The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

Ever wondered how to regain control when communicating with a controlling ex-partner? Join me, Australian Separation and Divorce Coach Danielle Black, as we discuss the insidious tactics like DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) used by these controlling personalities, and learn how their lack of empathy and pathological lying can make them seem more strategic and intelligent than they really are. 

Protecting your mental and emotional well-being is crucial, especially if you're dealing with PTSD or complex PTSD. We'll dive into the importance of establishing healthy boundaries with your ex-partner to prevent ongoing conflict and potential court complications.  Understand why canned responses might backfire and why seeking professional support can make all the difference in crafting effective communication. 
My 1:1 coaching clients get access to exclusive resources to help them navigate communication with their former partners with confidence and clarity.  Sound good? Reach out via my website to connect with me today!

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Join me, Australian coach Danielle Black, as I discuss how my specialised coaching approach prioritises the well-being of both you and your children, equipping you with the tools to set firm boundaries and effectively engage with the legal system after separation. 

 I delve into the unique benefits of one-on-one coaching, supplemented by the camaraderie of group membership, and discuss how weekly group video calls and an online platform can create essential human connections, providing you with much-needed emotional support in a safe and supportive space. 
You'll gain a clear understanding of why individualised coaching is indispensable for those navigating complex and legally challenging divorces, ensuring that your unique needs are met with precision and care.

I also share with you the ways in which I support clients, including providing strategic guidance to assist in modifying parenting plans without legal repercussions, and preparing clients for interactions with court child experts and family consultants. 
By focusing on the safety and well-being of your children, my approach can not only save you money overall, but also helps to you maximise the likelihood of a far better outcome. 

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Can you truly distinguish personality disorders from PTSD and CPTSD, or are the lines more blurred than we think? Join me, Danielle Black, as I unravel the complexities of these conditions, shedding light on how traits like mood swings, depression, and emotional dysregulation overlap in CPTSD and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). I discuss the critical role of accurate diagnosis and effective therapies, such as EMDR, in helping individuals process trauma and reduce emotional triggers. Mislabeling can lead to harmful consequences, so awareness and understanding are paramount.

In the latter part of this episode, I dive into identifying key traits of personality disorders and high conflict personalities, including their impact on relationships and social interactions. I dissect how blaming others, hypersensitivity to criticism, and a lack of self-awareness can make relationships with these individuals particularly challenging. We explore the manipulative behaviours commonly seen in non-disordered abusers and discuss the significant influence of male entitlement and misogyny in abusive dynamics. Lastly, I provide insights into the difficulties of co-parenting and separation from high-conflict, personality disordered individuals, emphasising the importance of personalised strategies over generic 'cookie cutter' solutions.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

What happens when we hastily label our abusive ex-partners as narcissists? Join me, specialist Australian Separation & Divorce Coach Danielle Black, as I explore the critical differences between narcissistic traits and true personality disorders in abusive relationships.
We'll uncover the fact that most abusive male behaviours stem from perceived male entitlement  rather than clinical disorders, and how this understanding can change the way you navigate your own experiences. 
By delving into concepts like male entitlement, and assessing whether problematic or harmful behaviours are consistent across various relationships, you'll gain a clearer perspective on your situation and avoid the pitfalls of mislabeling.

Co-parenting with a potentially "narcissistic" ex, especially when trauma is involved, presents a unique set of challenges. In this episode, we'll look at how trauma and PTSD can sometimes mimic narcissistic behaviours and why it's crucial to distinguish between trauma-driven actions and those stemming from male entitlement and/or personality disorders. 
You'll also learn that generic strategies marketed towards "divorcing a narcissist", like grey rock communication, may not be effective and may even harm your case. We’ll also dissect the long-term patterns associated with personality disorders, helping you recognise key traits and behaviours that differentiate them from non-disordered abusive partners.   

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

This episode of the Post-Separation Abuse Podcast, hosted by Danielle Black, promises to tackle the disturbing realities of abusive and neglectful parenting. Learn how controlling and abusive parents manipulate their children through tactics like 'infantilisation' and 'parentification'. Discover the emotional toll these harmful behaviours take on the children, making them bear the weight of adult responsibilities and catering to a parent's emotional needs. Uncover the red flags, such as threats of self-harm by the abusive parent, and understand the critical importance of recognising these signs to protect the well-being of children.

Specialist coach Danielle Black also shines a spotlight on the behaviours of controlling fathers who use post-separation parenting time as a tool for control rather than connection. These fathers often impose unrealistic expectations, outsource parenting duties, and employ various abusive tactics to maintain dominance. Danielle emphasises the necessity of prioritising the safety and well-being of children over the emotional demands of an abusive ex-partner. 
As the episode wraps up, find out how to navigate the emotional and logistical hurdles of separation and co-parenting by seeking out supportive resources like 1-800-RESPECT, Danielle’s coaching services, and the Stronger, Braver Together community. Join Danielle to find strength, understanding, strategy and practical advice on this challenging journey.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Can cultural and spiritual beliefs be weaponised against you, even after a relationship ends? On this episode of the Post-Separation Abuse Podcast with Danielle Black, discover how abusers manipulate cultural and religious values to maintain control and inflict pain post-separation. Learn how these manipulative tactics can manifest, from undermining your religious beliefs to preventing your children from embracing their heritage.

Join Danielle as she sheds light on the additional betrayal faced by survivors who turn to their cultural or religious communities for support, only to be met with shaming and ostracisation. This episode aims to empower survivors by exposing these insidious forms of abuse and advocating for stronger support systems within our cultural and religious communities.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Ever felt trapped in your own life due to someone else's control over your finances? Discover the insidious world of economic and financial abuse as we unveil tactics that can keep you chained to a controlling partner long after separation. This week, I open up about my own struggle with grief after losing a  family member and the importance of taking time to care for ourselves, especially when life gets overwhelming.  With heartfelt thanks to my supportive clients, I return to the series on post-separation abuse, shining a light on the subtle yet damaging behaviours designed to manipulate and control.

Join me, Danielle Black, as I uncover how economic abuse manifests during and post-relationship, hindering your career and personal growth under the guise of "flexibility". Learn how to identify these manipulative tactics, from unpredictable care arrangements to being forced into domestic roles.  Tune in for an enlightening and empowering episode aimed at helping you navigate these challenges and take back control of your life.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Have you ever felt like your role as a parent is constantly being sabotaged by your ex? The struggle is real!

Controlling and abusive former partners can use both overt and covert strategies to undermine your parenting—like the "Disneyland dad" phenomenon and turning special occasions into battlegrounds.   In listening to his episode you'll learn how to spot these patterns.  Remember, knowledge is power—understanding your ex's motives and manoeuvers is the first step towards maintaining your sanity and protecting your children's wellbeing.   

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Welcome.   I'm Danielle Black, and today we're  exploring the manipulative tactics used by controlling abusers who weaponise children in their ongoing power struggles. 
We'll uncover how these abusers, masking their self-interest as parental concern, often disregard their children’s emotional well-being and developmental needs. 

With heartfelt gratitude, I'm also sharing a glimpse into my world as we transition to weekly episodes. Your unwavering support has allowed me to deepen my commitment to one-on-one coaching, and in turn, continue our shared journey through the complex terrain of separation and co-parenting. 
Your ongoing support engagement – follows, ratings, and reviews – fuels my mission to guide and support more women who are navigating separation, divorce and co-parenting with a controlling former partner.   So here's to our growing community and to the empowering conversations that lie ahead, as we chart a course toward healing and resilience.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Help me to shatter the silence surrounding post-separation abuse as I reveal the unseen struggles that many victim-survivors face. 
In this episode I expose the stark reality of how  manipulative and controlling men brand themselves as victims, and attempt to turn friends, family, and even professionals into unwitting accomplices. 

This episode is a clarion call for community action and solidarity with those who have endured men's violence during relationships and post-separation.  
By challenging the harmful myths that protect abusers and hinder support systems, this discussion is an urgent reminder of our shared duty to create a society that upholds the truth and helps survivors establish support and safety. Join me for a powerful conversation that champions change and offers a beacon of hope to those fighting to be heard.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)