Have you ever considered the hidden struggles within same-sex relationships, particularly when it comes to the often overlooked post-separation abuse among lesbian couples? 
Through intimate conversations with clients over the years, I have uncovered the persistent challenges they face, from complex control dynamics to emotional manipulation that doesn't cease with the relationship's end. 
These tales are not just narratives; they're the lived experiences of women who grapple with the unique difficulties of parenting arrangements post-separation. This episode sheds light on these issues, offering a platform for recognition to those within the LGBTQI+ community who feel invisible in the broader discourse of family violence.

This candid discussion peels back the layers of control and abuse tactics that continue to influence parenting disputes, illuminating the often ambiguous division of parenting roles in lesbian relationships compared to their heterosexual counterparts. 
Stepping into the arena of family law, we explore how these dynamics affect the battle for parenting time. 

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Stepping out from the shadows of a high-conflict separation and co-parenting scenario with an abusive ex is a journey many dread.  I've felt the sting of regret for yielding too long to fear, and in this heartfelt discussion, I open up about the hard-earned lessons that can guide you to a future where you stand strong for yourself and your children.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

As a survivor of an abusive relationship, the journey through the legal labyrinth of family law was a battleground I never anticipated, one that many of you might be facing right now. 
In  this podcast episode, I peel back the curtains on the raw truths of navigating the adversarial legal system -  an arena for false accusations and strategic defenses, often leaving the protective parent feeling alone, unprotected and repeatedly victimised. 
In the world of the Australian court system, I also address the harsh reality for those ensnared in prolonged legal disputes fueled by an ex-partner's financial resources. 

For those of you navigating these treacherous waters, or about to set sail into them, I bring insights that could prove to be your anchor. Join me in charting a course through these challenges, providing the beacon of hope and clarity that is so very needed in such trying times.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Have you ever felt unjustly blamed for the strife in a high-conflict separation? 
In this episode I'm  tearing down the myth that both parties are equally responsible for the turmoil that often follows a divorce, especially when it comes to co-parenting. 

As someone who's walked alongside many women embroiled in post-separation battles, I shine a light on the realities they face, including the continuation of family violence they hoped had ended with their relationship. The truth is, these women are frequently on the receiving end of legal action initiated by their ex-partners, and it's high time we recognise and support victim-survivors, rather than perpetuate a cycle of blame.

This episode isn't just about laying bare the challenges—it's about offering solace too.  I discuss the critical importance of building a circle of support, and I share how my group membership program is a lifeline for many women, offering a community that understands without needing the full backstory. 

For anyone feeling isolated, misunderstood, or weary from the fight, this conversation is a reminder that you're not alone, and the weight of dispelling conflict is not yours to carry alone. Tune in for a heart-to-heart, where empathy meets empowerment, and where your side of the story is not only heard but wholeheartedly believed.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Navigating the turbulent waters of high-conflict separation, divorce and co-parenting requires more than just a life vest; it demands a skilled navigator.   
This episode is Part Two of my insights into the ten most common slip-ups people make during these stormy times, helping you steer clear of diving down unnecessary 'diagnosis' rabbit holes and the mirage of 'magical thinking.'   

The journey doesn't end with living in separate homes; especially when children are involved.
For those who are facing the shadow of post-separation abuse, know that support is effective at any stage. 
I stand steadfast in solidarity with everyone fighting the battle of high-conflict divorce and post-separation abuse, and my promise to you is my ongoing offer of transformative specialist divorce coaching.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Navigating the stormy seas of high-conflict separation and divorce can leave even the strongest individuals feeling adrift.
Prepare to sidestep the common pitfalls of splitting from a controlling partner as we dissect the errors many make - from harboring false hopes of change to the missteps of trusting the wrong confidants. We're peeling back the curtain on the truths no one talks about, equipping you with the strategies you need to stay afloat amidst the chaos of a high-conflict breakup.

With children in the picture, the stakes are even higher. In this episode we explore the treacherous territory of high conflict co-parenting, where emotional complexity reigns and innocent children are all too often caught in the middle. 
It's about more than just splitting parenting time; it's about ensuring that your child's well-being remains at the forefront of every decision. 
The insights discussed in this episode are half of the top ten blunders parents make in such delicate circumstances, with a steadfast promise to uncover the rest in our next instalment. Whether you're a parent braving these rough waters, or a supportive friend, this episode is a beacon of understanding in the murky depths of high conflict separation, divorce and co-parenting.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Stepping away from an abusive relationship is like navigating through a maze blindfolded; it’s difficult, it’s frightening, but with the right guidance, you can find a way out.  In this episode I discuss steps for those considering this brave transition.  

The conversation is a deep dive into the world of separation planning amidst the turmoil of an abusive relationship, shedding light on not just the emotional, but also the strategic and practical considerations needed for a safe departure.

This episode unfolds the layers of preparation required in the face of coercion and control, the type that makes your heart race and palms sweat when you think of leaving. We touch on the essential steps of discreetly securing your documents and valuables, to establishing private communications and financial independence. 

It’s about understanding the unpredictable nature of an abuser when control slips from their grasp and ensuring the safety of children who are embroiled in this complex scenario. You’ll hear about the importance of choosing whom to trust with your sensitive plans and how to document everything to uphold your credibility.

Finally, we embrace the harsh reality of breaking free from a controlling partner, especially when they refuse to accept the end. Our discussion extends to include the invaluable role of professional support during these times, from legal advice to the support of a divorce coach. 
The choices aren’t easy, from changing locks to potentially leaving your home to ensure your safety.  My aim is to empower you with the strategies that can help you reclaim your life with courage and determination. This episode isn't just a conversation; it's an ally for those ready to turn the page towards a safer, more peaceful chapter.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Have you ever found yourself questioning your memory or reality, feeling as if your thoughts and feelings were being invalidated?

I tackle the subtle yet destructive practice of gaslighting in this latest conversation, where I bring my expertise as a high-conflict divorce coach to dissect the psychological manipulation designed to make victims doubt their own sanity. 
This episode  reveals the various guises of gaslighting, from the outright lies to the more insidious forms of minimising and blame-shifting. 
Especially challenging is the way these tactics can infiltrate co-parenting dynamics, leaving one partner scrambling to maintain a sense of truth. 
This conversation is a crucial one, as it sheds light on the long-term effects on those who've endured this form of abuse and offers a pathway to reclaiming their trust in their own perceptions.

Escaping the orbit of a manipulative ex is no small feat, a truth many of my clients and  listeners can sadly relate to. The journey to reclaiming autonomy post-separation is fraught with obstacles, often involving an ex who masks controlling behaviors as concern or affection. 

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Have you ever felt bewildered by the shifting dynamics in a relationship, where suddenly you're the one being blamed? 
This latest episode is a stark revelation of the DARVO tactic—Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender—used by abusers to evade responsibility and attack your reality.
We uncover the chilling strategies abusers use to distort reality, assaulting their victim's character to protect their own fragile self-worth. 
This conversation is a must-hear, offering insights into the manipulative playbook that underpins abusive relationships.

Navigating the treacherous waters of psychological manipulation can leave victims disoriented and isolated.  In this episode, we expose how abusers not only deny their victims' experiences but launch a counteroffensive aimed at reversing roles, painting themselves as the aggrieved party.   The impact on victims' credibility and support systems can be devastating.  This episode peels back the layers of these abusive dynamics, providing clarity and validation for anyone who has faced such bewildering and harmful treatment.  Join me, Danielle Black, to unearth the unsettling truths of DARVO and bolster your understanding of these complex interpersonal battles.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

My voice may crack a bit today, after an intense week of coaching sessions has left its mark, but the message I'm about to share transcends any hoarseness. 
We're addressing the heart-wrenching process of contemplating separation or divorce, especially when the specter of abuse looms large and the stakes are immeasurably high. It's a journey fraught with emotional complexity, requiring not just careful consideration but, at times, meticulous planning for those in situations of manipulation and control.

This episode brings to light the harsh realities for those considering the tough decision to leave an abusive relationship, as well as unpacks the deceptive facade that can arise within couples counseling in such contexts. 
I'm not just talking about the steps to recognise and escape an abusive dynamic, I'm providing an anchor—a community of support for those who feel isolated in their struggles. This conversation is a testament to the strength and resilience required on the path to safety and healing.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)