There’s a growing weight on young men who feel like they’re stuck between who they are and who they’re supposed to be. Fear, doubt, and the constant noise of comparison create this low hum of paralysis that’s hard to shake. Some fold under it, others find a way to push through—and that difference often comes down to refusing to give up responsibility for their own life. It’s not about having the answers right away, but being willing to take back the wheel.

Jason Redman is a retired Navy SEAL, speaker, and author of Overcome and The Trident. Known for his "Sign on the Door" mindset, he teaches resilience, leadership, and growth through his military and life experiences. Today, he speaks about leading at home and in life. He shares stories from combat, lessons on marriage and parenting, and stresses the value of responsibility, grit, and constant self-improvement. Join in as young leaders pose inquiries about life, personal development, and beyond!

Quotes:

• “Every single human can relate to the bullets and bombs of life. You've been blown up by rejection and failure. You've been shot down by injury, illness or loss.” – Jason Redman
• “God provided the skills and talent, but it's up to you to unlock the greatest version of yourself—He wasn't the one lifting those weights; you were.” – Jason Redman
• “Your success and your ability to be great in this life is directly proportional to you. It doesn't guarantee you're going to accomplish every goal and dream you go after. But we need to teach kids once again that you have the power to be amazing.” – Jason Redman
• “You have the standards and values, you don't compromise on them, and then you build everything else and you keep building that over time.” – Matt Beaudreau

Takeaways:

• Write your personal "sign on the door" - a clear statement of who you want to become, and place it where you'll see it daily.
• Choose one area (physical, personal, professional) and commit to being 10% better this month through specific, measurable actions.
• Have an honest conversation with your spouse or closest teammate about shared goals and dreams for the next 5 years.
• Pick one physical or skill-based activity that pushes you out of your comfort zone and requires consistent practice.
• Identify one victim mentality thought pattern you currently have and replace it with a proactive, solution-oriented mindset.

Conclusion:

Real leadership starts with self-awareness—knowing what matters most, staying focused on clear goals, and not allowing outside pressures to shape who you are. When people choose to face challenges head-on instead of backing down, they grow stronger and more confident in every area of life. This mindset not only builds personal strength, but also supports deeper connections and a greater sense of purpose. It's less about control and more about showing up fully, even when things are hard.