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Dating at 30 as a Christian comes with its own set of challenges, especially when abstinence, desire, and faith collide.

In this episode, I open up about breaking a three-year abstinence pact, the lessons I learned from dating again, and why knowing your values matters more than chemistry. This is an honest, vulnerable conversation about sexuality, faith, alignment, and learning to trust yourself again.

CHAPTERS / TIMESTAMPS

0:00 Dating Again at 30 & Breaking Abstinence

1:00 Why I’m Sharing This Story

2:00 My Dating History & Patterns

4:30 2020, Self-Worth & Slowing Down

7:00 My Spiritual Shift in 2022

8:30 Lust, Sexuality & Being Honest as a Woman

11:30 Why Abstinence Wasn’t Just Religious

14:00 Sex, Biology & Healthy Sexual Mindsets

16:00 Dating Again as a Christian Woman

17:30 Hormones, Ovulation & Real Struggles

18:30 Meeting Him & Immediate Chemistry

20:00 Values vs. Boundaries Explained

21:30 Why Misalignment Always Shows Up

23:00 Shame, Grace & Running Back to God

25:00 Lesson #1: Your Values Are Everything

27:30 Actions vs. Words

29:00 Communication & Emotional Maturity

30:30 Standards, Solitude & Singleness

31:30 Final Reflections on Dating at 30

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Catch up on:
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I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01 
https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c

You might like ⬇️
An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09
https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc

There's more for Season 2⬇️
Am I still Christian? Navigating Religion as an Adult - Ep 12
https://youtu.be/ahU5uaDd7DM?si=PNVY2iRoYlYmFn_d

Should you be a Content Creator in 2025? - S2 Ep 11
https://youtu.be/xymT216OLOE?si=cjGS2QQXJjPBkB5-

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My African dad is BACK — and this time we’re talking dating, relationships, marriage, culture, red flags, green flags, and everything in between. 😂

We unpack the conversations immigrant kids never have with their parents, including why he never asked about boyfriends, his evolving views on interracial dating, and what he believes women (and men!) should look for in a serious partner.

This episode is honest, funny, and surprisingly vulnerable. Get ready to take notes.


CHAPTERS
1:00 Growing Up African & Avoiding Dating Conversations
5:10 Cultural Expectations Around Marriage
8:00 Would Dad Accept a Non-Nigerian Partner?
12:50 Black Women & Marriage Statistics
16:00 Are Men Falling Behind? Masculinity Today
18:20 Successful Women & Men’s Insecurity
21:00 What Women Need to Know About Men
23:45 Dad’s Advice to Successful Women
26:30 Do Men Need to Work Harder?
27:30 When I Started Dating (Dad Is SHOCKED)
29:50 My Dating Experiences Now
32:00 The “Pick You Up In My Heart” Disaster
35:30 Standards, Initiative & Red Flags
37:00 What My Dad Thinks I Should Work On
39:30 Understanding My Anger & Communication Style
41:00 Should Women Date Multiple Men?
43:00 Green Flags in a Serious Partner
45:30 Financial Support & Intentionality
47:40 Men: How to Pursue a Successful Woman
48:40 Women: Watch His Actions, Not His Words
49:40 Red Flags You Should Never Ignore
51:00 What Men Should Look for in Women
52:20 How Fast Should Marriage Be Discussed?
54:00 Love Bombing & Moving Too Fast
55:10 Why Your Gut Matters in Dating


You can also listen on:
Apple: 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948 

Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e 

Catch up on:
The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️
I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01 
https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c

You might like ⬇️
An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09
https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc

There's more for Season 2⬇️
Am I still Christian? Navigating Religion as an Adult - Ep 12
https://youtu.be/ahU5uaDd7DM?si=PNVY2iRoYlYmFn_d

Should you be a Content Creator in 2025? - S2 Ep 11
https://youtu.be/xymT216OLOE?si=cjGS2QQXJjPBkB5-

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In this episode, I open up about my mental health journey! Starting antidepressants as a Christian, unlearning the stigma around medication, and finally feeling normal for the first time in my adult life.

Chapters
0:30 — Early Signs of Depression & Anxiety
6:20 — Finding My First Therapist
8:30 — Understanding Anxiety and Compulsive Habits
10:00 — Learning to Name My Emotions
11:20 — 7 Years of Therapy and Still Learning
13:00 — When Faith Meets Mental Health
14:00 — “I’m on Medication Now, and I Feel Great”
16:00 — Sobriety, Isolation, and Facing Myself
18:00 — Taking the Depression & Anxiety Assessment
22:00 — The Stigma Around Medication
23:30 — “I Didn’t Realize I Had Bias Against Meds”
31:00 — Can Christians Take Medication?
34:00 — Choosing Yourself Over People’s Opinions
36:00 — Why Faith and Meds Can Coexist
38:00 — A Year Later: Peace, Clarity, and Balance
39:20 — “This Is My First Normal Year”


You can also listen on:
Apple: 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948 

Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e 

Catch up on:
The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️
I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01 
https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c

You might like ⬇️
An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09
https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc

There's more for Season 2⬇️
Am I still Christian? Navigating Religion as an Adult - Ep 12
https://youtu.be/ahU5uaDd7DM?si=PNVY2iRoYlYmFn_d

Should you be a Content Creator in 2025? - S2 Ep 11
https://youtu.be/xymT216OLOE?si=cjGS2QQXJjPBkB5-

Let's Be Friends!
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Life doesn’t always go as planned, and sometimes, the hardest moments end up teaching you the most.

In this episode, my dad and I talk about what it really means to fail, start over, and find peace when life throws you curveballs. From losing loved ones and dealing with financial setbacks to learning how to pivot and keep going, he opens up about lessons that shaped his life and changed the way I see mine.

It’s honest, emotional, and a reminder that failure isn’t the end. It’s just part of growing up.

Chapters
3:00 – Losing a Parent & Dealing with Grief
6:30 – Building “Committee of Friends”
10:30 – Preparing for Life’s Inevitable Moments
15:00 – Financial Struggles & Learning to Save
18:30 – Losing a Job & Finding Hope
21:00 – Comparison, Social Media & Self-Worth
25:00 – Knowing When It’s Time to Pivot
28:00 – Choosing Between Law School & America
33:00 – The Curveballs That Lead to Purpose
37:00 – Faith, Family, and Hard Decisions
41:00 – Lessons on Growth & Resilience


You can also listen on:
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https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948 

Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e 

Catch up on:
The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️
I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01 
https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c

You might like ⬇️
An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09
https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc

There's more⬇️
I’m Tired of Pretending Money Isn’t a Big Deal - Ep 02
https://youtu.be/87F1-0fT7hw

Should I Freeze My Eggs? Do I Even Want Kids? - Ep 03
https://youtu.be/RS0I-5fq6Zs

Let's Be Friends!
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https://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpod

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Three years ago, I had a life-changing encounter with Jesus Christ. Since then, I’ve been on a journey of faith — full of lessons, doubts, and hard truths.

In this episode, we're discussing whether I'm still a Christian, navigating religion as an Adult, and what faith really means to me.

If you’ve ever questioned your beliefs, struggled with organized religion, or tried to reconcile faith with adulthood, this one’s for you.


Chapters
0:00 – Intro 
1:00 – How I Found Christ
3:40 – The Good Side of Christianity
6:30 – Miracles & Spiritual Gifts
11:00 – False Teachings
12:00 – Why Some Christians Struggle
14:00 – Falling Into False Teachings
21:00 – Prophecy, Manipulation & Money
26:30 – When the Church Feels Like Witchcraft
33:00 – Faith vs. Fear
38:00 – Relearning Simplicity
40:00 – Am I Still a Christian?


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Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e 

Catch up on:
The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️
I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01 
https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c

You might like ⬇️
An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09
https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc

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https://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpod

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The podcast is back with Season 2, and we’re starting off with a real one. In this episode, I open up about what it actually means to be a content creator, the pressure, the uncertainty, and the parts no one really talks about. From chasing purpose to questioning stability, I share what I’ve learned about building a creative life in a world that doesn’t always understand it.

If you’ve ever thought about becoming a creator/Influencer or wondered what it’s really like behind the camera, this one’s for you.

Free Live Masterclass for Aspiring Content Creators (Sign up) - https://join.teachly.ai/chiziduruwebinar/?mcp_token=eyJwaWQiOjE2ODk4OTcsInNpZCI6MjEzNzM5MTI2MywiYXgiOiJlN2E4MWUzMDQ5ZjMyMGIyYmQxZjJmNDRlNzU4OTEzYSIsInRzIjoxNzU5Njg5NzA4LCJleHAiOjE3NjIxMDg5MDh9.TJnbuKxeJgCIXUoClE5DvPgxdKg2K6alpWcFSo5u67o&fbclid=PARlRTSANPm0tleHRuA2FlbQIxMAABp40xrlxy6qc7hwV-ZFTqUq5XS2oFtjy0qk_pc8Owz9uQcYQINAdGsI-4seUP_aem_Kx1D5XCTGfIfUuA7w6Bxyw 

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Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e 

Catch up on:
The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️
I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01 
https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c

You might like ⬇️
An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09
https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc

There's more⬇️
I’m Tired of Pretending Money Isn’t a Big Deal - Ep 02
https://youtu.be/87F1-0fT7hw

Should I Freeze My Eggs? Do I Even Want Kids? - Ep 03
https://youtu.be/RS0I-5fq6Zs

Let's Be Friends!
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In this episode, my dad and I reflect on growing up in two very different worlds— his analog Gen X upbringing vs my digital Nigerian-American life. 

We talk dating then vs now, his reaction to me walking away from med school, and what it means to parent across cultures. He also drops timeless wisdom that goes beyond generations.

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For the first time ever, I sat down with my dad to talk about my struggle with weed addiction. I wanted to know—did he know? Did he ever suspect? And what was it like for him, watching me go through life while secretly battling something I couldn’t talk about?

The conversation takes an unexpected turn when Papa Duru shares his own experimentation with marijuana after immigrating to America from Nigeria—a story he'd never told his daughter before this recording. 

His vivid description of cultural shock moving from a Nigerian village where drug use was heavily stigmatized to New York during the crack epidemic provides crucial context for understanding immigrant perspectives on substance use.

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In this episode, I talk about how I got addicted to w*ed in college, the mental and emotional spiral that came with it, and what healing looked like for me.

And if you’ve ever felt like something had a hold on you, maybe this one’s for you, too.

If you’d like to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior, you can right now.
Confess your sins and ask for forgiveness
Decide in your heart to turn away from living a life not pleasing to God
Acknowledge the sacrifice Jesus made for you - that he died, resurrected, and is alive today.

Accept Him as your Lord and Savior
Ask to receive the power of the Holy Spirit to transform you from the inside out and that he will rule and reign in your heart

Resources for understanding the Gospel of Jesus video - https://youtu.be/xQkyuyE0vQk?si=Ds3sUNxfa36CY2lo 
(disclaimer: I am not affiliated with this ministry at all, just a good explanation of the gospel!)

Resources for mental health: https://www.cdc.gov/mental-health/caring/index.html

Find a therapist - 
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us

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For a long time, I didn’t think I had a problem. 
Marijuana was just something I used to relax… a little something something once in a while, you know. Until it became a full-on 8-year addiction.

In this episode, I talk about how I got addicted to maryjanes in college, the mental and emotional spiral that came with it, and what healing looked like for me.

This isn’t about judgment — it’s about honesty and reevaluating our relationship with drugs. 

And if you’ve ever felt like something had a hold on you, maybe this one’s for you, too.

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