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How to Set Boundaries with Dr. Alison Cook


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Hey friend! Have you ever struggled to tell the difference between making sure your needs are met and being selfish? Is there a difference? Lean in – today’s conversation is for you! 

As we continue to talk about Remaining You While Raising Them and the secret art of confident motherhood, I couldn’t miss the chance to bring you a replay of a conversation I got to have last fall with a friend who is a pro on boundaries and showing up to your life with the best of yourself. You’ll discover how to set boundaries with care and compassion. 

My friend Dr. Alison Cook is a Boston-based psychologist and author of two books, Boundaries for Your Soul and The Best of You.  She is a wife and mom to two adult children, and she specializes in bringing faith and psychology together for real change in people’s lives. 

Join Alison and I for this conversation as we talk about: 

  • How to find the healthy middle between never thinking of ourselves and only thinking of ourselves 

  • Some commonly used (and misunderstood!) Scriptures that keep women playing small 

  • Signs to look for when women give up on parts of themselves (and how to find our way back) 

  • What it costs our loved ones when we shrink ourselves 

  • Why noticing and naming struggles we see in ourselves is so essential to becoming whole

  • Favorite quotes:

    • “You can trust God and still feel anxious, overwhelmed, lonely, and broken inside.”
  • “When I hide myself, make myself invisible, or play like a doormat it is not only bad for me, I’m not bringing the best of who I am to the people I love.”
  • “When I’m really being my true self , when I’m aligned with myself, I’m empowering  other people which is what helps them heal and become who they really need to be.”
  • “We are worth so much more than numbing through all the various ways we can check out. God wants so much more for us.”
  • “When women are healthy we change the world.”
  • Coaching this week: 

    1. What is the biggest mistake people make when starting a new project?  (41:41)

    Links to great things we discussed: 

    • Alison Cook Website

  • Alison Cook Instagram

  • Alison Cook Facebook

  • Boundaries for Your Soul

  • The Best of You

  • Easy on Me - Adele

  • Abbott Elementary

  • Armchair Expert Podcast

  • Smartless Podcast

  • Being Known Podcast

  • The Ragamuffin Gospel

  • Ruthless Trust

  • Mattress Pads for Camping

  • The Bear

  • Christ Be In My Heart - Sam McCabe & Kristene DiMarco

  • Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

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    xo,

    Alli

    https://www.alliworthington.com

     

     

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