How to Set Boundaries with Dr. Alison Cook

Hey friend! Have you ever struggled to tell the difference between making sure your needs are met and being selfish? Is there a difference? Lean in – today’s conversation is for you!  As we continue to talk about Remaining You While Raising Them and the secret art of confident motherhood, I couldn’t miss the chance to bring you a replay of a conversation I got to have last fall with a friend who is a pro on boundaries and showing up to your life with the best of yourself. You’ll discover how to set boundaries with care and compassion.  My friend Dr. Alison Cook is a Boston-based psychologist and author of two books, Boundaries for Your Soul and The Best of You.  She is a wife and mom to two adult children, and she specializes in bringing faith and psychology together for real change in people’s lives.  Join Alison and I for this conversation as we talk about:  How to find the healthy middle between never thinking of ourselves and only thinking of ourselves  Some commonly used (and misunderstood!) Scriptures that keep women playing small  Signs to look for when women give up on parts of themselves (and how to find our way back)  What it costs our loved ones when we shrink ourselves  Why noticing and naming struggles we see in ourselves is so essential to becoming whole Favorite quotes: “You can trust God and still feel anxious, overwhelmed, lonely, and broken inside.” “When I hide myself, make myself invisible, or play like a doormat it is not only bad for me, I’m not bringing the best of who I am to the people I love.” “When I’m really being my true self , when I’m aligned with myself, I’m empowering  other people which is what helps them heal and become who they really need to be.” “We are worth so much more than numbing through all the various ways we can check out. God wants so much more for us.” “When women are healthy we change the world.” Coaching this week:  What is the biggest mistake people make when starting a new project?  (41:41) Links to great things we discussed:  Alison Cook Website Alison Cook Instagram Alison Cook Facebook Boundaries for Your Soul The Best of You Easy on Me - Adele Abbott Elementary Armchair Expert Podcast Smartless Podcast Being Known Podcast The Ragamuffin Gospel Ruthless Trust Mattress Pads for Camping The Bear Christ Be In My Heart - Sam McCabe & Kristene DiMarco Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli https://www.alliworthington.com