Join laura for a conversation about how we make ease and how we erode ease in our personal relationships. Plus, we'll look at some common culprits (personal responsibility, thoughts, and feelings) that can create generate an unhealthy sense of urgency and chip away at ease. That and much more!

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Purpose can be a guiding light. It can also be a dark shadow. But we rarely talk about the latter. We explore that conversation in this episode.

We can value freedom. We can treat it as an outcome. Or. And: we can train in making it our way of BEing.

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Read My Grandmother's Hands, by Resma Menakem.

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No part of you is bad. And also: some of your bits likely create harm in the world. Find out why, how, and what to do about it.

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😮 Since we all judge other people, let's be sure we understand the whats, whys, and hows of it. Especially the hows that connect us to oppressive ways of being in the world so that we can operate – and judge – with more critical consciousness, more compassion, and less harm.

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Reflection Questions:

1. How do/have you used the word selfish against other people?
2. How has the word selfish been used against you?
3. How do/have you used the word selfish against yourself?
4. How do you want to (re)define selfish?

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laura tackles a listener question from episode 82: "How can you personally tell the difference between feeling an emotion and inflaming an emotion?"

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High expectations can be helpful -- and they can create harm. For ourselves, and for others. How do we know the difference? What can be done to mitigate the harm? All in today's episode.

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Let's talk about the importance of feeling emotional pain and "negative" emotion in both our lives and in the work of justice. In this episode, you'll learn ways to feel sh*tty -- better.

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If you'd like to work with laura 1:1 to build a radical practice of feeling all your feelings and rehumanizing the world around you, you can do that here.

Join host laura as we dig into the whats, whys, and hows of aliveness. What prevents us from being and feeling alive? What helps us be and feel alive?

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Questions from the episode for reflection:

1. What does aliveness mean to you?
2. What do you need to be more alive in and for your own life?
3. What would you like the point of your life to be -- today?
4. Where are you distracted from being alive right now?
5. What about life are you missing out on because you believe you should be happy?
6. Name three times you felt alive. How did you know you were alive in those moments? What do those moments teach you about your own experience of aliveness?

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