Most people who decided to separate have never initiated a relationship breakdown in their lives. The decision is scary and overwhelming. Yet these very early stages can set the course for how the whole process plays out and even affect long term family relationships for years to come.

Knowing how important the initial stages are, Ben and Heather have dedicated this episode to provide advice for anyone facing the awful thought that it might be time to end their relationship. Topics covered include:

•How and when to break the news to your partner

•How to prepare for that initial conversation if you are in a violent or difficult relationship

•What are the big-ticket things you need to think about to ensure as little disruption to your family as possible

•How to protect yourself financially in the early stages

•Do you need a lawyer and can you and your partner share one lawyer

•When to let the children know

And as a final bonus, Heather gives "advice to a friend" on what's most important when first facing up to separation or divorce. Given how many separations Heather has witnessed in over 40 years - her advice is well worth a listen!