How to Become Self-Confident

10.16.2023 - By Rick Hanson, Ph.D., Forrest Hanson Play

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In today’s episode Forrest and Dr. Rick explore how we can improve our self-confidence, allowing us to become more psychologically flexible and create healthy boundaries with other people. They explain why becoming better at something doesn’t always make us more confident, the two paths of gaining confidence and releasing insecurity, and how we can release insecurity over time. They then talk about the differences between confidence and narcissism, dealing with other people when they try to put us down, and how we can develop an authentic sense of self-worth.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:15: Separating confidence and capability

8:10: Releasing insecurity vs. gaining confidence

13:25: Sources of insecurity, celebrating others’ vision, and tapping into universal currents

20:30: Redefining what a win looks like, and surrendering to the best in ourselves

26:30: Finding people who believe in you, taking action, and not knowing

31:20: Our core beliefs, why they are rational, and how to update them

34:35: Self-worth, and confidence in your own innate goodness

38:55: The difference between self-confidence and narcissism

44:00: Facing the fear of what will happen if you are confident

52:00: When being poorly received is about others and not you

54:45: Recap

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