Reflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne Hartnell

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The post-divorce glow up story is everywhere… but what looks like transformation from the outside is often a nervous system in survival. Or finally beginning to exhale, settle, recalibrate.

A follow-up to my conversation with Emma Wright, this solo episode is for the woman quietly holding it together, doing the hard, invisible work.

You are allowed to NOT be glowing.

Listen first: Let's Call the Post-Divorce Glow Up What It Really Is, with Emma Wright 

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Marriage is obsolete. Or is it?

Most of Sallyanne's clients are women. Most of them are separating from or divorcing a male partner. And a significant number of them do not repartner afterwards. Consciously choose not to.

In this episode, Sallyanne unpacks why: not because these women have given up on love, become cynical or jaded. It's but because they've done the work most people never do — properly analysing the relationship, from both inside and outside it — and landed somewhere unexpected. A life they genuinely love.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Divorce asks you to say goodbye more than once - to a person, a relationship, to a home, to a version of yourself. 

This episode is about doing that well, using a framework conflict facilitator Priya Parker calls "the connected goodbye," and the story of how my kids and I left the home we built after my divorce.

Key takeaways:

• A connected goodbye has three moves: acknowledge the ending, take stock of what it gave you, mark the exit
• Naming an ending costs less than avoiding it
• What a home - or a person - held for you doesn't disappear when you leave. It comes with you

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Co-living as an option after divorce for single parents.

Finding herself a suddenly single mum with a seven-month-old daughter, Jenna couldn't afford to stay in her home solo. So she looked for a co-living partner and found Priscilla.

They spent 2.5 years co-living with their children, becoming each other's "Life Wife" sharing not just a home, but co-parenting, easing the exhaustion, overwhelm and financial pressures of solo parenting, creating a different type of family.

This is their story, and what Jenna is doing now to support other women and mothers.

Jenna is the co-founder of Lioness Loans Co, a social enterprise broking home loans with her business partner Rachael McKenzie, reinvesting 50% of profits into coaching and mentoring single mums toward home loan readiness. She's also founder of The Lioness Den, a soon-to-be-registered charity with a big vision: affordable housing and intentional communities for single mothers.

With more than 20 years across mental health, disability, crisis accommodation and homelessness, Jenna is building the safe, secure, financially independent future she once needed herself.

Priscilla Jones is a Relationships Counsellor, at Ascolta Wellness. She has a deep passion for helping people understand and navigate their emotions, while enhancing communication, connection and intimacy.

In This Episode

• Advertising for a co-living partner after separation — and finding Priscilla
• 2.5 years of building a different kind of family
• The "Life Wife" dynamic: sharing the load, combating isolation
• Lioness Loans Co and The Lioness Den — Jenna's vision for other single mums

Connect with Jenna on LinkedIn

Connect with Priscilla HERE

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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What She'd Hand You Today

This is a guided episode — part reflection, part writing exercise.

Grab a pen and paper before you press play, because today you're not just listening. You're writing a letter from the woman you're becoming to the woman you are right now.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Be Difficult (You Live Longer)

"Difficult" is a word used to keep women small. Compliant. Quiet. Easy to manage.

This episode is about what actually earns you that label and why it might be the healthiest and the greatest thing you ever could actually be.

In relationships, in families, during divorce, even paretning after divorce "difficult" often just means "different."

A different opinion. Different idea. Different read on the same situation.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Knowing it's the right thing doesn't make it stop hurting. This is a short episode of questions, for anyone still missing someone they know they can't go back to.

In this episode:

• Why missing someone doesn't mean you're wrong to have left
• The questions to ask yourself before you decide what the missing actually means
• The difference between grieving a person and grieving who you were with them

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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What Choosing Yourself Really Costs — And Why It's Worth It Anyway

We talk about "choosing yourself" "main character energy" like it's easy once you decide to do it. A one-and-done decision.

Nobody shows you what the middle part looks like - the disappointing people, the sitting with guilt that isn't yours, the questioning whether you're the problem the moment someone reacts badly to your boundary. Or how that feels.

In this revisit episode, I go back to "choose you" and show you the texture of it. Not the after. The during.

What it costs you.

Why it's worth it.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Trigger warning: this episode touches on domestic violence, childhood trauma, childhood sexual abuse and incest.

In this episode of RR&L, I am joined by Caroline Brunne, a woman who wears many hats, including trauma survivor coach, breathwork facilitator, author, professional speaker, and one half of the team that is Deep Breaths With Louie (aka she is Louie the Therapy Dog’s human)

We discuss:

• Parenting as a DV and CSA Survivor
• The challenges of raising safe boys/men
• Nervous system regulation, how we show up for others and how the energy transfers and...
• Of course…  Louie

Caroline Brunne is a trauma survivor coach, breathwork facilitator, author, professional speaker, and Founder of INSupport Community.

She guides adult trauma survivors through one-on-one coaching, classes and workshops, creating safe, empowering spaces for healing and growth. 

Alongside Louie, her certified therapy dog, Caroline combines coaching, breathwork and animal-assisted therapy to support regulation, resilience, and personal transformation.

Drawing on her lived experience of incest, child sexual abuse, and family and domestic violence, Caroline transforms trauma into empowerment, helping survivors and their supporters navigate recovery with clarity and compassion. 

She prioritises inclusion, diversity, and accessibility in all her programs, ensuring people of any gender, age, or background can access support. 

Through her work, Caroline helps survivors reclaim their voices, embrace their whole selves, and realise they are more than their past, modelling a path toward life beyond trauma.

Connect with Caroline

Website
Instagram
LinkedIn

and

Louie

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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There is a quiet power I see in my clients, during divorce, and after it. Because power, real power, is what becomes available on the other side.

A quiet, settled, deeply rooted kind. A kind that doesn't ask permission or require validation. It simply exists. The quiet power we can access after divorce.

Knowing your worth in divorce changes everything.

This episode is about the woman who is fully, finally becoming aware of everything she is capable of being after divorce and what that actually looks like in practice.

What it means to choose yourself - in the big moments and the small.

Why coming home to yourself is the most powerful thing you can do.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.