The Boundless Show

Navigating dating as a woman in your 30s, plus a psychiatrist’s tips for getting mental health care, and giving church community a second chance. 

Featured musical artist: Hollyn

Roundtable: Dating in Your 30s (Girls’ Edition)

What is dating like in your 30s compared to your 20s? Is the pressure higher? The disappointments greater? Or do time and maturity actually help in the pursuit of a relationship? Join our two-part series where 30-something daters share advice from their own experiences. This week, it’s the ladies’ turn. (Men were last week!)  

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Culture: Tips for Accessing Mental Health Care

We know about today’s sky-high rates of anxiety, depression and other mental health struggles, but how do you start the process of getting the care you need? Psychiatrist Karl Benzio helps us understand the ins and outs of therapy, medication, psychology vs. psychiatry, counseling vs. therapy — and most importantly, how to know what you need, and when. This will save you some copays for sure, so grab a pen and paper and listen in!

 Are You Really OK?: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters 

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Inbox: Small Group Second Chances

Our listener is feeling pressured to jump back into church community groups, but it never seems to go well for them. What’s the best approach going forward? Lisa Anderson weighs in. 

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Navigating dating as a man in your 30s, plus sexuality and the single man, and how do you adjust to drastic life changes? 

Featured musical artist: Kerrie Roberts

Roundtable: Dating in Your 30s (Guys’ Edition)

What is dating like in your 30s compared to your 20s? Is the pressure higher? The disappointments greater? Or do time and maturity actually help in the pursuit of a relationship? Join our two-part series where 30-something daters share advice from their own experiences. This week, it’s the guys’ turn. Ladies, you’re next week!  

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Culture: Sexual Integrity for Single Men in Their 30s

Bob DeMoss is a best-selling author and the founder of Focus on the Family’s Plugged In. But despite praying for a wife, he didn’t marry until age 37. In a refreshingly candid conversation, Bob and Lisa discuss staying sexually faithful in singleness, combating loneliness, and navigating the “single cycle” of contentment, restlessness, poor choices, guilt and repentance.        

The Men We Need: God’s Purpose for the Manly Man, the Avid Indoorsman, and Any Man Willing to Show Up 

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Inbox: Weathering Drastic Life Changes

We think we know where we’re going in life, yet we all deal with major changes and setbacks at some point. When they come, how should we respond? Counselor Linda Miller weighs in. 

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Make your roommate situation exceptional, plus a former abortion doctor’s testimony, and how to have deep relationships in a disconnected culture. 

Featured musical artist: David Dunn

Roundtable: Crafting Great Roommate Relationships

We’re all kind, reasonable and considerate until someone is in our space. This is especially magnified in a roommate situation, whether you’re rooming with one person or several. What do you need to know in choosing roommates, setting house rules, respecting boundaries and resolving conflict? Our guests break it all down based on their past and current experiences.  

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Culture: From Abortion Doctor to Pro-Life Champion

Dr. Catherine Wheeler didn’t see much wrong with abortion as a choice, performing them in her practice as an OB/GYN. But facts, circumstances and a new-found faith changed her mind. This week she tells her amazing story alongside a compelling argument for why abortion simply can’t be an answer for women who want ultimate health and wholeness. She’ll also break down the politics of abortion in a climate that is increasingly confusing and polarized.       

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Inbox: Real Relationships After College

Forming deep relationships with real people post-college can be a challenge. Lisa Anderson weighs in with feasible options for building community. 

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Trusting God with your election anxiety, plus Gary Thomas helps you find your worship “personality,” and how to ask for a raise at work.  

Featured musical artist: Nathan Tasker

Roundtable: Managing Election Anxiety

Candidate switches, assassination attempts, war escalations, policy battles and the inevitable name-calling and slander. Who’s ready for this election to be over? Our guests share their feelings around November 5th and how they are navigating conversations leading up to the big day. Is it fracturing their relationships? Are they just staying silent? And what about the outcome? How do we move forward in trusting God if our candidate doesn’t win? With anxiety levels at an all-time high, this timely conversation (including mental health advice from psychiatrist Karl Benzio) will help quell your fears and turn your heart to the One who holds the outcome.  

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Sacred Pathways: Nine Ways to Connect with God 

Culture: Find Your Spiritual Temperament

The Bible tells us that God is everywhere. But the way you connect with Him might be very different from the way your best friend does. How can you discover the beauty of worshiping the Lord in a way that is especially meaningful to you? It may be through discovering your unique spiritual temperament. Pastor and author Gary Thomas shares the nine ways we can connect with God in study, worship and experience. He’ll also talk about how these pathways dovetail with standard spiritual disciplines to foster our maturity and sanctification.    

Sacred Pathways: Nine Ways to Connect with God 

Inbox: How to Ask for a Raise

If you think you deserve a raise at work, how do you approach the topic with confidence and professionalism? Career expert Marshonda Dixon weighs in. 

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Good habits as a newlywed, plus a former White House staffer explains the 1960s’ influence on America, and navigating singleness beyond your 20s. 

Featured musical artist: Aaron Shust

Roundtable: Good Marriage Habits

Getting married is a big transition. Life rhythms are interrupted, and some of them change altogether. What you could do as a single — and when — is sometimes no longer an option. With that in mind, what are good habits to establish in the early weeks and months of marriage? Our guests recount their seasons as newlyweds and give ideas for establishing and maintaining rhythms with God, friends and others after you walk the aisle.  

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The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

Culture: What the ‘60s Teach Us About Today 

The 1960s were a time of extreme political and social change in America. In many ways the changes weren’t good, and today’s citizens are reaping the consequences. How can we learn from the past and have hope for a better future? A proud history and culture nerd, Tim Goeglein has worked in the White House and beyond. He joins us for a thought-provoking conversation on how with God’s help, we can right our nation’s wrongs — one faith-filled citizen at a time.      

Stumbling Toward Utopia: How the 1960s Turned Into a National Nightmare and How We Can Revive the American Dream 

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Inbox: Singleness Beyond Your 20s

She’s neither married nor a parent. On top of wanting those things, she needs encouragement for how to do singleness well, especially now that she’s in her late 20s. Lisa Anderson weighs in. 

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Changing family dynamics during engagement and beyond, plus a continued conversation on stress, and focusing on your own faith walk before dating.     

Featured musical artist: All Sons & Daughters

Roundtable: Cutting the Apron Strings Before Marriage

The Old Testament book of Genesis describes how you’re supposed to leave your family of origin when you get married and “cleave” to your spouse. But how do you practically work through family dynamics? What do you do with clingy or controlling parents? How do you set habits, rhythms and traditions that define your new union? Our panel of marrieds shares ways they’ve learned to maintain a good relationship with their parents and in-laws while building and prioritizing their new life and relationships.  

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Culture: Stress Reduction (Part 2) 

Stressors are all around us: bills to pay, work deadlines, sorting through friend and family dynamics, and news headlines galore. What effect is stress having on our brains and bodies, and how do we cope with the fallout? Licensed professional counselor Eliza Huie discusses how you can tackle stress and find peace through lifestyle, helpful practices, and active dependence on God. In part two of our discussion, she brings up the need to recognize your limitations and she walks through the acronym NEAR, a helpful primer for dealing with anxiety.     

I’m Stressed: A Path from Pressure to Peace (Ask the Christian Counselor)

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Inbox: He Ended a Relationship to Sort Out His Faith

Our listener would grade his faith walk as a D-. As a result, he broke off a dating relationship, concerned that he has to figure out his faith first. Was this the right thing to do? Lisa Anderson weighs in. 

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Separating feelings from fact when it comes to love, plus what to do about stress, and coming to terms when something good didn’t happen.     

I’m Stressed: A Path from Pressure to Peace (Ask the Christian Counselor)

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Roundtable: How Do I Know I Love Someone? 

The feelings and excitement of being “in love” are celebrated everywhere from movies to music. But is love deeper than a mere feeling? Are feelings even an indicator that you actually love someone? Our guests get honest about how they’ve struggled with discerning the difference between love as a feeling and love as a choice. They’ll also explain love in the tough times and (yikes) loving the hard to love, including our enemies. 

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Culture: Stress Reduction (Part 1) 

Stressors are all around us: bills to pay, work deadlines, sorting through friend and family dynamics, and news headlines galore. What effect is stress having on our brains and bodies, and how do we cope with the fallout? Licensed professional counselor Eliza Huie discusses how you can tackle stress and find peace through lifestyle, helpful practices, and active dependence on God. In part one of our conversation she addresses good vs. bad types of stress and how to recognize the repercussions of stress on our lives.     

I’m Stressed: A Path from Pressure to Peace (Ask the Christian Counselor)

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Inbox: I Had Faith but It Didn’t Happen 

Our listener had faith for something that was genuinely good, but he prayed and things still didn’t go as he’d hoped. How can he trust that God really cares? Counselor George Stahnke weighs in. 

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Ideas for getting out and making friends, plus author Jerry Jenkins on boundaries with the opposite sex, and signs you’re in an abusive relationship.     

Featured musical artist: JJ Heller

Roundtable: Make New Friends

You may be asking, “Where are all the great people to hang out with?” Maybe, just maybe, they’re outside your front door? In order to find them, you may need to get creative. You may need to try something new. Visit new places. Join a new group. This week we discuss ways to step out of your comfort zone and meet quality people. Plus, if you’re single and looking for potential dates, we’ll offer thoughts on how to look without obsessing over whether every cute person could be the one. 

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Culture: Boundaries With the Opposite Sex

Marriage experts talk often about creating boundaries when you’re married to guard against infidelity. But great boundaries with the opposite gender work best when you start early — when you’re dating someone, or even before. Setting up what bestselling novelist and author Jerry Jenkins calls “hedges” can be a great and practical way to do that. In our interview, he shares what hedges might look like in dating and marriage, how to set them, and how to avoid potential excuses and pitfalls when temptation strikes.  

Hedges: 7 Ways to Love Your Wife and Protect Your Marriage

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Inbox: Am I in a Toxic Relationship? 

The word toxic is too often tossed around to describe people we simply don’t like. But what are signs that you’re in a truly toxic or abusive relationship? Counselor Tim Sanford weighs in. 

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Article: Just Annoying or Truly Unsafe?: How to Navigate Get-Togethers With Difficult Family 

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Article: Destructive Conflict: Recognize It. Stop It. 

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Weird things Christians should stop saying, plus trusting God in a waiting season, and how to own your behavior in a world that shrugs responsibility.      

Featured musical artist: About a Mile

Roundtable: Enough With the Spiritual Platitudes

God helps those who help themselves. I’m praying a hedge of protection. God will never give you more than you can handle. Some of our Christian clichés, while well-intentioned, can actually do more harm than good. Our guests share their least-favorite Christian cliches — plus ones they’re guilty of. They’ll also suggest better ways to encourage, exhort, and instruct others with our words. 

Article: 5 Christian Clichés that Need to Die

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Culture: Waiting (Well) on God

So much of life is spent waiting. Not just waiting in line or for your next Netflix series, but waiting to find a spouse, to have kids, to achieve your career goals and more. When your patience and even your faith is tested, how do you wait well? Pastor Mark Vroegop reminds us that waiting is a normal part of life and something that God uses to refine us. It’s not easy, though, so this conversation will give you things to cling to as you sort and struggle through your next wait. 

Waiting Isn’t a Waste: The Surprising Comfort of Trusting God in the Uncertainties of Life

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Inbox: Owning My Decisions and Behavior 

As a Christian, how do you stay accountable for your thoughts and actions in a world that would rather make excuses? Counselor Kari A weighs in. 

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Honestly assessing your life as a 20-something, plus more with Debra Fileta on soul care, and how do you address personal shame after you’ve sinned?      

Featured musical artist: Tauren Wells

Roundtable: Lessons Learned in Our 20s 

For some of us on this week’s panel, our 20s provided new opportunities, fun adventures, and lots of growth; for others, that decade is loaded with regrets. Yet all of us agree that our 20s were filled with trial and error as we learned to navigate life. As you review your 20s, how can you assess them honestly and learn from your mistakes without beating yourself up? We’ll give advice based on our lessons learned.

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Culture: Caring for Your Soul (Part 2)

Millennials and Gen Z report unprecedented rates of burnout and exhaustion. When our to-do lists keep growing and our frustrations add up, how do we find strength and stamina to continue? Our friend Debra Fileta shares how to create life-giving rhythms of caring for your soul, and why doing so honors God. In part two of our discussion, she outlines how to establish good boundaries, maintain your inner world, and savor life. 

Soul Care: Find Life-Giving Rhythms, Live Restored, Avoid Burnout, Discover Unspeakable Joy

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Inbox: What to Do With Sin and Shame

We tend to isolate ourselves when we sin, especially if we can’t shake the sense of shame that lingers. Is it possible to break free? Counselor Tim Sanford offers hope. 

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