In the Wake

Brianne Leeson is an artist and small business owner from Dallas, Texas. She is also the creator of the scripted comedy/fiction podcast Today’s Lucky Winner. 

Brianne was diagnosed in her thirties with ADHD which led her to a whole new realm of self discovery and understanding. She began to realize how her ADHD brain had affected or amplified different things throughout growing up including her relationship with her body and an eating disorder. With the knowledge she has of herself now, she is able to adapt and cope with her differences and advocate for her specific needs.

We discuss the following:

• Being diagnosed with ADHD in her thirties
• Myths, stigmas, and misunderstandings around ADHD and eating disorders
• Her relationship with food and her body growing up 
• Her day to day experiences, thoughts, and situations that arise with ADHD
• How ADHD and eating disorders can intersect and affect one another
• What coping skills work for her

Tune in to hear the rest of her story and insights!

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Connect with Brianne & her work:

• Instagram:
  • @brianne_leeson
  • @bellonaarts
  • @luckywinnershow
• Podcast: Today's Lucky Winner Show
• Website: www.bellonaarts.com

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Resources:

• Apps:
  • Tiimo App - Visual Planner
  • Mood Meter App - Build Emotional Intelligence 
• Instagram follows:
  • @adhd_alien
  • @adhd_bri

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Song: Charity by Yungblud

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Hannah is a Feminine Healer helping womxn connect with their inner child and soul selves to heal trauma and energy blockages. She is a chronic disease/pain warrior, a recovering alcoholic, and a childhood trauma survivor and like the rest of us, her healing journey is ongoing. After years of fighting her own body, struggling to survive through cycles of healing, and ultimately self sabotaging until she didn't know any other lifestyle; she was finally able to answer the sweet whispers of intuition.

In Hannah's newly release book, Entering the Divine, One Breath at a Time, Hannah dives into her childhood traumas, alcohol addiction, and life with multiple chronic diseases to leave you with one message: be an active participant in your healing journey. 

In this episode, Hannah shares her story recovering from addiction and in the process, finding her self and her connection with the Divine. As a high functioning alcoholic, she didn't even realize she had a problem until she made the commitment to quit drinking for a period of time. Through sobriety and self reflection, she realized she had been using alcohol to cope for so long that she didn't even know how to enjoy alcohol anymore without binging. Sobriety forced her to process and heal from all of her childhood and adult traumas that she had been suppressing and numbing out with alcohol. She became an active advocate for her own well being and healing and in doing so, found her purpose in helping other womxn find healing. 

Hannah and I discuss the following:

• Being a high functioning alcoholic
• Numbing out with alcohol & drugs
• Stigmas or misunderstandings around spirituality
• Sobriety & healing
• Being an advocate for your own well being and healing
• Learning to surrender and trust
• Her spiritual practices

Tune in to hear more of Hannah's wise insight!

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Song: All You Need Is Love by The Beatles

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Connect with Hannah and her work:

• Instagram: @healing.with.hannah
• Facebook: Healing with Yogi Han
• Website: healingwithhannah.ca
• Book: Entering the Divine, One Breath at a Time by Hannah Stinson

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*TRIGGER WARNING*

This is a heavier episode as graphic details and scenarios of suicide are shared. If you are suffering or recovering from a mood or mental disorder and/or suicide ideation, please listen with caution, listen with a trusted friend, or choose to skip this episode. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things discussed in this episode to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or feelings. Also, if you are a bit more sensitive or an empath, you also may want to listen with caution. Please practice self care, reach out to a trusted loved one or professional and/or CALL the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 800-273-8255 or TEXT the Crisis Text Line at 741741.

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Dr. Uchenna Umeh graduated from medical school in Nigeria in 1991. She relocated to the United States in 1994 for her pediatric residency at Howard University hospital. In 1999, she moved to South Carolina with her young family to open her own private practice where she worked until she sold it and joined the United States Air Force in 2012 as a lieutenant colonel and commander.

She is currently a global speaker on youth suicide prevention, 3-time bestselling author, and mother of three. She is the CEO of Teen Alive, and Dr. Lulu’s Youth Health Center, both dedicated to at-risk youth and youth suicide prevention.

Her public speaking career followed a suicide attempt by a 7-yr-old patient and suicides of colleagues and a patient. Ever since, she has dedicated her life’s work to ending youth suicide. 

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In this episode, Dr. Uchenna shares her passion and understanding of youth suicide prevention and awareness. She takes us through multiple scenarios and real life situations. While doing so, she points out warning signs and things to look out for along with a message of hope to both parents and those who may be experiencing suicidal ideation.

During our conversation, Dr. Uchenna covers the following:

• Her story getting into this work
• ACEs - Averse Childhood Experiences
• Looking at suicide from a trauma standpoint vs. a mental illness standpoint
• Warning signs or red flags of suicidal ideation
• Suicide prevention and awareness
• A message of hope

Tune in to hear more from the doctor herself!!

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Connect with Dr. Uchenna and her work:

• Facebook: Ask Doctor Lulu
• Instagram: @askdoctorlulu
• Website:
  • teenalive.com
  • youthhealthcenter.com
• Podcast: Suicide Pages with Dr. Lulu
• TEDx Talk: Trauma in Children: What You Can Do to Help

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End The Stigma - the teen mental health foundation that I'm a co-founder of:

• endthestigma.org

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Aubree is a self-worth coach and host of the podcast Ask Aubree, where she focuses on helping women and queer people to befriend their inner critic, break up with people-pleasing, and reclaim their desire. 

In this episode, Aubree shares her personal experience being in codependent relationships along with her discovery of the root insecurity, fear, or beliefs underneath codependency. She now helps others recover and learn to source their identity from within rather than from their relationships. If you've never heard of the term, Aubree breaks codependency down and explains how it may show up in different types of relationships. 

We discuss the following:

• What codependency is and what it looks like within relationships
• Her personal experiences with codependency and abusive, toxic relationships
• Myths about codependency
• How codependency may show up in all sorts of relationships - familial, parental, romantic, or friendships
• Why codependent relationships are unhealthy, harmful, or toxic
• Uncovering the root insecurity, fear, or belief behind codependency 
• Healing and recovering from codependency

Tune in to hear the rest from Aubree herself!!

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Song: Chicago by Sufjan Stevens

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Resource:

• Book: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

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Connect with Aubree & her work:

• Instagram: @ahhhhbree
• Podcast: Ask Aubree
• Website: www.aubreehenderson.com

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In this solo episode, I share my thoughts after reflecting on 2020. I talk about how I'm extending grace and compassion to myself for surviving this collectively difficult and long year. When wishing to set New Year's goals, I dive into the reasons I have not succeeded with goal setting in the past. My new process and approach has included setting goals out of inspiration vs. shame, no longer expecting perfection from myself, and redefining productivity. Tune in to hear ideas and tips for reflecting on your year, setting goals, and tracking your progress!

I dive deeper into the following:

• Reflecting on 2020 with grace and self compassion
• Breaking the cycles of shame, unrealistic expectations, and disappointment around setting goals for the New Year
• Setting a word or intention of the year
• Breaking your intention of the year down into digestible increments -- weekly, monthly, or quarterly goals
• Combatting perfectionism within goal setting 
• Course correcting and realigning with your goals and intentions without giving up all together
• Redefining productivity and building in rest and play
• Bullet journaling to track your progress, goals, and habits

Tune in to hear my personal process of reflection and New Year intention setting!!

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• Click here for my blog post full of resources mentioned, with guided journals, apps, and journaling challenges. 

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Song: All Will Be Well by The Gabe Dixon Band

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Yewande is a young lawyer in Lagos, Nigeria. She is a passionate speaker and unfiltered digital creator. She shares her raw and authentic skin care journey online in hopes to show and teach others that you can feel beautiful, confident, and strong despite the often unrealistic and unattainable beauty standards shown on social media. 

In this episode, Yewande shares her story about how she broke free from the pressures to look a certain way and embraced her authentic self. She began taking off the filters when she started sharing her skin care journey on social media. She slowly learned to detach her sense of self worth from her physical appearance and redefined what it meant to be beautiful to her. She now uses things like makeup as a fun tool for expression rather than using it as a crutch to hide behind and a necessity to feel good enough. 

We chat about the following:

• Why she became fed up with the filters, makeup, and expectations to always look perfect
• Dissecting unrealistic beauty standards
• Her definition of beauty
• How the comparison game can harm your mental health and self image
• Learning to love and accept your raw self
• The physical and mental aspects of self care

Tune in to hear from the radiant Yewande herself!!

Song: Before I Go by Guy Sebastian

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• Instagram: 
  • @dudulewami
  • @yewande_badiru
• YouTube: Dudulewami DLM

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*TRIGGER WARNING*
This is a heavier episode as we speak of physical and emotional abuse. If you are a survivor of abuse or sexual assault, please listen with caution or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or emotions. Please practice self care, reach out to a trusted love one, and/or CALL the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1.800.799.7233 or TEXT to 1.800.787.3224.

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Jenn Hazel Richards is currently in her last year of grad school to become a marriage and family therapist. She is a divorcee and survivor of domestic abuse. She has 6 children -- 4 living and twin daughters that died at birth. Jenn also has pet chickens and a passion for gardening and being active outdoors. She is living her most authentic life and constantly using her voice to speak her truth. 

In this episode, Jenn shares her story and process leaving her abusive marriage and finding her voice, freedom, and self post-relationship. She explains the fears and belief systems that kept her stuck in that abusive marriage along with sharing the moments of awakening that pushed her to finally leave. 

We discuss the following aspects of her story:

• Her story of physical and emotional abuse inflicted by her then husband
• Her awakening and deciding to leave her abusive marriage
• Why she decided to open up on social media about the abuse she's faced
• Experiencing backlash and having others try to silence her
• Taking her power back and finding her voice
• Signs of a healthy relationship vs. unhealthy or abusive relationship
• Challenging and unlearning old belief systems and thought patterns
• How fear kept her stuck
• Post relationship -- navigating healing, triggers, and dating

Tune in to hear the entirety of Jenn's story!!

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Resources:

• Book: Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
• RAINN - Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network
• We Are HER - Foundation supporting survivors of domestic abuse and sexual violence 
• In the Wake Episode 64: Toxic Relationships with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

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Song: Praying by Kesha

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Connect with Jenn on social media:

• Instagram: @jennhazelishappy

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Jalisa is a native Texan with a passion for mental health and helping those that can relate. She works in the medical industry and knows the ins and outs of getting help with or without insurance. She battles depression and anxiety herself and shares her story in hopes of making sure people know they are not alone in the struggle. 

In this episode, Jalisa shares the intricacies of battling anxiety and depression while keeping up and working in the corporate world. She shares how she has learned to cope and her tips to finding the best therapist.

We discuss the following:

• The signs as her mental health deteriorated 
• Her story battling anxiety and depression 
• Struggling with depression in the corporate world and advocating for your own mental health
• Knowing your triggers for anxiety
• Tips when searching for the right therapist for you
• Coping mechanisms that have worked for Jalisa
• Breaking down stigma around mental illness

Tune in to hear the rest of Jalisa's story!!

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Song: Lovely by Billie Eilish

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Resources:

• BetterHelp - Online Counseling Services
• Psychology Today - Find a Therapist
• EndTheStigma.org - Mental Health Foundation
• Instagram: 
  • @the_depression_chronicles11
  • @endthestigmaorg

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Connect with Jalisa and her work: 

• Podcast: Kinda Pretty, Definitely Petty
• Instagram: @kindapretty.definitelypetty

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*Trigger Warning*
This is a heavier episode as we speak of eating disorders, habits of binging and restricting, triggers, diet culture, and recovery. If you are suffering or recovering from an eating disorder or body dysmorphia, please listen with caution or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or emotions. 

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Rachel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 12 years of experience treating Eating Disorders at both an inpatient treatment center and in private practice where she focuses on guiding adolescents and women to break free from diet culture and stop evaluating their worth by the number on the scale. Rachel is also the co-host of Mom Genes The Podcast, where she and colleague Tina LaBoy, RD, teach parents to understand their genes so they can love the jeans they are in.

In this episode, as an Eating Disorder Specialist, Rachel unpacks what struggling with an eating disorder entails and what healing one's relationship with food and their body may look like. She helps me dissect diet culture and the many harms and issues it creates for everyone in society but especially those struggling with an eating disorder, disordered eating behaviors, or body dysmorphia. 

She goes over the following:

• Defining and explaining the differences between eating disorders -- anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating
• Stigmas or misconceptions around eating disorders
• Warning signs or symptoms to look out for
• Assessing your relationship with food & your body
• How to approach & support someone with an eating disorder
• What recovery might look like
• Explaining what diet culture is and how to challenge it
• How diet culture can be triggering & harmful
• Intuitive & mindful eating

Tune in to hear from Rachel Coleman!!

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Song: Try by Colbie Caillat

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Resources:

• Book: Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher
• Website: intuitiveeating.org
• Book: Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch

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Connect with Rachel & her work:

• Websites:
  • rachelcolemanceds.com
  • momgenesthepodcast.com
• Instagram:
  • @rachelcolemanmft
  • @momgenesthepodcast

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Kini Chang is a practicing Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Oakland, CA. Her passion and expertise is in intergenerational trauma, addressing systemic and historical trauma experienced by communities of color. She prides herself in a holistic approach to treatment where her modalities and interventions support and heal the whole person. She is also an Adjunct Professor of Psychology where she teaches graduate and undergraduate students at Holy Names University, Golden Gate University, and Ohlone College. 

In previous podcast episodes, Whytli, along with many other guests, have briefly mentioned that they went through EMDR therapy when healing from their traumas. In this week's episode, we have EMDR therapist, Kini Chang, here to dive deeper into the subject, explaining what EMDR actually is, how it works, the healing benefits, and what a session might entail. Kini shares how she processed her own childhood trauma going through EMDR sessions. After the fact, she decided she wanted to one day specialize in EMDR therapy. 

Kini covers the following topics:

• How she healed her abandonment issues through EMDR therapy
• What an EMDR session generally entails 
• Addressing disassociation in trauma work
• Attachment-Focused EMDR vs. Intergenerational EMDR
• Self care post-therapy session
• Triggers and retraumatization
• Building in coping skills that stimulate happy hormones
• Coping with 2020

Tune in to hear it all from Kini herself!!

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Resources:

• Better Help -- Online Counseling Services
• Psychology Today -- Find a Therapist

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Connect with Kini & her work:

• Website: kinichang.com
• Instagram: @wellnesswithkini

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Song: Scars to Your Beautiful by Alessia Cara

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