After three decades in marriage therapy and coaching, Dr. Lee Baucom has seen firsthand how shifting mindset and personal responsibility not only helps repair struggling marriages, but can also protect children from ongoing pain, whether or not a couple stays married. And even if only one partner is willing to lead the way. His works centers on empowering folks to see themselves and their patterns clearly, and address them hopefully before the worst cycles take hold. The creator of the Save The Marriage system, author of seven books, and founder of the Un-Pause app, Lee has dedicated his life to helping people help themselves, inside of marriage and beyond.

And no, he does not think every single marriage is worth saving. But if you’re willing to reflect…he certainly thinks that you are.