When it comes to discussions around sex, historically the church has stayed quiet. As more and more pastors, authors, and psychologists within the church begin writing and talking about sex, the challenge becomes how to make these discussions accessible, nuanced, grace-filled, and Bible-based. In this episode, Juli speaks again with author and pastor Joshua Butler, as together they examine the challenges surrounding talking about sex from within the church.

Guest: Joshua Butler

Josh’s Instagram: @joshuabutlerphx Josh’s Twitter: @butlerjosh

Josh’s Website: https://joshuaryanbutler.com/

Book: Beautiful Union: How God's Vision for Sex Points Us to the Good, Unlocks the True, and (Sort of) Explains Everything

Java with Juli: #462 Beautiful Union: How Our Sexuality Reveals God’s Heart for Covenant Love

Blog Post: When Cancel Culture Invades the Church

What if sex and gender are not as arbitrary as many people tend to think? Is it possible that God has woven holy significance into our very DNA as gendered, sexual beings? In this episode, Juli sits down with author Joshua Butler to talk about his book, “Beautiful Union”, and the ways we can see God’s gospel message evidenced in everything from the beauty of a sunset to our own sexuality.

Guest: Joshua Butler

Josh’s Instagram: @joshuabutlerphx Josh’s Twitter: @butlerjosh

Josh’s Website: https://joshuaryanbutler.com/

Josh's Book: Beautiful Union: How God's Vision for Sex Points Us to the Good, Unlocks the True, and (Sort of) Explains Everything

Join Juli for Second Cup

Java with Juli: #313 The Greatest Love Story

Blog Post: What's the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really?

Juli Slattery and Jonathan Pokluda tackle tough questions about how to find freedom from the sin that we hate, the difference between regret and self condemnation, and how the gospel is good news for all of us. 

Guest: Jonathan "JP" Pokluda

Show Notes:

Why Do I Do What I Don't Want To Do? by Jonathan Pokluda

Why Is Healing So Hard? (Juli's blog)

Absolute Surrender by Andrew Murray

More from JP, #429 How to Find Love When Dating Has Changed (member exclusive)

How do you talk to young kids about sex? Keep conversations small and have them often. Justin and Lindsey Holcomb are back to share insights on talking to your kids about their bodies, God's design for sexuality, and the boundaries of healthy touch.

Guests: Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

Show notes:

Java #459 How Sexual Abuse Affects You (And Why God Is Still Trustworthy) with Justin and Lindsey

God Made All of Me by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

God Made Me in His Image by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

God Made Babies by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

Parenting Through Weakness (Juli’s blog)

Java #316 Sorry Mom & Dad, the "Sex Talk" Doesn't Work (exclusive content)

"What happened to me wasn't rape." "I didn't stop it right away." "I shouldn't have been at that party in the first place." 

If you've ever had thoughts like these, about yourself or someone else, your definition of sexual abuse is too narrow. Join us to learn what sexual abuse is and what consent isn't. (And, if you've never been a victim of sexual assault, trust us, you know someone who has. This conversation is for you, too.)

Guests: Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

Show notes:

Join an online book study

Rid of My Disgrace by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb

More resources from Justin & Lindsey Holcomb

In the last ten years, some 16 million women have stopped going to church. Are you one of them? Join us for a conversation about why we've been rethinking church—and why it may be time for you to go back.

Guest: Ericka Andersen

Show notes:

• Spring online book studies are open! Register here.
• A Reason to Return; Why Women Need the Church and the Church Needs Women by Ericka Andersen
• Church Is Good for You. It's Time to Go Back (Juli's blog)

Take the guess work out of your sex life and learn how to tell (or show) your spouse what feels good in the bedroom.

Guest: Dr. Corey Allan

Show notes:

Apply to join the Coaching Intensive for Wives Struggling with Sexual Pain

The "Passionately Married Podcast" with Dr. Corey and Pam Allan

Java #407 Masturbation: The No.1 Question You're Asking Us (exclusive content)

Masturbation: Is It Wrong? (en Espanol) (Juli's blog)

What's OK in the Bedroom? (Juli's blog)

Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers (Juli's blog)

Five Things You Need to Know About Women, Orgasm, and Intimacy (Juli's blog)

The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex by Cliff & Joyce Penner*

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Kia Stephens knows many women (like herself) who looked to the arms of other men for the affirmation they longed to receive from their fathers. You'll love her humor, wisdom, and vulnerability as she shares how she traded the pain of what her earthly father couldn’t give her for the perfect love of her heavenly Father. 

Guest: Kia Stephens

Show notes:

• Overcoming Father Wounds by Kia Stephens
• Take the Father Wounds Quiz
• Leave us a rating and review

Tired of having the same fight with your spouse—over and over again? Are you stuck in a place of shame or grief or bitterness? Juli sits down with Greg and Erin Smalley today to encourage you to find a Christian counselor to help you get, well, unstuck. 

Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley

Show notes:

God, Sex, and Your Marriage workbook, by Dr. Juli Slattery

How to Choose a Wise Counselor (Juli's blog)

The FOTF Network of Christian Counselors

Fight Your Way To a Better Marriage by Greg and Erin Smalley*

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For most of her childhood, Laura wanted to be a boy. In her 20s, she began hormone therapy, had surgery and lived as Jake for nine years. But she could never quite shake the feeling that none of it was real. "I remember looking at the photo on my driver's license and saying, 'I'm not as happy as I think I am.'" In this episode, Laura shares her remarkable story of desperation, hope and transformation.

Guest: Laura Perry Smalts

Show notes:

• Transgender to Transformed by Laura Perry Smalts*
• Java #396 Diverse Gender Identities: How to See the People Behind the Issue
• Java #397 How to Help Families Navigate Questions About Gender Identity
• Become an AI Member

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