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- Ep 14: Are These Recovery Myths Holding You Back?
In this compelling episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we dive deep into myths and misconceptions surrounding addiction and recovery. Focusing on the concept of powerlessness, we emphasize the importance of free will and mental autonomy in overcoming addictive behaviors. Challenging the belief that addiction is an involuntary condition, we explore how personal choice and perspective shifts play a critical role in the recovery process. Join us as we debunk the idea that factors like genetics, trauma, or emotional distress force individuals to act out, and learn how belief systems influence recovery outcomes. Understand why quitting problematic behaviors hinges on being fully convinced that a life without addiction is the most attractive and fulfilling option. Tune in now to reclaim control and reframe your approach to recovery.
00:00 Understanding Powerlessness in Recovery
01:20 The Gift of Free Will and Mental Autonomy
03:01 Challenging Recovery Assumptions
04:08 The Myth of Loss of Control
07:02 Addiction and Free Will
08:32 Neuroplasticity and Habit Formation
14:24 Debunking Genetic and Childhood Causes
21:55 Learned Connections and Sobriety
Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery
Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com
Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching
Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups
YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery
32 min - Ep 13: Why is He So Emotionally Distant? Inside the Mind of a Sex Addict
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the complex topic of emotional distance by exploring the mindset of a sex addict. Share in a personal journey to understand why intimacy is often avoided and emotions suppressed. Learn about Dr. Minwalla's concept of Integrity Abuse Disorder (IAD) behaviors and the fight, flight, and freeze responses. The episode also discusses how deeply embedded childhood survival mechanisms can affect adult relationships, offering insights into how emotional withdrawal can be unlearned through courage and vulnerability. Join us to transform emotional distance into emotional repair and forge stronger, more intimate connections.
00:00 Introduction to Emotional Distance
00:58 Understanding Emotional Withdrawal
05:53 The Freeze Response Explained
09:24 Childhood Roots of Emotional Suppression
12:51 The Cost of Emotional Suppression
17:17 The Path to Emotional Intimacy
24:15 The Challenge of Vulnerability
Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery
Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com
Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching
Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups
YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery
28 min - Ep 12: The Relapse MapIn this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the crucial topic of relapse in addiction recovery. The discussion includes differentiating between relapse and slip, and the importance of recognizing and discarding the term 'slip' from recovery vocabulary. The episode introduces a 'threat detection tool,' comprising three concentric circles representing 'acting out,' 'acting in,' and various 'threats,' and how these contribute to relapse. Emphasis is laid on bottom-line behaviors, defining relapse, and understanding twelve intimacy-avoiding behaviors. Additionally, the episode outlines psychological, conversational, situational, and other categories of threats. A three-step process for post-relapse recovery is also shared, highlighting the need for radical honesty, intimacy with God, self, and others, and effective accountability.00:00 Introduction to Relapse and Slip00:33 Defining Relapse vs. Slip01:50 The Threat Detection Tool03:10 Inner Circle: Defining Relapse Behaviors10:15 Middle Circle: Acting In Behaviors16:23 Outer Circle: Identifying Threats21:11 Recognizing Chronological and Technological Threats21:50 Understanding Emotional Threats and Shame22:42 Transforming Shame into Positive Actions23:48 Dealing with Resentment and Rejection24:44 Identifying Physical and Relational Threats26:05 Reflecting on Relapse and Prevention26:55 Steps to Take After a Relapse27:18 The Importance of Radical Honesty30:52 Embracing Intimacy with God, Self, and Others35:07 Understanding True Accountability38:30 Final Thoughts and Additional Tools
Free Podcast Tool: The Threat Circles: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1RRpeTmMzGiHFgJ1LEogRFOdkMdmmGpqC/view?usp=sharing
Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery
Free Newsletter: https://www.joy-recovery.com
Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coachingGroups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups
YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery
41 min - Ep 11: The Silent Relationship KILLER You Must Avoid At All Costs
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the insidious and often overlooked issue of invalidation in relationships. Host [Host Name] provides a comprehensive look at what invalidation is, how it manifests, and its devastating effects on both individuals and their relationships. Through research and expert insights, you’ll learn about the long-term emotional damage caused by invalidation, its link to addictive behaviors, and the eight different forms of invalidation. Discover practical steps to stop invalidating behavior and start healing your relationships. Tune in for an eye-opening discussion on this silent relationship killer and learn how to foster healthier and more validating interactions with your partner.
00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio
00:53 Understanding Invalidation
01:39 The Impact of Childhood Invalidation
04:00 Invalidation and Mental Health
13:40 Forms of Invalidation
25:03 Responding to Invalidation
28:29 The Four A's to Stop Invalidation
31:05 Challenge to Men
Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery
Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com
Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching
Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups
YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery
34 min - Ep 10: Improve Communication - How Imago Dialogue Transforms RelationshipsWelcome to the final episode of our three-part series on intimacy! In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the Imago Dialogue, an effective communication tool created by Harville Hendricks and Helen Hunt to bridge communication gaps in relationships. Learn about the history and principles of the Imago Dialogue, how to practice it, and its major benefits, including psychological safety and eliminating reactivity. Tune in as we provide a detailed explanation and example of how to implement this technique for a deeper emotional connection with your partner. Don't miss out on enhancing your relationship with these valuable insights!00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio00:20 Overview of the Imago Dialogue00:41 History and Founders of Imago Dialogue02:39 Discussion vs. Dialogue04:45 When to Use Imago Dialogue07:00 Benefits and Challenges of Imago Dialogue09:06 Creating Psychological Safety14:00 Rehumanizing Relationships16:10 Understanding the Sender and Receiver Roles17:21 Requesting an Imago Dialogue Appointment20:17 The Importance of Mirroring in Communication27:10 Validating and Empathizing with Your Partner32:23 Creating an Action Plan for Resolution35:14 Conclusion and Additional ResourcesImago Resources: Imagoworks.com
Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery
Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com
Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching
Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups
YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery
37 min - Ep 9: Intimacy Series - Rethinking Check-Ins
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we dive into the importance and practice of daily check-ins for building emotional intimacy in relationships. Continuing our three-part series on intimacy, we discuss why intimacy with God and self is foundational before one can achieve true intimacy with others. We introduce and break down the FANOS method (Feelings, Appreciation, Needs, Ownership, Struggles/Sobriety/Successes) and explain how adding an 'A' for Action can enhance this tool. Learn how daily check-ins can prevent resentment, build trust, and foster self-awareness. We also share practical tips on how to customize FANOS for your relationship and discuss the mindset required for effective emotional check-ins. Tune in to understand how these practices can help you and your partner grow closer and more connected. Stay tuned for the next episode where we'll delve into Imago Dialogue for deeper communication.
Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery
Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com
Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching
Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups
YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery
17 Core Emotional Needs: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1aG8cqwZw1hhF_XIjOEPOrSNStbpncNt2/view?usp=sharing
52 min - Ep 8: Intimacy with God, Self, and Others
Welcome to another episode of Joy Recovery Radio! We're diving into a three-part series on intimacy, starting with self intimacy. Discover how understanding and connecting with yourself can transform your relationship and help overcome shame and addiction. Learn the importance of self intimacy, the framework of shame, and how intimacy with God, self, and others paves the path to true recovery. We'll explore practical tools and insights to develop self-awareness and emotional vulnerability. This episode is packed with valuable information to help you on your journey to intimacy and recovery. Don't miss it!
17 Basic emotional needs:
- Accepted//approved
- Affirmed
- Attachment/belonging/connected/included/intimacy
- Acknowledged/admired/appreciated/honored/important/noticed/recognized/respected/worthy
- Agency (able to affect change)/autonomy/empowered/free/independent
- Attention
- Comforted
- Compassion/encouragement/reassured/supported
- Competent/confident/growing/needed/productive/sense of achievement/successful/useful
- Fairness
- Forgiven
- Hope
- Loved/cherished
- Meaning
- Safe/secure
- Validated/understood/heard/empathy
- Valued
Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery
Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com
Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching
Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups
YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery
22 min - Ep 7: Acting Out vs Acting In
Welcome to another episode of Joy Recovery Radio, where we delve into the concept of 'acting in' as opposed to 'acting out.' Using insights from psychologist Donald Nathanson's work on shame, we explore the core wounds of insignificance, incompetence, and impotence that often drive shame-based belief systems. Learn about Nathanson's 'compass of shame' and the four poles of shame responses: avoiding, attacking others, attacking oneself, and hiding. This episode focuses on 'acting in,' or intimacy avoidance, highlighting eight common techniques like stonewalling, controlling with anger, and withholding love. We'll also discuss potential counterbalances to these behaviors and how to foster genuine intimacy and connection. Join us to better understand the dynamics of shame and intimacy avoidance, and how to move towards a healthier, more intimate relationship.
Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery
Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com
Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching
Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups
Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/joy-recovery-radio/id1793658785
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34 min - Ep 6: His Triggers and Her TriggersIn this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, hosts Roy and Jacqueline delve into the complex topic of triggers, particularly emotional and trauma triggers experienced by both men and women. They discuss the impact of broken trust and how it can generate intense emotional and trauma responses. The couple shares personal stories and practical approaches to manage and reduce triggers, while emphasizing the importance of empathy, understanding, and safe communication in healing relationships. They also discuss the neuroscience behind triggers and the significance of timeouts to manage intense emotional reactions. This episode provides insights and actionable steps for couples navigating the difficult path of recovery from betrayal trauma.
Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery
Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com
Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching
Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups
Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/joy-recovery-radio/id1793658785
Keywords: Keywords: sex addiction, sex addiction recovery, porn addiction, recovery from sex addiction, help for sex addiction, sex addict, sex addiction treatment, what is sex addiction, sexual addiction, sexual addiction recovery, sex addiction help, hope for sex addiction, sex addiction symptoms, porn addiction, betrayal trauma, betrayal trauma recovery, betrayal trauma symptoms, partner betrayal trauma, betrayal trauma ptsd, complex trauma, post betrayal trauma, beyond betrayal, partner betrayal, betrayal trauma therapy, the trauma of betrayal, betrayal trauma triggers, impact of betrayal trauma, betrayed, effects of betrayal trauma, betrayal trauma infidelity, overcoming betrayal trauma recovery, pornography addiction, how to deal with sex addiction
41 min - Ep 5: Overcoming Resentment is Key to LASTING Recovery
In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, join us as we delve deep into the topic of resentment and its critical role in addiction and recovery. Coaches Roy and Jacqueline explore their unique framework called S-ABCD, illustrating how shame, addiction, bitterness, control, and deceptive beliefs interlink to create a complex system of living and thinking. This episode specifically focuses on resentment—its origins, effects, and the multifaceted emotions it involves. The discussion further covers how addicts often project resentment onto their partners and how to navigate these emotional challenges. Practical tips include self-reflection, proper boundary-setting, and leveraging gratitude to eliminate resentment. Tune in to gain insights on transforming resentment into personal growth, healthier relationships, and lasting recovery.
00:00 Understanding the Framework of Recovery
04:32 Exploring the Concept of Resentment
05:04 Personal Reflections on Resentment
07:08 Resentment in Relationships
14:14 Managing Resentment and Setting Boundaries
31:12 Forgiveness and Gratitude
40:42 Conclusion and Call to Action
Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery
Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com
Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching
Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups
Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/joy-recovery-radio/id1793658785
Keywords: sex addiction, sex addiction recovery, porn addiction, sex addict, sex addiction treatment, what is sex addiction, sex addiction symptoms, porn addiction, betrayal trauma, betrayal trauma recovery, betrayal trauma symptoms, partner betrayal trauma, betrayal trauma ptsd, complex trauma, betrayal trauma triggers, effects of betrayal trauma, betrayal trauma infidelity, infidelity recovery, affair recovery
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About Joy Recovery Radio
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Welcome, this is Jacqueline and Roy (AKA ”Team Joy), your hosts for Joy Recovery Radio, where we offer hope, healing, and practical tools for couples navigating the difficult journey of recovery…
from sex addiction and betrayal trauma.
We have been in your shoes, and it’s our mission to share our expertise, personal experiences and the latest research in every episode. We can testify that healing and recovery are possible. To find additional resources, coaching, and live webinars, please visit our website joy-recovery.com
We have been in your shoes, and it’s our mission to share our expertise, personal experiences and the latest research in every episode. We can testify that healing and recovery are possible. To find additional resources, coaching, and live webinars, please visit our website joy-recovery.com
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