Why do family lawyers, mediators, report writers and even judges keep missing what might be painfully obvious to you - that this isn’t “high conflict,” it’s coercive control? And why does that mislabel put your children in danger?

In this episode, Danielle Black breaks down the core reason the family law system consistently fails to recognise coercive control: it’s using the wrong framework.
While professionals are trained to look for incidents, coercive control is a pattern - and one that directly harms children long after separation.

Drawing on lived experience, current research (including Professor Evan Stark and Dr Julie Blake), and two decades of lived experience along with supporting hundreds of protective parents, Danielle explains:

• Why coercive control is repeatedly misidentified as “communication issues”
• How patterns become invisible when professionals look only for incidents
• Why coercive control is a parenting issue, not just an “adult relationship issue”
• The seven child-directed patterns parents must learn to identify (Black 2025)
• How mislabelling coercive control leads to unsafe recommendations and harmful orders
• Why protective parents must become the experts in their own case
• What the system needs to understand - and how to make it impossible for them to ignore

This episode gives you the clarity, language, and strategic lens that most legal professionals simply don’t have.
If you’ve ever been dismissed, minimised or misunderstood, this episode will validate your experience - and help you start advocating in a way the system can hear.

Part 2 continues later in the week will continue with the 7 patterns of coercive control directed at children - with examples, red flags, and documentation guidance.

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About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.