Messages related to sexual shame are ingrained from a young age and they affect how we feel about our bodies, how we interact with sexual partners and how we experience sexual pleasure. This week, we discuss a range of approaches to relinquishing sexual shame. Consent educator, survivor-turned-thriver and founder of CONSENTParenting, Rosalia Rivera joins Jess and Brandon to share her story and insights. They discuss:

Rosalia’s personal path to recovery after assault

Pleasure as a route to relinquishing sexual shame

How partners can support survivors when they disclose past trauma/abuse

The importance of your inner compass in recognizing sources of shame

Prompt questions to help you examine shame-based beliefs including:

What messages did you receive about sex from your parents?

What did your parents tell you about sex with their words?

What did your parents tell you about sex with their actions?

How did your parents react to sexual depictions on TV?

What messages did you receive about sex from your peers?

What messages did you receive about sex from your teachers?

What messages did you receive about sex from media sources?

What messages did you receive about sex from your religion?

Am I okay with these belief systems?

What do I want to do differently for myself?

What do I want to do differently for my kids?

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How to Overcome Sexual Shame

00:00:05 - 00:06:26

You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight Welcome to the sex with Dr. Just podcast I'm your co host Brandon. Where here with my lovely other? Half Dr Jess how are you? I'm pretty good. I'm happy sunshine in ready to talk about a rather serious topic very serious sexual shame and childhood sexual abuse and just the General Topic of relinquishing sexual. Shame and as usual. I'll put you on the spot. Would you say you were raised with shame around sexuality? I wouldn't say that there was shame but there was certainly a lot of communication around sexuality as I. I remember learning about sex in anatomy in junior school from a bunch of my friends who had like a dictionary with a naked man and woman was like what. How do you think you are probably around? Eight seven or eight. And then. From that point onwards there wasn't really much said in my household probably because of discomfort. Either that or just don't remember anything from when I was a kid and then when I was in high school my parents said and I'm not faulting them because of their own perhaps Discomfort maybe or maybe once again I don't remember just don't come home with the kid. There wasn't really talk about a lot of discussion about sex and sexuality sort of like my parents said. Do not bring a dog home. Yeah so human. Don't you dare bring a dog home. Does the Chinese side the Jamaican side and my Dad's side He. He's not so comfortable with animals. But that's so broad to don't come home with a child because there is no directive of how you might come home with a child o...