When I talk to clients, I often run into resistance when I bring up establishing boundaries because they want to stay open and available to anything that comes their way.

Good boundaries are key for any relationship's success and can be very supportive if approached without guilt or shame.

Today, I want to show you how you can keep an eye on your capacity for other people while still being compassionate. By being more intentional about what you say yes to, you are able to control your energy and emotions.

Setting up boundaries can teach others how you want to be treated, creating a healthier connection between you.

Tune in and let's think about how we can approach boundaries in a compassionate and intentional way to make our relationships as supportive as possible.

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This week is very heartfelt for me because I have been reflecting on the last 13 years of doing this show. I have learned so much in interviewing and working with clients over the years and it has been an incredible experience.

As we reflect on our lives and what makes us happy, we should always remember that we are worthy and have the capability to do something about it.

Today, I'm sharing my reflections and 13 small bits of knowledge that I have learned while making the podcast from intrinsic value to learning how to be more compassionate.

By learning to be more compassionate and thoughtful, you can become your own best friend and support yourself through whatever changes come along.

Join me as we celebrate 13 years of empowerment and lessons about bringing change into your life, one episode at a time!

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Our words have a lot of meaning and can be very telling about how we want to present ourselves. When we don't want to cause an uproar, we try to soften the blow of what we are saying.

By removing something as simple as the word just from our vocabulary, we can own the space we deserve and stop feeling bad about needing things from others.

On today's show, we're talking about adjusting our words so we can be clearer and make ourselves heard without feeling like we're imposing on others.

When we are clear about what we want, we can be empowered to share our ideas and find the success we deserve.

Listen in and learn what little changes you can make in the way you think that can have major impacts on the way you live.

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When you come back from a life-changing experience, like travel or a coaching class, it can be a struggle to readjust to your old lifestyle and relationships when they seem out of touch with that experience. Finding the balance between your new and old self can be tricky, as you want to keep the lessons while maintaining your relationships.

By allowing ourselves grace for what might be a rocky transition, we can use this process to become more balanced, all while integrating lessons learned and being true to ourself.

On this week's episode, I'm talking about the process of adapting back to your life after learning something outside of your routine. Pulling partially from recent experience, I want to share how you can incorporate lessons without alienating those around you.

It is so crucial to feel your emotions and to use the white space' to get what you need in the re-entry process.

Join me as we make space for ourselves and think about how we can bring our loved ones along in our process of continual growth.

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As humans, most of us tend to have limitations on what we think we are capable of doing, all grounded in the old stories we tell ourselves about our self-worth and how things should be. These beliefs can really shut down the creative part of our lives.

One of the most empowering and exciting things you can do is allowing yourself to dream about things that might not happen.

Today, we are talking about the importance of letting yourself dream beyond those old beliefs and how believing in yourself can lead to things you never could picture yourself doing.

If you allow yourself to dream without attaching your self-worth to those dreams coming true, you'll unlock the potential that you've been limiting for years.

Listen in to find out how you can start to imagine all the incredible possibilities in your life and keep yourself open to a world of opportunities!

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Hiro Boga is a business strategist, teacher, adviser and mentor. In this conversation from 2016 we discuss love.

The real basis of all transformation is love. Once you see the love at the core of something, transformation can begin.

People often search and search outside of themselves for love and unconditional love. However, love is inside all of us. 

When you connect with that part of yourself you can experience a wholeness that can't be found when searching for it on the outside.

What does love feel like when you strip it of everything that is not itself? Listen in to participate in an exercise that Hiro does with her clients to help them find the love within themselves.

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Sometimes we think that learning how to manage our mindset will miraculously eliminate all of the bad thoughts and we will suddenly be in the Promised Land. But that simply isn't how it works.

By managing our mindset, we can acknowledge thoughts for what they are and not attach value to them.

When we see if thoughts are true or not, we can start to understand the underlying reasons why we might be thinking that way. By understanding those reasons, you can figure out what it is you need.

Reframing how you approach less than enjoyable thoughts can add so much positivity and joy to your life and relationships.

Listen in and learn how to let the thoughts flow through you instead of controlling your happiness.

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All of our journeys are marked with struggles. We see limitations for ourselves and hear little voices that say things like I am not qualified, I am a fraud.  

Instead of letting these voices and limitations stop us, we can embrace the struggle and move forward.

Listen in to hear the story of how a girl from Chico, CA and a difficult childhood built an incredible career and life for herself.

Nancy Duarte is a survivor of a traumatic childhood who has shown great resilience and has built a large Silicon Valley design firm, Duarte Inc.

She joined me in 2014 to talk about how she created what was possible for her despite a difficult beginning and evidence that could have stopped her. 

We also discuss the mindset that can give you the courage to move forward, embrace the struggle, and believe in yourself.

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Humans are hard-wired to create and tell stories; it's how we see and make sense of the world. However, not every story is productive.

It is important to ask, What do I tell myself? and How do I share my life story?

It takes a lot of work to understand where these beliefs come from, but it is so important to do. When we recognize the unconscious stories we have about ourselves, we can choose to reframe them to become intentional statements of purpose.

Stories can go from being defeatist and limiting to empowering by simply changing how we look at them.

Listen in and let's talk about how we can reimagine and repurpose these stories to make us more empowered and better role models.

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Our mothers are the foundations of our lives. Our relationships with them are complicated. 

All sorts of feelings emerge when we think of our mothers. Love, anger, appreciation, gratitude, shame are a handful of the feelings that can be connected to these relationships.

Lisa Erspamer joined me in 2015 to talk about our mothers. She has written A Letter to My Mom and is the creator of the A Letter to My… series. Lisa is also the president of Unleashed Media, a multimedia production company. Prior to heading out on her own, Lisa served as the chief creative officer of OWN and the co-executive producer at The Oprah Winfrey Show.

This woman knows how to share stories.

The stories in her book A Letter to My Mom span all sorts of experiences and emotions of mother/child relationships. As I said during the interview, it's not just the Brady Bunch version.

When we think about our own stories, we can do it in a couple of steps. First, own your story. Then, you can decide who has earned the right to hear your story.

Listen in as Lisa and I talk about owning your story, the power of letter writing, the vulnerability of sharing your story, and the difference that a letter can make.

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