The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

71. When the family report gets it wrong


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A bad family report can feel like a punch to the gut - especially when coercive control gets reframed as “conflict” and your protective choices are miscast as gatekeeping.

In this episode of The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast, I unpack what to do if your family report or child impact report isn’t in your favour. You’ll learn why these reports go wrong, how to respond with calm and clarity, and how to build a plan that keeps your child’s safety at the centre.

We start by resetting expectations: a family report is evidence, not a verdict. I explain the competence gap among report writers in Australia, the lack of national training, and how outdated assumptions from the old “equal shared parental responsibility” era still distort assessments.

Then we get practical. You’ll learn how to:

  • Regulate before reacting
  • Separate observations from conclusions
  • Create an error and omission list that highlights misquotes, missing risk analysis, and reframes that minimise harm

We’ll map the controllables - your clarity, composure, documentation, and focus on child impact - so the court can see the pattern, even when the system stumbles.

If you need structured help, grab the Preparing for Your Family Report Assessment digital guide in the shop or access the Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ for strategy, frameworks, and nervous system support.

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About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

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