I Am Perfectly Frank

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Frankie, Cheri and Rachel were recording this excerpt from Chapter 5 for Frankie's audiobook version of "The Man, He's Stupid, And The Girl, She's So Bitch" about having to tell men what to do and how to do it otherwise they won't do it. Cheri explained that her husband will step up when asked, Rachel got frustrated because she feels like her husband says he will do a household chore but then days pass sometimes and she ends up doing it herself because she is tired of waiting. Frankie explains you have to be specific and give them a time frame to get the chore done. Cheri was explaining that if she doesn't ask her husband to do the dishes then he won't do them so ask and be specific about when you want it done. It sparked an ongoing issue with Rachel and her husband and kids regarding house work. Rachel rushes through eating dinner and starts cleaning up and doing dishes because she just wants her day to be done otherwise there is always another thing to do because nobody else helps UNLESS she asks and then it MIGHT get done at some point, maybe. Frankie explains just simply ask but be specific about how and when you would like it done. Frankie imitates her mother saying "because they are stupid and they can't figure out nothing unless you tell them." Cheri goes on to say in the book: It was so fascinating. Then I had to look at myself to say, “why does it mean less to me somehow if I have to ask him—if I have to tell him what I need?” There's a part of me that wants him to just think like I do and make that leap.
We end the podcast with this quote from Frankie: And it won’t become a habit for him either. He did it 30 days in a row, he wouldn't do it the 31st day.

In this episode, Frankie brings in a special guest, Fatin, who is also a Life Coach at MuscleCare Inc. If you want to book a coaching session with either Frankie or Fatin please go to www.iamperfectlyfrank.com for more info.
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Frankie starts this episode with a quote from Jim Morrison sent to her from a friend: “People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they’re afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they’re wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It’s all in how you carry it. That’s what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.”
Fatin explains that oftentimes when she is experiencing pain she acts like things are okay because she doesn’t want to burden other people but suggests reaching out to someone because getting it out of our heads and talking it out relieves us. Frankie says her issue in life is opening her mouth and putting her foot into it. She often feels the pain of her own insecurities and has to have a conversation with herself to understand she is "Perfectly Frank" and she needs to feel comfortable with who she is. Frankie often calls Fatin for advice about her kids. People need other people, sometimes just to talk about the pain points in their lives. From Fatin’s experience, she suggests getting to the root of what the problem is and if you get to the root it will often take care of the problem. Fatin explains “fear stops you from everything and makes you feel alone and not good enough to do the things that you have desires in yourself to do. A lot of us are not living our full lives because of fear.”Frankie explains “love is freedom but also faith in knowing everything is going to be fine…if you are worried then you are not in love, you are in fear.”Fatin explains despite sometimes needing to open up and talk to others about an issue, she tries to sit by herself first to see what answers she comes to from within. Just asking the question “Why am I afraid?” changes something from within and often we get our own answers.Frankie goes on to describe negative mind chatter and how we need to reframe the messages we give to ourselves. Mind chatter is devastating when you are blaming and finding fault with yourself and we also need to learn how to be okay with ourselves and rise up despite the negative thoughts. Fatin’s advice is to use the gifts YOU have been given and not compare yourself to others. What do you need to make YOURSELF happy? Don’t waste your time trying to be someone else, often they aren’t who you think they are anyway. Frankie says we need to stop getting in the way of other people’s happiness by trying to get them to meet our expectations. Everyone is trying to figure out “how to do this thing called life” and we need to stop controlling others including our kids.

This episode is part of an organic conversation that started when Frankie, Cheri and Rachel were recording Chapter 4 of Frankie's book "The Man, He's Stupid, And The Girl, She's So Bitch: Relationship Wisdom from My Chaldean Mother." In this portion Cheri was explaining it's okay when it comes to gifts to just tell your spouse what you want to take the pressure off of each other. Frankie explains she has friends or the jeweler make suggestions to her husband regarding what gifts she wants. Rachel's conundrum is her husband doesn't like holidays and has treated gifts like an afterthought sometimes because he has often felt like whatever he HAS given was not good enough in Rachel's eyes. Engineer Johnnie explains it's the pressure that is too much and he'd rather know what his wife wants. Frankie says Rachel needs to change the tone when she explains her expectations for gifts from her husband. Cheri says just have an honest conversation without judgement about how you each feel to make it easier for everyone.

In this episode we extracted audio that came organically from a conversation while Frankie, Cheri and Rachel were recording Chapter 3 of Frankie's book "The Man, He's Stupid, And The Girl, She's So Bitch: Relationship Wisdom from My Chaldean Mother." Rachel read this portion of the book: "We carry over some of our behaviors from our family of origin into our relationships as well. For me and my family, I’m okay calling me out like, “Mom, don’t yell.” You know, “Mom, calm down.” I'm okay with that." Rachel then asked Frankie to expand the topic a bit with the question "Is it okay to tell my kids 'You control my reaction'?" and a whole discussion was sparked about controlling our reactions with our kids and spouses. Frankie gives great advice on how to speak to your kids and spouses by not putting them down or speaking to them in anger. When we yell it doesn't feel good to our kids or spouse but it doesn't feel good to US either! "Our job is to show our kids how to do this thing called life," Frankie explained. Cheri went on to say we can walk away when we are angry at our kids or spouse because it gives us a minute to calm down and rethink how to approach the situation. Frankie suggests we find a new path besides always telling our kids "no" when they are growing up because we are saying it in fear and should be letting them explore.

In Episode 5 Frankie George-McCullough tells us about her life, her background, her mother and what inspired her to write her premiere book "The Man, He's Stupid, And The Girl, She's So Bitch: Relationship Advice From My Chaldean Mother." In this episode Frankie explains how her mother inspired her to learn more about the man so she could survive being a wife. Frankie also remembers her brother who passed away and how the event changed everyone's lives in her family. Frankie is an Intuitive Healer and has followed this path of healing pain patterns for over 40 years. In this episode we get closer to Frankie than ever before and discover just why she is always "Perfectly Frank." The book is available on Amazon. To book a session with Frankie please go to www.iamperfectlyfrank.com

In Episode 4: Communication Is Key, Frankie and Rachel discuss how men and women communicate differently. Men generally think in a linear fashion and women generally think about many things all at once all of the time. They tackle the question about how to be a supportive friend when you feel like your friend is making bad decisions. Frankie explains that depsite our frustrations with others we need to see how we can change our behavior instead of repeating old negative patterns where we are finding fault in ourselves and others.

In Episode 3: The Awakening, Frankie and Rachel discuss how many people are experiencing a great awakening right now. They are realizing that they want to live in love and not in fear but are unsure of how to move forward. 
Frankie explains "As we awaken to this knowledge within us and pay attention and act upon it and exist in pure love, we are making that manifestation greater...and more people are awakening."
Frankie goes on to say people who feel like they are going through a series of unfortaunte events have to have faith that it is clearing out the negative energy so you can be on the path in which you choose to manifest.
As humans we are conditioned to suffer but as people awaken and discover the power that lives inside of them they realize they are meant to live in love and joy.

In Episode 2: Be Careful What You Ask For, Frankie and Rachel discuss what it means to "manifest" and how to create the life you want. Frankie explains we have created everything that has happened to us in our lives, even the bad stuff. Be mindful of what you ask for, but, more importantly, have faith and BELIEVE you are the creator of your own reality.
To manifest, to create something you want to have happen in your life, begin with CLARITY, be clear on what you want. Frankie also explains to have pride in what you are creating for yourself, especially if there are people in your life that don't understand or have a negative reaction to your dreams. 
Frankie tells us to write down what your desires are in order to get clear on what you are manifesting. She also explains you need to be in the right frequency when you are creating to get you in alignment with your desires. 
At 23:00 Frankie walks through an example of how she would help a client manifest the man of her dreams by imagining the relationship and FEELING what it feels like to be in the relationship you want. Feeling is important in the process of manifesting because the Universe responds to that feeling energy.

In Episode 1: Understanding Ourselves, Frankie and Rachel discuss understanding spirituality and the energy shift taking place which has caused so many people to want to understand themselves more. They discuss the difference of living in love vs. fear and putting yourself first. They also discuss listening to your intuition, your inner voice, and being okay with yourself. The God within you wants you to be happy, not suffer like many have been conditioned to think.
Frankie points out "We need each other, we forgot that." She goes on to explain that community is important and we need to watch our language and the way we speak to each other and to ourselves, words have power and energy and we need to change the negative mind chatter.
They also discuss how to deal with toxic people who are often times a reflection of what we don't like about ourselves. Frankie explains if each individual can take responsibility for the role they played in a situation they can change the way they handle it next time because you have the power to change the way you communicate with others.
Frankie cries when she explains how we need each other but most times we are leaving each other behind because we get stuck in familiar behavior. She goes on to explain how to put yourself first and change the negative mind chatter.
Meditation, prayer and showing gratitude are great ways to help change the mind chatter. At the end of the episode they do a short meditation to help those that need an introduction to the practice.