How to Become a New Person

12.11.2023 - By Rick Hanson, Ph.D., Forrest Hanson Play

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We’re getting toward the end of the year, and it’s a great opportunity to evaluate where we are and where we’d like to go. On today's episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how we can step out of the way we've been, and into a new way of thinking, doing, and being.

They talk about self-concept, unconscious beliefs, and how those beliefs affect our behavior. Forrest then shares a model of what this kind of change tends to look like practically, which usually includes relax our attachment to the things that are holding us back. Other topics include getting down to "the tip of the root," taking a step back from our narratives, challenging limiting beliefs, taking life less personally, working with discouragement, and finding motivation and drive.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:30: Self-concept, how unconscious beliefs affect behavior, and freedom

5:40: Appraisals and attributions

9:35: The way we spin our self-narrative, and holding onto grievances

14:25: Being honest with ourselves when we feel stuck

19:30: Changing behavior before changing thinking

25:15: Values and behaviors

29:05: Underlying fears and practical confusion

33:50: Taking your experiences less personally

36:05: Finding the motivation to get our hands dirty

41:30: Negativity bias and appreciative inquiry

47:45: First steps when you’re feeling discouraged

56:55: Recap

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