I'm Danielle Black, your Specialist Separation, Divorce, and Co-Parenting Coach, here to guide Australian women through the stormy waters of separation, divorce, court preparation and effective co-parenting. 
This bonus episode of the Post-Separation Abuse Podcast is part of the 'Safe-Guarding' series, where I unpack the different ways in which you can safe-guard yourself from accusations of alienation, withholding and gatekeeping.

Throughout the podcast, I emphasise the power of preparation and the importance of flexibility in thinking. I discuss the necessity of demonstrating your ability to consider alternative parenting arrangements, even in the face of family violence or post-separation abuse.
 It's not just about being heard, but also about how you're perceived, which can profoundly influence the recommendations in child impact reports - something that can have a significant impact on your overall outcome. 

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

The conversation in this episode branches out to the often-shadowed corners of complex PTSD, where symptoms can masquerade as other disorders, leading to alarming rates of misdiagnosis.   
It's a frank discussion with Australian Separation & Divorce Coach Danielle Black on the implications that such misinterpretations can have within the courtroom, and the importance of receiving appropriate treatment and taking responsibility for your healing in order to influence the way in which you are perceived by others.    

Also, healing trauma FEELS GOOD!  You deserve to enjoy your life as fully as possible, and this is what your children need from you too.  You can do it, but you don't have to do it alone.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

In this episode I emphasise the importance of consistent written communication as a safeguard against false accusations.  Whether it's setting up a new email address or using secure platforms like Our Family Wizard, these strategies can help you to maintain  your credibility and shield your children from as much conflict as possible.

It's about more than just avoiding phone calls or responding on your own terms—it's about curating a child-focused environment.  I share strategies for using email to send regular updates on your children's lives, strategies for sharing their milestones, and the wisdom of scrutinising shared content to ensure your childrens' best interests are always in focus. 

You may not like communicating with your ex, but not doing so can leave you open to significant criticism, including accusations of 'withholding', 'gatekeeping' and the dreaded 'parental alienation' - especially if you end up in court.

Take back your power and control and do what you can to optimise how you are perceived by others on this challenging journey!

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

As a mother who's trudged through the murky waters of post-separation abuse, I understand the tightrope walk of safeguarding children while facing the possibility of false accusations of things like 'withholding', 'gatekeeping' and 'alienation'.

This episode shines a light on the credibility battles many women face when family violence surfaces in legal disputes. It's a candid discussion that hinges on the painful truth: the way a man treats the mother of his children often foreshadows his post-separation behaviour. 

Transitioning to and from supervised visitation can feel like navigating a minefield and I explore this delicate topic with an emphasis on the significance of professional supervision and other tools at your disposal, like hair follicle testing and BACtrack alcohol monitoring, to ensure the safety and well-being of your precious children during these visits. 

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

As a parent who might be battling to shield your children from an abusive ex, the fear of being slapped with accusations of 'alienation' is all too real. 

Embarking on the family law journey as a protective parent requires a delicate strategy, and in this episode I discuss how to utilise supervised visitation to your advantage. Steering clear of alienation accusations, while ensuring your children's safety, can feel like an impossible task but in this episode, and others to follow, I will discuss how to balance the act of being a protective parent while maintaining your credibility.

Join us for me for the first part of this crucial conversation—because when it comes to  navigating separation and co-parenting with a controlling abuser, knowledge is not just power, it's protection.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Unraveling the complexities of 'alienation' in family law, this episode dissects the controversial concept of the debunked 'parental alienation syndrome',  and reveals the deep-seated biases that imperil protective mothers and their children in the Australian legal system. 
You're invited to join a critical conversation that questions the societal and legal insistence on preserving a child's connection with both parents in the face of abuse. This discussion exposes the systemic failures that endanger children placed in contact with abusive parents, and sheds light on the inadvertent yet troubling role that professionals may play in perpetuating this cycle.

Host and specialist Separation and Divorce Coach, Danielle Black,  champions the abandonment of discredited terms like 'parental alienation', advocating for clearer language that truly captures the manipulative tactics of abusers and reinforcing the urgency of protecting both women and children post-separation. 

In Danielle's trademark 'no BS' style, and drawing from her own lived experience as well as that of her many clients, this episode serves as a clarion call for change.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Struggling to navigate through the stormy seas of separation or co-parenting with a controlling person? 
Inside this episode, I share the importance of carefully curating your inner circle and how to balance what you disclose to the outer circles that include work colleagues and neighbors. As a strategic separation and divorce specialist coach, I provide you with the tools to keep your ship steady, even when the current tries to pull you under. Listen in, and together, let's become stronger, braver, and more resilient against the tides of control and manipulation.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Navigating the labyrinth of family court post-separation can feel like a descent into the unknown, but I'm no stranger to this daunting path.
 I've lived through the turmoil myself and now I hope to shed some light on the key differences between Australian and American family law systems. 
This episode is a candid exploration of the fears and misconceptions that haunt many women facing potential court outcomes, and as we unravel the myths and highlight the importance of tailored legal advice, this discussion is an essential guide for those fearing the loss of parenting time. 
No legalese or jargon here; just real insights drawn from my experiences, conversations with clients, and connections with legal professionals.   It's a deep dive into the realities of the Australian legal framework, contrasting sharply with the narratives often presented in American contexts. Tune in for a compassionate, empowering perspective that encourages critical thinking over fear, encouraging you to maintain healthy scepticism when consuming online content about separation and divorce.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Navigating the stormy seas of separation becomes even more challenging when you're tethered to a high-conflict ex-partner, doesn't it?  
In this episode, I don't shy away from my trademark honesty as I tell it like it is when you share one or more children with a controlling person.
As your guide, I bring to light the often hidden realities of parallel parenting, laying bare the truth that working amicably with a controlling ex might be as realistic as finding a unicorn! 
This episode peels back the layers of what it truly means to parent alongside someone whose behaviours could echo the hallmarks of a personality disorder, such as narcissism. This discussion is candid, and I unravel the emotional threads that bind us to the hope of collaborative co-parenting - and how to cut them for the wellbeing of our children and ourselves.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

When you're caught in the throes of divorce and tasked with co-parenting, emotions can run high—especially when communication with an ex feels like navigating a minefield. This episode is a heartfelt guide to managing those complex feelings and finding peace amidst chaos.  I open up about my own struggles and breakthroughs, sharing the strategies that have helped me maintain emotional balance, whether it's through journaling or a therapeutic session of EMDR.

Facing your ex in a co-parenting dialogue can be daunting, and for some, the urge to retreat is palpable. During this episode, I tackle why avoidance can sabotage not just personal healing but also the practicalities of legal matters.  

Lastly, I take you on a journey through the landscape of 'felt safety.' 
Understanding how our perceptions can trigger a stress response even in the absence of real danger is crucial for anyone who's experienced control or abuse in a relationship. This episode doesn't just offer a perspective; it aims to be a companion in the search for improved emotional wellbeing and healthier relationships.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.