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COURAGE. CONNECTION. JOY.

What happens when you step outside your comfort zone can transform your post-divorce life more than any legal document or co-parenting plan ever could. 

In this episode of RR&L, I share a personal story of stepping outside my comfort zone, into new spaces, meeting strangers, and discovering the connection, joy, and possibility that waits on the other side.

Whether you’re wondering if you’re brave enough to leave a marriage, navigating separation, rebuilding your life, or seeking community after divorce, this episode shows how courage opens doors and connection creates magic.

Let this episode be your reminder that joy is waiting for you too, in the places you haven’t stepped into yet.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Leaving a long-term relationship is more than just a breakup. It’s a complete reset. 

You’ve invested years of your life - and now you’re navigating a new space, a new version of life, unsure who you are without them.

In this episode, we talk about the hard truths of starting over:

• The emotions no one warns you about
• Rediscovering your identity and reclaiming your life
• What it really takes to rebuild, redefine, and restart after years of shared history
  
  

If you’re stepping into life after a long-term relationship, or maybe wondering what life could look like after divorce, this episode is for you. Honest, practical, and unapologetically real about the journey of starting over.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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You can be deeply hurt and still have work to do. 

Even if your partner left, had an affair, blindsided you, or if you were the one who chose to end the relationship, even if you know it was the right choice.

In this episode, we talk about what radical personal responsibility really means, why it doesn’t equal blame or shame, and how facing your own patterns can free you from repeating them.

Learn how to:

• Take ownership without self-judgment
• Heal in a real, embodied way (no spiritual bypassing)
• Build emotional sovereignty and
• Choose your life consciously

This is the work I do with clients after a break-up or divorce, when they’re ready to shift out of shame or blame, stop going through the motions, and start consciously choosing.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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NB - language warning for this one. There’s a few F💣

In this episode, I share a client story about what happened when an unexpected message from an ex arrived around Christmas, and tipped something she thought was healed.

I share the process we used together to slow it down, name what had been activated, and write a response that was honest rather than “nice.”

I talk through:

• Why messages from ex-partners can land so powerfully, even years later
• Writing a polite reply versus a truthful one
• How writing it all out can bring clarity, release, and self-trust
• Attachment patterns as context and an invitation for healing, not excuses
• When compassion turns into self-abandonment
• And how closure is something we create, not something we’re given
  
  

The episode includes a fictionalised reading of the letter she wrote - emotionally true, but anonymised and blended to protect identity.

If you’re struggling to let go or wondering about your ex. Maybe been activated by an unexpected message or meeting, and wondered why it affected you more than expected, this episode is for you.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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In this final episode of the year, I’m sharing a powerful set of reflection questions to help you look back with compassion, honour your growth, and step into 2026 with clarity and intention.

Whether you’re navigating separation, divorce, co-parenting, identity shifts, or simply a season of change, these reflecton prompts will help you understand yourself more deeply, release what no longer serves you, and choose what comes next.

Reflect. Release. Reset.

Download your copy of the reflection questions HERE

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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In this episode, we explore the moment you quietly realise you can’t carry the relationship alone anymore.

You’ll hear:
 • What the “quiet exit” actually looks like
 • How belief without change becomes burnout
 • Why hope without action becomes a cage
 • The moment you stop trusting in his potential and start loving yourself more
 • What to do when you’ve been over-functioning to his under-functioning
 • The next steps when you're done, tired, and stepping into clarity

If you feel this… if you know this… if this is you... or it's becoming you... this episode is your reminder that you’re not cold, crazy, or asking too much.

 You’re honouring yourself.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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In this episode, Sallyanne talks about the activating or triggering comments that can come your way during separation or divorce. Even before you separate.

 You’ll learn practical, grounded ways to respond (rather than react) without spiralling, without defending yourself, and without giving away your power.

We explore:
 • Why these comments land so deeply
 • How to separate their words from your worth
 • Clear, simple boundary-based responses you can use immediately
 • How to shift from being reactive to being anchored and self-led

This episode helps you stay steady, reclaim your emotional space, and stop letting your ex’s words pull you back into an old version of yourself.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Things I’ve Learned Solo Travelling Since My Divorce

Solo travel after divorce hits differently.

It’s equal parts freedom and fear, excitement and vulnerability.

You’re no longer part of a “we,” and sometimes, that absence echoes but there’s also something quietly powerful about that.

You’re choosing yourself. Your own adventure. Your own rhythm.

In this episode I share a few things I’ve learned solo travelling since my divorce - things that made the experience richer, easier, and at times, unexpectedly healing.

NB: After recording, I realised I forgot to include the most important piece: First and foremost… choose a destination and accommodation where you can be and feel safe. In every sense — emotionally, physically, and financially. All your other decisions come from there.

If you’re ready (or would like in the future) to explore the world - and yourself - on your own terms, this episode is for you.

Perfect For:
Women (and anyone) navigating life after divorce who are curious about solo travel, self-discovery, and reclaiming joy and freedom.

Listen if you want:

• Inspiration to take your first (or next) solo trip.
• Practical, down-to-earth tips for travelling safely and joyfully alone.
• Reflection on how travel can be a tool for healing and self-reconnection.

Where to next?

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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What I Know About Divorce Now, That You Can't Know Yet.

In this episode, I share everything I know about life after divorce that you simply can’t know until you live it. My own lived experience and that of my clients.

From the duality of grief and gratitude, to the quiet freedoms and small joys that only come when you reclaim your life, this is a reflection on integration, self-compassion, and choosing yourself. 

What I would have done more and less of, the lessons I wish I knew earlier, and how time (combined with doing your work) transforms pain into possibility.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Are you wondering whether to stay in your relationship? Or thinking about finally leaving your marriage?

Often my clients come to me questioning “good enough” relationships where nothing feels catastrophically or dramatically wrong, but something still feels off.

In this episode, I lead you through 10 powerful questions designed to help you see clearly whether your relationship is serving your growth, your happiness, and your future.

If you’re stuck in indecision, this episode will help you stop overthinking, start reflecting, and make the choice that honours both your heart and your future.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.