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What I Know About Divorce Now, That You Can't Know Yet.

In this episode, I share everything I know about life after divorce that you simply can’t know until you live it. My own lived experience and that of my clients.

From the duality of grief and gratitude, to the quiet freedoms and small joys that only come when you reclaim your life, this is a reflection on integration, self-compassion, and choosing yourself. 

What I would have done more and less of, the lessons I wish I knew earlier, and how time (combined with doing your work) transforms pain into possibility.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Are you wondering whether to stay in your relationship? Or thinking about finally leaving your marriage?

Often my clients come to me questioning “good enough” relationships where nothing feels catastrophically or dramatically wrong, but something still feels off.

In this episode, I lead you through 10 powerful questions designed to help you see clearly whether your relationship is serving your growth, your happiness, and your future.

If you’re stuck in indecision, this episode will help you stop overthinking, start reflecting, and make the choice that honours both your heart and your future.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Navigating separation, uncertainty, and emotional overload during the holidays — without guilt, shame, or pressure.

The holidays are supposed to be a wonderful joyful time of the year. But what if your relationship is falling apart, already over, or hanging by a thread?

In this episode, Sallyanne talks honestly about the emotional weight of Christmas when you’re navigating separation, divorce, or deep relationship doubt.

We unpack the pressure of holiday “shoulds” - the expectations to keep things cheerful, stay together “for the kids,” or maintain appearances - and offer real talk, validation, and guidance for doing things differently this year.

Whether you’re quietly questioning your relationship or deep in the mess of divorce, this episode is here to help you feel less alone and more empowered.

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2 online coaching sessions with full messaging support between sessions

Designed to get you through the holidays easefully, intentionally and without feeling the pressure to have it all together. 

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
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• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Wondering whether to stay or leave a marriage?

Thinking about separation or divorce?

When you’re sitting in uncertainty, it’s easy to overthink. To rely on our head to bring us to a decision.

But clarity doesn’t come from thinking harder. It comes from alignment.

In this episode, Sallyanne unpacks the three decision centres - the head, the heart, and the gut - and shares a simple practice to help you bring all three into conversation before making your next big (or small) decision.

Referenced:

• Kemi Nekvapil — author, coach, and speaker who references the concept of the three decision centres in her work.

Reflection prompt:

 Next time you’re faced with a choice, pause and ask:
 💭 What does my head say?
 ❤️ What does my heart feel?
 🌿 What does my gut already know?

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Clarissa Rayward is a wife, mum to two, accredited specialist family lawyer, and lover of chocolate, coffee, and anything colourful and also the Director of Brisbane Family Law Centre, a multidisciplinary practice where lawyers work alongside counsellors and financial experts to provide holistic support to clients navigating divorce and separation.

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Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Thinking you "should" be over it by now?

You're not behind or doing things wrong. Your nervous system just hasn’t caught up yet.

In this episode, I share why healing from divorce, infidelity or separation takes more than time, and what your body actually needs to feel safe again.

Drawing from neuroscience and nervous system wisdom, I explore how you can start giving yourself the proof your body needs to believe: it’s over. You’re safe. You’re home now.

Tune in to hear:

• Why time alone doesn’t heal the nervous system
• Why your mind can move on, but your body can still feel stuck
• Three simple, practical ways to create safety and healing from within
• How to begin speaking to yourself with kindness, not judgment
• What it really means to rest (and why it’s essential to healing)
  
  

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban’s relationship has been splashed across headlines lately, with speculation about separation, divorce, and division of assets.

But... their relationship - whether they stay together, separate, or divorce - is none of our business.

And yet, the way the media frames these stories reveals how we expect divorce to look: messy, high conflict, destructive.

But what if it isn’t?

What if separation can be kind? Respectful? Even collaborative?

In this episode I share:

 ✨ Why divorce is, at its core, a human and emotional experience (not just legal and financial)
 ✨ What “conscious uncoupling” really looks like in practice
 ✨ How I work with couples to turn down conflict and co-create solutions that work for the whole family
 ✨ Real words from clients who’ve moved from fear and doubt to hope and possibility
 ✨ Practical tips if you want a calmer, future-focused separation

Divorce doesn’t have to be a win-lose battle. Uncoupling Coaching, Collaborative Divorce offers another way.

If you’re ready to explore this for your family let's chat - DM me directly or book a free intro call (link below)

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of intimate partner violence and abusive relationships. Please take care while listening.

In this powerful and tender conversation, I’m joined by Cat Dunn award-winning OBM, mentor, speaker, and founder of Life After I Left.

Cat shares her lived experience of leaving an abusive relationship and the deep healing journey that followed. Together we explore:

• How childhood experiences shape the way we love and choose partners as adults
• What life is really like inside an abusive relationship
• Why leaving is so much harder than it seems
• How to create emotional safety for yourself
• Learning to trust your own judgement again

Cat’s story is one of honesty, resilience, and reclaiming power. If you’ve ever doubted yourself, felt trapped, or wondered how to rebuild after leaving, this conversation will offer insight, validation, and hope.

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Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Parallel parenting after divorce is approach for separated parents who struggle with high conflict, dysfunctional interactions or communication breakdowns.

In this episode, Sallyanne breaks down what parallel parenting is, who it benefits, and how to put it into practice.

We will explore the advantages for you and your children, practical strategies to make it work, and how this approach can bring more peace, stability, and boundaries to co-parenting after divorce or separation.

And, how it can be the instigator of a new, more peaceful and co-operative parenting model for you and your family.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Discover how personal stylist Lisa Stockman helps people through life’s biggest transitions - from divorce to dating again - with styling that rebuilds confidence, identity, and ease.

In this episode, I welcome back Lisa, for a deeper conversation about how style can anchor us through life’s biggest changes.

Lisa has been styling people of all different shapes, sizes, life stages, and budgets for over a decade. Working with clients across Australia and internationally, she understands how hard it can be to know what to wear — especially during times of transition like divorce, a new job, dating again, post-baby, post-surgery, or ageing.

Together we explore how personal style can rebuild confidence and identity after big life shifts.

Lisa reminds us that styling is never just about clothes - it’s about reclaiming who you are and showing up as the most aligned version of yourself.

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Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.