriage this upcoming year by listening in and applying what I offer here.

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#007   If you’ve ever felt like your man doesn’t love you enough, or you long for a kind of connection with him that feels ever-elusive, this episode will help you really understand that it is not because of who you are. It’s not that he doesn’t love you. Actually, it’s not even about you.

Not understanding your partner’s inner world is no surprise--he’s likely quiet or mum about it. But once you do begin to understand what’s really going on for him, and you see it’s not personal, it will open the doorway for you to experience way more connection and love between you.

Join men’s coach, Casey Desharnais, and I in this extra special episode as we take a deep dive into:

• what’s really going on for men
• what most men are not articulating to us, or even to themselves. 
•  why it is so often that we women don’t feel our husband’s are able to go deep in connection
• why open honest communication can be hard
• why men get aloof or shut down, or can be so quick to get defensive
• why making them feel they need to be different or get things “right” completely backfires and takes you further from the true closeness you want.
• And what we can do about all this to help bring more of a deep sense of safety and closeness into your relationship together.
  
  

This episode offers you some serious gems of insight and will be a huge “AHA!” for so many of you.

You’ll walk away with a tender heart, a sense of being on the same team, and significant insight into how to help the healing take place between and within both of you that will not just make your marriage a deeply loving connected one, but will help our whole human species begin to heal into more loving respectful, compassionate beings.  

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#006 If you often --or even just occasionally-- feel feelings of frustration, anger, resentment, or hurt in your relationship,  or conflict is common, this episode is key for you.

In it, you will develop an essential understanding of where so much of the upset, hardship, and pain comes from in your marriage,  and how to start loosening its grip. 

As humans, whether highly sensitive or not,  we all come into this world having inherited a “set of equipment”--which can feel like a wild creature living inside of us. Though not a problem in and of itself, it can make things really hard --if we don’t understand it. 

We can use this genetic inheritance--our "two brains"-- for or against us in love. How we relate to and work with them makes ALL the difference in our marriages. 

To understand this in a basic way is to not only have more compassion for the way you are "wired",  but to start stepping into your capacity to steer your marriage where you want it to go, instead of feeling like you are at the mercy of your own, and your significant others, negative feelings and behaviors. 

Your capacity for having ever-deepening love in your life begins with understanding this. 
What I share in this foundational episode is often the starting point for the deep work my clients do. Now you can get a start on it yourself!

So listen to this episode and really take in these teachings to start to harness the power you have to make your marriage the easier and loving one you want it to be.

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#005   If you want to start having more positive interactions, more love, closeness, laughter, and joy in your marriage, this is a must-listen episode. 

It lays the foundation for improving your marriage and introduces  4 main ways you can initiate the change process, along with specific examples and ideas to shift the tides of your marriage towards more love, ease, and understanding. 

Whether you are aware of it or not, you are leading your relationship in one direction or another. It’s time to lead it towards the love you want. And you, as a Highly Sensitive Person, are the perfect person to do so. 

This episode gives you the fuel you need to start what I call a “Positive Snowball effect” in your marriage.

Because the best news is that you naturally have the power right NOW to set it in motion to make your marriage what you want it to be--yes, even without your significant other's direct participation. 

Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you will be all alone in this! Listen in to hear what I mean and to start seeing way more of the love you want begin to emerge in your marriage. It can truly feel so fun, empowering, and like a bit of magic --but it's just what happens when you get intentional in love!

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 #004  The power is in YOU to shift the course of your marriage. It starts with developing agency over your feelings.

Because how YOU feel has the power to bring you closer with your significant other or push you further apart. 

You want to feel connected and supported. But instead, maybe you are experiencing lots of heavy emotions. You:

• feel alone or not fully cared for, 
• feel annoyed or uninterested in being around him a lot of the time, 
• feel resentful because you are pulling more weight, 
• or even feel guilty for some way you are acting.

This is the kind of thing I hear all the time. . It’s normal----AND painful. Not what you were hoping for in love. And NOT what you need to settle for.

Much of this comes from looking solely towards your significant other for happiness and care. If the only way you know how to get the sensitivity you want (care, understanding, affection) is from your husband doing things in a certain way, power struggles and dissatisfaction will become the norm.

The good news is YOU have a powerful influence over your own feelings! It starts with being sensitive to your own self.

In this episode, I go into depth on this and share a practical method to help you be more empowered around your own feelings (a personal go-to favorite), so you can get more of the sensitivity you are longing for, and start shifting the dynamic in your marriage to an easier more loving one.

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#003   To have thriving relationships we need to deeply accept and value ourselves.

Too many of us Highly Sensitive People don’t value our sensitivity, and instead, feel like something’s wrong with us because of it.

This hurts our love lives and marriages unnecessarily. Because, actually, so much is RIGHT with us.

Especially when it comes to love and relationships. Because sensitivity is exactly what we need MORE of in our relationships. And you, HSP,  were born with a huge dose of it.

You are cut out to have the best marriage possible.

When we sensitives aren't at the effect of the more challenging aspects of sensitivity, the love-enhancing aspects of our trait come out naturally.

So we can use our sensitivity to improve our marriage in big ways.

It all starts with valuing our sensitivity more--ourselves. 

This means we need to understand the GREAT parts of sensitivity.

Listen in to this episode to hear 10 of the ways your sensitivity is an ASSET when it comes to long term love relationships!

You will naturally start appreciating yourself more as you do. And that will have a ripple effect that will begin to change your marriage in amazing ways.

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Want to know the very best starting place to focus on to improve your unique marriage? TAKE THE NEW 2 MINUTE QUIZ, "I Want A More Loving Connected Marriage. Where Do I Start?"

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#002   Understanding your sensitivity changes everything for the better.

So, are you a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)? Do you understand sensitivity and how it affects your love life? This episode will clarify all that for you!

If you’re anything less than truly happy in your marriage, it’s likely in part due to simply not understanding if and how your sensitivity is affecting things. 

Many of us sensitive people may not even know we are HSP’s until things get tough in our marriages!! Because the most challenging parts of the trait tend to become most apparent in our long-term love relationships.

I’ve seen personally how ignoring or not knowing fully understanding sensitivity leads directly to marriages failing. I don’t want this to happen to you. And you don’t have to let it. 

The key to not only keeping your marriage from slowly crumbling, but to making it amazing, lies in understanding how your sensitivity affects you in your marriage. 

Because understanding it is the first step to be able to address it. 

In this episode, I share a bit of my own story, including the challenges it brought and how understanding the unique challenges of sensitivity completely revolutionized my love life… 

Listen in as dive into 10+ of the specific ways it may be negatively impacting your marriage-- so you can get your sensitivity to start working FOR you and bring more love, ease, and connection into your marriage and all your relationships! 

SHOW NOTES

Link to check out:

Does This Sound Like You? 31 Ways Being Sensitive Can Affect Your Love Life   

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#001   In this inaugural episode, learn how you are not alone as a sensitive person if it feels like things are harder than they should be in your marriage.

Why? Love doesn’t always come as naturally as we were taught it would--to ALL of us. On top of that, we Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) have unique challenges (and strengths) that tend to affect our relationships. 

But this never means you should resign you to settling for a less-than-happy marriage. In fact, you have it in you to have an amazing marriage, where love, connection,  and joy deepens, instead of fades, over time. 

Even if:

• You’ve been called too sensitive, 
• You’ve "failed" at love many times before, 
• You think you just aren't cut out love, 
• Your partner is falling short in so many ways,
• You spouse feels he needs to walk on eggshells around you, 
• You’re considering separation, 
• You’re irritable, resentful, easily hurt, 
• Or you just aren't able to access much love these days...

...You can still feel deeply good about yourself and so secure in the love in your marriage.

It starts with UNLEARNING a few major myths we've all learned that keep us in unhealthy patterns of interacting with our significant other.  And LEARNING a few key things about sensitivity and love.

Dive into this here to get set up for making the changes you want in your marriage. This episode will leave you feeling relieved, understood, and truly encouraged about the future of your marriage.

SHOW NOTES:
Want to know the very best starting place to focus on to improve your unique marriage? TAKE THE NEW 2 MINUTE QUIZ, "I Want A More Loving Connected Marriage. Where Do I Start?"

Grab The free 7 Most Powerful Phrases To Deepen Connection In Your Marriage HERE

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