Ever "trapped" a man? Ug! What a joke that turns out to be, right? We are talking thirst traps, nice girl moves, being the cool girl and playing hard to get, all ways we unconsciously (or consciously) try to TRAP men! In episode 5 of this season, Elly and V (now known as Velly) talk about all the things they used to think they needed to do to “get” and “trap” a man!  

The gals get side tracked from the topic right from the get go (classic #Velly) as V shares a little secret about what is to come as the next stage of her relationship… Spoiler, he likes it, so he’s planning to put a…. Then they start off talking about how humans tend to distort information, and how we get to intentionally remove those distorted lenses we may be viewing our partners from. 

Back to the topic at hand, the gals invite us all to compassionately admit the lies we used to believe, or the ways we perhaps even consciously manipulate men, to attract them, intrigue them and keep them. Tons of behaviours are explored, like having sex too soon, not showing your true feelings, being the “fun girl” "party girl" and “cool girl”, playing hard to get, shape shifting like a chameleon, over giving, being competitive with your partner, acting “like a dude” and even being fiercely independent. Relatable, right?

The episode also includes a little side bar: did you know Elly is celebrity enough to have her whole dating profile listed online? The ladies have a quick look at that and laugh at what the internet believes! 

Also, HUGE news, Elly met somebody!? She teases us with just a feather of details. The rest is for next week’s episode! 

Instead of what NOT to do, the gals also include what you get to do, including: saying what you want, being fully expressed, being playful, experiencing pleasure, enjoying life out loud and living full of wonder, 

Velly also ask YOU, “What are the ways YOU used to be; the things you thought you needed to do to attract a man?” #whatIthoughtamanwantedmetobe 

The Relationship Helpline brings the question: “How do I trust men again after hurt from my past?” and “How do I now let go of control in my current relationship?” An invitation to deeply feel the pain and heaviness of your past and have it witnessed, to then allow you to move forward. This brings up the intricacies of letting go- letting go of the past and letting go of control- to let yourself live in love.

This one is for every woman who wants to unlearn “the game” or have a laugh at who she used to be. So strap in, enjoy a dose of weekly Velly laughs (see what we did there?) and start Reclaiming Love for yourself!?

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