The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

80. Understanding coercive control (Part 2): The 7 patterns directed at children


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If Part 1 helped you understand the patterned aspect of coercive control, this episode helps you finally see the harm.


In Part 2 of this series, Danielle Black breaks down the 7 child-directed patterns of coercive control - the tactics most family law professionals completely overlook, and the ones that cause the deepest developmental harm to children.

Drawing on lived experience, research, and hundreds of real cases, Danielle explains:

  • The 7 ways coercive control targets children, not just the other parent
  • How to recognise patterns like conditional love, triangulation, undermining authority, isolation, fear-based compliance, parentification, and gaslighting
  • How to document these patterns with clarity, accuracy, and strategy
  • What professionals need to see (and why they don’t connect the dots on their own)
  • How to speak the “language” of the family law system so your concerns cannot be dismissed as conflict

If you’ve ever felt like something is “off” in the way your ex parents - but struggled to explain it - this episode gives you the words, the lens, and the clarity you’ve been missing.

This is the episode that changes how you see everything.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed right now - good. It means your instincts are working.

But instinct isn’t enough if you're navigating the court system with a controlling co-parent. You need structure, strategy, and language.

That’s what the Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint gives you.

And starting Friday 28 November 2025, you can get:

  • $300 off
  • 4 months of AI Danielle to support you 24/7

Take advantage of this special offer.
Your future self will thank you.

More information about the blueprint: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/the-post-separation-parenting-blueprint-1


About Danielle Black Coaching:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience across education, counselling and coaching - alongside her own lived experience navigating a complex separation and family court journey - she supports parents to think strategically, build capacity, and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing within complex legal and relational systems.

Through Danielle Black Coaching, she leads a growing team of specialist coaches and a structured support ecosystem designed to provide professionally held, evidence-informed guidance for parents navigating high-conflict separation and family court processes.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au


This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

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