Iyanla: Fix My Life

Iyanla seeks to begin the healing process by helping two gay pastors fully accept themselves, encouraging them to come out to those they care most about and having them acknowledge the harm caused by their deceptive pasts.

After he reached out with a letter, Pastor Derek sits down with Iyanla. He confides that he has spent years hiding his identity as a gay man. His family has shown open hostility toward gay people and he lives in fear of what would happen if his true identify were revealed to his family and his parishioners. Iyanla works to help Derek understand that his pain will continue to devour him until he faces his greatest fears, and helps him prepare him for the huge step of coming out to his family and church.

In an emotional three-episode podcast series, Iyanla travels to Louisville, Kentucky, to help two pastors whose true identities as gay men have been shrouded in years of lies, secrets and deception. The time has come for both to be true to themselves, while taking the very difficult step of coming out to the people they care about most.

Iyanla travels to the Dallas area to support a couple in the midst of a serious marriage crisis. OJ and Janetria both admit that their frequent fights turn physical, but neither seems to think this is a real problem--until Iyanla arrives on their couch and asks them to reenact their latest fight. When their petty argument about the dish drain ends with OJ's hands around his wife's neck, Iyanla kicks him out of the house. In trying to understand why Janetria chooses to stay with a man who is prone to abusive conduct, Iyanla uncovers something in Janetria's past that may hold the answer. Later, Iyanla talks with OJ about his actions, bringing him face to face with his mother and sister, who confront him about his angry behavior. By the end of Day One, OJ and Janetria both can see they've been locked in an abusive relationship for years. But whether they choose to stay together or go their separate ways is ultimately up to them.

Iyanla goes to Minneapolis to help a woman who says she feels worthless in her life as a wife and mother. Married to her husband for three years, she feels he is detached and unsupportive. Her teenage daughter says that she wishes her mother would leave him. This mom is struggling to hang on to her marriage and deal with unhappy children. She says she has become so good at masking her life that it has become the norm for how she lives her life. She doesn't know if staying in this second marriage is best for her and her children. Can Iyanla give them the tools to fix their blended family?

Former reality stars Neffeteria "Neffe" Pugh and her husband, Shelby (aka "Soullow"), return to Iyanla in an attempt to heal their broken marriage for a second time. Iyanla first meets with Neffe to understand what has changed--or what hasn't changed--since last year's healing work. After listing excuses for why she didn't complete her homework, Neffe admits she has not taken advantage of the tools and resources that Iyanla offered her last year. Neffe chose not to attend the weekend retreat that Iyanla graciously invited her to, has not stopped drinking and has refused outside help at every opportunity. Neffe also tells Iyanla that since her last visit, she has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder by a medical professional, but is in denial that this is a possible diagnosis. After pouring destructive behaviors into their relationship, the couple finally reaches the unfortunate breakthrough they were desperately seeking, and agree to end their marriage.

Iyanla travels to Nanuet, New York, to help rapper, actor and reality TV star Saigon and his on-again, off-again lover and mother to his son, Erica Jean. Many know the couple for their tumultuous relationship, displayed on the reality series "Love & Hip Hop: New York." Anger, fighting, resentment and a failure to communicate is threatening their ability to effectively co-parent their young child, Steven. In an emotionally charged episode and a series of heart-to-heart, individual and joint sessions with Saigon and Erica, Iyanla attempts to get to the root of their dysfunction and bring these two parents together for their son's sake, before it is too late.

Iyanla works with a couple from Knoxville, Tennessee, who say they are trapped in a sexless marriage. Tiffany and Nick have been married for five years, but they admit to rarely having sex, sometimes going a full year without being intimate. Tiffany feels that the problem rests with Nick's lack of initiative. Nick says Tiffany's nagging and controlling ways turn him off. But sex is not the real problem here--painful past hurts are tearing this couple apart. Iyanla steps in to address the root causes of the couple's lack of intimacy, before their marriage dissolves.

Iyanla travels to Los Angeles to work with Bonnie, a woman whose weight has spiraled to a staggering 600 pounds, confining her to her home and bed for years. Iyanla helps Bonnie examine the emotional road that led to her health crisis, beginning with the death of her mother, and her increasingly deteriorating relationship with her daughter and caretaker, Jamesha. Through one-on-one therapy sessions with Bonnie and revealing joint sessions with Jamesha, Iyanla works to repair the mother-daughter relationship and lead Bonnie to a healthier lifestyle and loving future with her daughter.

Iyanla travels to the suburbs of Detroit to help a husband and wife who are in the midst of a breakdown. Felisha tells Iyanla that her husband's online affair has made her angry and she feels she may never be able to forgive him. Felisha's anger has also been used to cover up her well-kept secret --- her own affair from years past that could ultimately destroy their marriage. While talking with husband Don, he reveals to Iyanla that his wife accused him of deliberately causing a car accident while they were arguing, leaving her severely injured and him guilt-ridden. Iyanla realizes that both Felisha and Don have been living in their marriage with their backs to each other. She works to help them acknowledge each other's pain and to start the couple on the path of forgiveness that is essential to the survival of their relationship.