We tend to look at other people and especially our exes and find all of the things they are doing wrong and how much we dislike them and everything they do. We also tend to play the victim role because subconsciously we gain emotional benefits from it. Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Karin Weiri, and Andres Romoleroux, (ex police officer, law school, human rights teacher, teacher at the police academy in Ecuador, and currently working for the Orlando Public Transportation agency) discuss their journeys into healing from divorce and the relationships with ex'es and children. It is always an inside job!