When an autistic and a non-autistic person have a social interaction, there's an assumption that if non-autistic people are doing it "right" autistic people must be doing it "wrong," says research psychologist and autism activist Dr Jac den Houting (they/them). It's too easily forgotten that autistic people work just as hard to understand non-autistic people and when there's miscommunication both sides are contributing to it, Dr Houting tells Kim Hill.