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Let me just start by saying it’s totally, totally normal to feel some jealousy about your partner’s ex. Even though, if you’re anything like me, all of that feels sooo very 8th grade. I promise it’s not just you. In fact it’s so common, I included jealousy as one of the 7 stages of becoming a stepparent.

Anyway, here’s the thing. Your partner's relationship with you is NOT the same as what they had with their ex... and that's a good thing! Even though your partner had kids with someone else, they've chosen YOU to help them raise those kids. No matter how many significant life events your partner shared with the ex, all future life events will be shared with YOU.

And your future together is just as important & carries just as much weight as what's happened in the past. It's just harder to see because you haven't lived it yet.

But you will. And with time, the ex will become less and less important in your partner’s life and memories as the actual life and actual relationship they’re living with you become more and more important. So hang in there. xo

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