Hey friend! Do you find yourself still reeling from the extraordinary changes we’ve experienced over the past two years in one way or another? (My hand is raised over here for sure!)

Today, I’m bringing back one of my favorite episodes from 2022 - the amazing  Shauna Niequist ! I brought this conversation back from the archives because I don’t know about you, friend, but this book and Shauna’s message still feel relevant to what’s going on around me right now. I hope you also find value in listening to this one once again with me.

In this episode, Shauna and I take a deep dive into how pain can make us tender, demand less of the world, and show us the good even in the face of what has been lost. We also talk about how seasons of significant loss can act as catalysts to significant transformation in our lives.

Our pain doesn’t define us; what we do with it does. You truly don’t want to miss this one, my friend!

Shauna Niequist is the New York Times bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and her latest book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet. She is married to Aaron, and they live in New York City with their sons, Henry and Mac. 

Listen in to hear all about:

• The concept of finding your next self.

Favorite quotes:

~~If you feel overwhelmed by the mess that your life has become, don't try to go through that alone. 

~~I need to not listen to the voices that are telling me who to be, I need to get quiet enough to listen to the voice deep inside of me to see what she has to say. 

~~We don't change when we are feeding ourselves a steady diet of shame and abuse. We change when we anchor ourselves in love and self-esteem - That’s what gives us the courage to make changes.

~~I want to walk through life not dragging around these resentments, grudges and complaints. I want to live with a sense of freedom, with a lot of space inside myself,  inside my heart for possibility for the present and the future instead of feeling like I am dragging my past behind me like an anchor.

~~I want to maintain the capacity to be easily delighted. I want to be a person for whom joy comes easily and frustration is harder to come by.

~~Pain can tenderize you and can make you demand less of the world and can show you what’s good even in the face of what’s been lost.

In this episode I answered this question:

1. Do you have quotes that you frame for inspiration? (41:13)

Links to great things we discussed: 

Shauna Niequist - Website

Shauna Niequist - Instagram

Soy Yo - Song 

The Crown - TV Series 

Below Deck - TV Series 

Tick Tick Boom - Movie 

Wordle

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xo,

Alli