After he reached out with a letter, Pastor Derek sits down with Iyanla. He confides that he has spent years hiding his identity as a gay man. His family has shown open hostility toward gay people and he lives in fear of what would happen if his true identify were revealed to his family and his parishioners. Iyanla works to help Derek understand that his pain will continue to devour him until he faces his greatest fears, and helps him prepare him for the huge step of coming out to his family and church.