Infertile AF: Infertility and Modern Family Building through ART

You might know Bridget Marquardt from the reality series "The Girls Next Door," which depicted her life as one of Playboy publisher Hugh Hefner's girlfriends. Today, Ali—a Playboy mag editor for 10 years—talks to Bridget about freezing her eggs while living at the Mansion, being terrified of needles, the "emotional, financial and physical roller coaster" of infertility, the devastation she felt when none of her eggs survived the thaw, and where she and her fiance, Nick, are in their journey now. 

This episode is sponsored by Fruitful Fertility, a mentorship service that connects people struggling emotionally to build their family with someone who has been through it before but is now on the other side. To learn more or to sign up, visit fruitfulfertility.org.

This is the story of Vanessa, a.k.a. "Mama," and Jory, a.k.a. "Mommy," who live in California and have two adorable toddlers, Axel and Lexa. Today, Vanessa tells Ali all about how she and her wife conceived their two children via at-home insemination (and why her wife carried one and she carried the other); the dumb things people say to her at the park (ie: asking her if she's the nanny to her redheaded son); why she jokes about wanting to have a "redo" pregnancy; and the benefits of babywearing.

In 2017, Agnes Fischer wrote a book, "Eggs Unscrambled," the girlfriend's guide to everything you need to know about your reproductive organs, including freezing your eggs. Today, Agnes talks to Ali about avoiding pregnancy in her early 20s and early 30s, how women are conditioned to think they have to breed, "fertility treatment light," IUIs and IVF, her blog, "FrozenPlease.com," how her book became her "baby" and why today, she's passionate about fertility awareness.

Today, Ali talks to Dara, a registered dietitian at the fertility clinic Reproductive Medicine Associates (RMA) of New York, about her own infertility struggles. Dara discusses having PCOS as well as toxic fluid in both her fallopian tubes, requiring surgery to block them off. Also covered: Feeling shameful about her chemical pregnancy, getting pregnant twice more through IVF, and the dietary advice she gives to women who are trying to have babies. 

Today, Naomi, a 24-year-old living in England, talks to Ali about being faced with the most difficult decision of her life: Having to decide what to do when, halfway through her pregnancy, doctors discovered that her son, Bear, had a congenital heart defect called Tetralogy of Fallot. Naomi gets real about making the decision they did and why; telling her then four-year-old son, Tristan, why his brother wouldn't be coming home with them; and how the grief of having a stillborn baby affected her relationship with her partner. 

Today, Ali talks to Anna Victoria—the fitness entrepreneur and influencer behind the hugely popular Fit Body App—about the painful infertility road she's been traveling with her husband, Luca. Anna Victoria gets into some real talk, including two failed IUIs; how not being able to work out has affected her emotional and physical health, and the frustrations of being told by doctors that things look "perfect," even though she's still not able to conceive. Today's episode is sponsored by OOVA, a new fertility tracking system that can monitor and predict your cycles with groundbreaking precision. Find out more at www.oova.life, Instagram (@oova_miracle), and Facebook (facebook.com/OOVAInc).

Today, Ali welcomes back her #ttcsister and recurring guest Stacy, who is taking us along as she straps into her secondary infertility roller coaster ride. When we last spoke to Stacy, she was in the middle of her very first IVF cycle. Now, she fills us in on how that first cycle and retrieval went, why she and Ari decided to do a second IVF cycle right away--and how she manages when things are "just totally out of our control."

Today, Ali talks to Nichelle Sublett, Mrs. North Carolina 2018, about the five painful years of infertility she endured—and why she chose to spread awareness about infertility after winning the pageant. Nichelle is finally pregnant with a baby boy, due at the end of August, and here she recalls her "horrible" path, including PCOS, five miscarriages, IVF, considering a surrogate, marital strain, and why, in the African-American community, infertility and pregnancy loss "just aren't talked about." 

Amanda Rice is a self-proclaimed "cancer overachiever" who was diagnosed with—and beat—cancer three times before turning 40. She’s also the badass founder of Chick Mission, a nonprofit that gives young women who are diagnosed with cancer scholarships to freeze their eggs. Today, Amanda talks about getting brushed off by doctors, her bilateral mastectomy, "dress-up chemo,” an egg retrieval that went horribly wrong, overcoming depression and how creating Chick Mission has given her—and so many others—hope.

Today we meet Shira, a brilliant lawyer, amazing mom, and Ali's friend from SoulCycle, who opens up about her intense, emotional struggle with infertility. Shira details everything she went through, including an unexpected diagnosis of endometriosis "everywhere," getting pregnant after two years of trying, and the brutal decision she and her husband had to make when they found out that one of their twins, while in utero, had almost no amniotic fluid. Warning: This one's a tearjerker.