In this episode we talk about how Jill wanted her then husband to be in the marriage but he was showing himself to her and she had to decide. She had to choose while being stuck in this place of uncertainty. She recalls wishing that someone would just tell her what to do. “You start to mourn what you thought you would have and in reality you never had that, you never had this dream or family dynamic so you start to grieve what you thought it should have looked like instead of the reality of what it was.” 

Jill talks about the kids and what dating was like after the divorce. She shares how she is “a huge tightass about anybody meeting my kids. I have only had one person since I started dating. They didn’t sign up for the divorce.” She then shares about how to love your kids during these times and what worked for her.  She talked to her kids straight, like adults.