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Understanding Anxiety in Kids During Separation & Divorce, with Dr. Jodi Richardson

In this episode, we're joined by Dr. Jodi Richardson - anxiety and mental health expert, bestselling author of Anxious Kids and Anxious Mums, former teacher, and host of podcast Well, Hello Anxiety.

Jodi brings a rare mix of research, clinical experience and real warmth to one of the hardest parenting challenges: supporting kids through the anxiety of separation and divorce.

We talk about:

• What anxiety in children actually looks like during separation
• Age-appropriate ways to talk to kids about anxiety
• How children silently absorb parental stress
• Practical strategies for building resilience through one of life's most stressful transitions

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The decisions you're making today have real, long term implications and they don't disappear once the divorce is finalised.

They compound. And they affect the life and the future version of you that is coming for you.

In this episode, Sallyanne asks the question most of us never think to ask in the middle of a crisis: who's speaking for the version of you that's still being built?

What changes when future you gets a vote, and why it matters.

Because maybe someone is missing from the decision making. 

Not your lawyer. Not your therapist. Not the voice in your head running on fear and exhaustion.

The person you'll be in a year. In five.

There is no one right answer or way through the messy hard parts of divorce. It's about the difference between a decision made in survival mode and one made with a thread of awareness running through it, even a painful one.

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In this episode of Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate, I talk about what my divorce coaching clients say actualllly made them go, and it almost never looked like the dramatic ending you'd expect.

No affair. No blow-up. Just a slow, quiet erosion of hope, trust, and the version of themselves they used to be, often reaching its final, clear moment on the most ordinary of days.

If you're in the hard in-between right now - wondering whether to stay or go, feeling like you can't point to "one big reason," or grieving a relationship you're technically still in - this episode is for you. 

What relationship erosion really looks like, the myths that keep people stuck in unhappy marriages, and how to start trusting your own knowing again.

In this episode:

• What clients actually said made them finally leave (it's rarely what you'd think)
• The difference between falling out of love and losing yourself
• What "grieving a relationship you haven't left yet" really feels like
• Common myths that keep people stuck in the decision to stay or leave
• A few reflective questions to sit with, if you're in the in-between

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The challenges of dating after divorce and why matchmaking may offer a more supported, intentional approach for those rebuilding their lives and looking for meaningful connection.

After years in a relationship, many people find themselves asking: Who am I now? What do I want next? How do I open my heart again without repeating old patterns?

In this episode of Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate, Sallyanne chats with Megan Gourlay, founder of bespoke matchmaking service Love With Me

Together they explore:

• The exhausting experience of the dating apps
• How matchmaking offers a more intentional approach to finding connection
• Why dating after a long-term relationship requires a different kind of support
• The vulnerability that comes with putting yourself back out there
• Common patterns that can get in the way of finding love again
• How to date from a place of self-awareness, confidence and choice

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Last week was about the gifts of solo travel. 

This week, we're looking at the other side - the loneliness that can quietly take hold after divorce (even before you leave a relationship or marriage), and what it actually looks like to move through it and out the other side.

We also talk about saying "I'm fine" for so long that you even start to believe it... when you're not.

And the flip side: what a life built entirely on your own terms can genuinely look and feel like - and what it actually takes to get there.

In this episode:

• The 'who would do that for me?' question and why it matters
• Why high-functioning, capable women are often the loneliest
• The loneliness of being surrounded by people who knew the old you
• Small steps to start moving yourself through it
• Reminder: the happily solo life is real and what it takes to get there

Related episodes: 

• The Loneliness No-one Warned You About 
• 5 Types of Loneliness in Relationship Breakdown, Separation and Divorce 
• Solitude, Loneliness & Dating After Divorce with Kerri Sackville

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The reason I travel alone has nothing to do with not having a partner or people to go with. It's something else entirely.

In this episode I'm sharing the three parts of a recent trip.

1. A retreat with extraordinary women led by my business coach Robyn Gooding

2. Time with my daughter Eva, and 

3. The stretches where it was just me.

Each one taught me something different. But it's the solo part that cracked something open.

We book trips to escape.

But what if we took one to remember?

This episode is for anyone who has been telling themselves they'll rest, they'll book the trip, they'll do the thing, when...

That time may never come unless you conscioulsy choose it.

The destination was - and is always - you.

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In this episode I'm joined by Emma Wright - feminist health coach, certified cognitive behavioural and intuitive eating coach, and author of Body Confident - for a conversation I've wanted to have for a long time.

Because Emma and I work with essentially the same woman. In my world, she's capable, successful, has built a great life on paper... and yet she's stayed in a relationship that doesn't really light her up or she's feeling destabilised by divorce. In Emma's world, she shows up exactly the same way, but the relationship is with food and her body.

Same woman. Same conditioning. Slightly different arena.

In this episode we go deep into what's really underneath all of it - the quiet questioning, the self-doubt, the staying - and what it actually takes to come home to yourself.

We talk about:
- How good girl conditioning shows up in your relationship with your body, your food, and your relationships with others
 - The "quiet questioning" — that inner whisper that something isn't working, and the rush to silence it
 - Why worthiness sits underneath almost everything and what happens to it when a relationship ends

And the big one...

The post-divorce glow up.  

What it looks like on the surface, what's really going on underneath, and what genuine reclamation actually looks like

The one question that reframes everything

How much of you is it costing you to stay?

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Want more?

Feel like where you are, what you have, the life you're living is not quite "it"?
Wanting more than what you have?

That doesn’t make you wrong or flawed or mean you’re asking too much.

It’s information. 

You inner knowing pointing you toward what's true, what's right, and what your life is actually asking for.

This episode goes deep on what's actually underneath wanting more and busts the myth that keeps so many women small.

Wanting more, allowing yourself to desire and ask for more from your life, is pointing you home.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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This episode is for the 2am version of you.

The one feeling like everything is coming apart and wondering when it's going to stop.

This isn't a quick fix or a pep talk but simply a different way of understanding what's actually happening when you fall apart. 

Because maybe it's not what you think it is.

Maybe you're not falling apart.

Maybe you're falling closer.

Closer to what's real.

Closer to what's true.

Closer to the version of your that's been hidden under layers

Waiting for the noise to clear.

This episode explores the paradox at the heart of divorce and separation: that the moment you feel most lost is often the moment you are closest to yourself.

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If you've been waiting...

To feel ready, for the fear to pass, for someone to show you the way this episode is going to land somewhere uncomfortable. And then, hopefully, somewhere freeing.

Sallyanne talks about the quiet story so many carry through asking questions about a relationship, separation or divorce: that when things settle, when they feel stronger, when someone shows them what to do... then  they'll be able to take the next step. 

The problem with that story is that it requires you to stay helpless. And the longer you wait, the more that version of you becomes the only one you can access.

Nobody's coming to save you. And that, it turns out, is actually a good thing.

In this episode:

Why waiting to feel ready keeps you smaller than you are

The difference between needing support and outsourcing your agency

Why courage isn't the absence of fear and what it actually is

The woman you've been waiting for, and why she's already here

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.