As a survivor of an abusive relationship, the journey through the legal labyrinth of family law was a battleground I never anticipated, one that many of you might be facing right now. 
In  this podcast episode, I peel back the curtains on the raw truths of navigating the adversarial legal system -  an arena for false accusations and strategic defenses, often leaving the protective parent feeling alone, unprotected and repeatedly victimised. 
In the world of the Australian court system, I also address the harsh reality for those ensnared in prolonged legal disputes fueled by an ex-partner's financial resources. 

For those of you navigating these treacherous waters, or about to set sail into them, I bring insights that could prove to be your anchor. Join me in charting a course through these challenges, providing the beacon of hope and clarity that is so very needed in such trying times.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Have you ever felt unjustly blamed for the strife in a high-conflict separation? 
In this episode I'm  tearing down the myth that both parties are equally responsible for the turmoil that often follows a divorce, especially when it comes to co-parenting. 

As someone who's walked alongside many women embroiled in post-separation battles, I shine a light on the realities they face, including the continuation of family violence they hoped had ended with their relationship. The truth is, these women are frequently on the receiving end of legal action initiated by their ex-partners, and it's high time we recognise and support victim-survivors, rather than perpetuate a cycle of blame.

This episode isn't just about laying bare the challenges—it's about offering solace too.  I discuss the critical importance of building a circle of support, and I share how my group membership program is a lifeline for many women, offering a community that understands without needing the full backstory. 

For anyone feeling isolated, misunderstood, or weary from the fight, this conversation is a reminder that you're not alone, and the weight of dispelling conflict is not yours to carry alone. Tune in for a heart-to-heart, where empathy meets empowerment, and where your side of the story is not only heard but wholeheartedly believed.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Navigating the turbulent waters of high-conflict separation, divorce and co-parenting requires more than just a life vest; it demands a skilled navigator.   
This episode is Part Two of my insights into the ten most common slip-ups people make during these stormy times, helping you steer clear of diving down unnecessary 'diagnosis' rabbit holes and the mirage of 'magical thinking.'   

The journey doesn't end with living in separate homes; especially when children are involved.
For those who are facing the shadow of post-separation abuse, know that support is effective at any stage. 
I stand steadfast in solidarity with everyone fighting the battle of high-conflict divorce and post-separation abuse, and my promise to you is my ongoing offer of transformative specialist divorce coaching.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Navigating the stormy seas of high-conflict separation and divorce can leave even the strongest individuals feeling adrift.
Prepare to sidestep the common pitfalls of splitting from a controlling partner as we dissect the errors many make - from harboring false hopes of change to the missteps of trusting the wrong confidants. We're peeling back the curtain on the truths no one talks about, equipping you with the strategies you need to stay afloat amidst the chaos of a high-conflict breakup.

With children in the picture, the stakes are even higher. In this episode we explore the treacherous territory of high conflict co-parenting, where emotional complexity reigns and innocent children are all too often caught in the middle. 
It's about more than just splitting parenting time; it's about ensuring that your child's well-being remains at the forefront of every decision. 
The insights discussed in this episode are half of the top ten blunders parents make in such delicate circumstances, with a steadfast promise to uncover the rest in our next instalment. Whether you're a parent braving these rough waters, or a supportive friend, this episode is a beacon of understanding in the murky depths of high conflict separation, divorce and co-parenting.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Stepping away from an abusive relationship is like navigating through a maze blindfolded; it’s difficult, it’s frightening, but with the right guidance, you can find a way out.  In this episode I discuss steps for those considering this brave transition.  

The conversation is a deep dive into the world of separation planning amidst the turmoil of an abusive relationship, shedding light on not just the emotional, but also the strategic and practical considerations needed for a safe departure.

This episode unfolds the layers of preparation required in the face of coercion and control, the type that makes your heart race and palms sweat when you think of leaving. We touch on the essential steps of discreetly securing your documents and valuables, to establishing private communications and financial independence. 

It’s about understanding the unpredictable nature of an abuser when control slips from their grasp and ensuring the safety of children who are embroiled in this complex scenario. You’ll hear about the importance of choosing whom to trust with your sensitive plans and how to document everything to uphold your credibility.

Finally, we embrace the harsh reality of breaking free from a controlling partner, especially when they refuse to accept the end. Our discussion extends to include the invaluable role of professional support during these times, from legal advice to the support of a divorce coach. 
The choices aren’t easy, from changing locks to potentially leaving your home to ensure your safety.  My aim is to empower you with the strategies that can help you reclaim your life with courage and determination. This episode isn't just a conversation; it's an ally for those ready to turn the page towards a safer, more peaceful chapter.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Have you ever found yourself questioning your memory or reality, feeling as if your thoughts and feelings were being invalidated?

I tackle the subtle yet destructive practice of gaslighting in this latest conversation, where I bring my expertise as a high-conflict divorce coach to dissect the psychological manipulation designed to make victims doubt their own sanity. 
This episode  reveals the various guises of gaslighting, from the outright lies to the more insidious forms of minimising and blame-shifting. 
Especially challenging is the way these tactics can infiltrate co-parenting dynamics, leaving one partner scrambling to maintain a sense of truth. 
This conversation is a crucial one, as it sheds light on the long-term effects on those who've endured this form of abuse and offers a pathway to reclaiming their trust in their own perceptions.

Escaping the orbit of a manipulative ex is no small feat, a truth many of my clients and  listeners can sadly relate to. The journey to reclaiming autonomy post-separation is fraught with obstacles, often involving an ex who masks controlling behaviors as concern or affection. 

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Have you ever felt bewildered by the shifting dynamics in a relationship, where suddenly you're the one being blamed? 
This latest episode is a stark revelation of the DARVO tactic—Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender—used by abusers to evade responsibility and attack your reality.
We uncover the chilling strategies abusers use to distort reality, assaulting their victim's character to protect their own fragile self-worth. 
This conversation is a must-hear, offering insights into the manipulative playbook that underpins abusive relationships.

Navigating the treacherous waters of psychological manipulation can leave victims disoriented and isolated.  In this episode, we expose how abusers not only deny their victims' experiences but launch a counteroffensive aimed at reversing roles, painting themselves as the aggrieved party.   The impact on victims' credibility and support systems can be devastating.  This episode peels back the layers of these abusive dynamics, providing clarity and validation for anyone who has faced such bewildering and harmful treatment.  Join me, Danielle Black, to unearth the unsettling truths of DARVO and bolster your understanding of these complex interpersonal battles.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

My voice may crack a bit today, after an intense week of coaching sessions has left its mark, but the message I'm about to share transcends any hoarseness. 
We're addressing the heart-wrenching process of contemplating separation or divorce, especially when the specter of abuse looms large and the stakes are immeasurably high. It's a journey fraught with emotional complexity, requiring not just careful consideration but, at times, meticulous planning for those in situations of manipulation and control.

This episode brings to light the harsh realities for those considering the tough decision to leave an abusive relationship, as well as unpacks the deceptive facade that can arise within couples counseling in such contexts. 
I'm not just talking about the steps to recognise and escape an abusive dynamic, I'm providing an anchor—a community of support for those who feel isolated in their struggles. This conversation is a testament to the strength and resilience required on the path to safety and healing.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Post-separation abuse and chaos at Christmas go hand in hand!
So what is it about Christmas, and other special holidays, that seem to bring out the worst in high-conflict abusers?    
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Join me on this episode as we discuss the chaos that controlling and abusive people attempt to create during the festive season.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Many mistakenly believe that 'anger' issues are responsible for why abusers behave the way they do. 

The truth?  No one gets hurt when someone feels an emotion.

People get hurt when someone chooses a behaviour.

Want to learn more? Keep listening!

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.