Have you ever found yourself questioning your memory or reality, feeling as if your thoughts and feelings were being invalidated?

I tackle the subtle yet destructive practice of gaslighting in this latest conversation, where I bring my expertise as a high-conflict divorce coach to dissect the psychological manipulation designed to make victims doubt their own sanity. 
This episode  reveals the various guises of gaslighting, from the outright lies to the more insidious forms of minimising and blame-shifting. 
Especially challenging is the way these tactics can infiltrate co-parenting dynamics, leaving one partner scrambling to maintain a sense of truth. 
This conversation is a crucial one, as it sheds light on the long-term effects on those who've endured this form of abuse and offers a pathway to reclaiming their trust in their own perceptions.

Escaping the orbit of a manipulative ex is no small feat, a truth many of my clients and  listeners can sadly relate to. The journey to reclaiming autonomy post-separation is fraught with obstacles, often involving an ex who masks controlling behaviors as concern or affection. 

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Have you ever felt bewildered by the shifting dynamics in a relationship, where suddenly you're the one being blamed? 
This latest episode is a stark revelation of the DARVO tactic—Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender—used by abusers to evade responsibility and attack your reality.
We uncover the chilling strategies abusers use to distort reality, assaulting their victim's character to protect their own fragile self-worth. 
This conversation is a must-hear, offering insights into the manipulative playbook that underpins abusive relationships.

Navigating the treacherous waters of psychological manipulation can leave victims disoriented and isolated.  In this episode, we expose how abusers not only deny their victims' experiences but launch a counteroffensive aimed at reversing roles, painting themselves as the aggrieved party.   The impact on victims' credibility and support systems can be devastating.  This episode peels back the layers of these abusive dynamics, providing clarity and validation for anyone who has faced such bewildering and harmful treatment.  Join me, Danielle Black, to unearth the unsettling truths of DARVO and bolster your understanding of these complex interpersonal battles.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

My voice may crack a bit today, after an intense week of coaching sessions has left its mark, but the message I'm about to share transcends any hoarseness. 
We're addressing the heart-wrenching process of contemplating separation or divorce, especially when the specter of abuse looms large and the stakes are immeasurably high. It's a journey fraught with emotional complexity, requiring not just careful consideration but, at times, meticulous planning for those in situations of manipulation and control.

This episode brings to light the harsh realities for those considering the tough decision to leave an abusive relationship, as well as unpacks the deceptive facade that can arise within couples counseling in such contexts. 
I'm not just talking about the steps to recognise and escape an abusive dynamic, I'm providing an anchor—a community of support for those who feel isolated in their struggles. This conversation is a testament to the strength and resilience required on the path to safety and healing.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Post-separation abuse and chaos at Christmas go hand in hand!
So what is it about Christmas, and other special holidays, that seem to bring out the worst in high-conflict abusers?    
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Join me on this episode as we discuss the chaos that controlling and abusive people attempt to create during the festive season.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Many mistakenly believe that 'anger' issues are responsible for why abusers behave the way they do. 

The truth?  No one gets hurt when someone feels an emotion.

People get hurt when someone chooses a behaviour.

Want to learn more? Keep listening!

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Women are often encouraged to leave abusive relationships by well-meaning others, but many are taken by surprise by the ongoing attempts to control and abuse by their ex-partner after separation.

Also surprising is the incredible lack of support for women and children AFTER separation.  

Join me on the this episode as I begin the important conversation about the unspoken reality of post-separation abuse.  

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

 You may have heard about 'family violence' or 'domestic violence', or even 'coercive control'...but what about 'post-separation abuse'?

After separation, an abuser doesn't magically stop wanting power and control over his former partner.  The attempts to gain and maintain control can take a number of different forms, and in some cases can last for years.

Tune in to this episode to hear my thoughts about post-separation abuse.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

Navigating the wilderness of high-conflict separation and post-separation abuse?
I support Australian women who are navigating ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation.

Join me to break the silence, shatter the stigma and build a community of understanding and support.  We are stronger, and braver, together.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.