This week Kail and Becky are catching each other up and us. The ladies discuss everything from managing expectations, to financial literacy and how much they are both terrified of Chat GPT but use it frequently.

In this week's Is It Karma Or Is It Chaos a friend's horrific comment has Kail and Becky spiraling and wondering would you wait for your friend to get pregnant?

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In this emotional episode of Karma & Chaos, Kail shares the news sparking a raw conversation about abandonment, closure, and complicated family ties. She and Becky explore what it means to seek answers from someone who may never give them and whether showing up is healing or harmful.

Plus, they touch on elopement guest list drama, the Coldplay cheating scandal, and a “Karma or Chaos” bake sale takedown you won’t forget.

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In one of the rawest Karma and Chaos episodes yet, Becky opens up about becoming a mom as a non-birthing parent. From the emotional intensity of watching Leah give birth to grappling with unexpected feelings of disconnection, identity shifts, and grief, Becky shares it all; tears, laughs, and a whole lot of honesty.

Kail and Becky also talk about how nobody prepares you for five outfit changes a day, the first tar poop and more. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, unseen, or not instantly bonded as a parent , this one’s for you.

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In a delirious (and low-key emotional) episode, Kail and Becky tackle the viral 36 Questions to Fall in Love - even though they’re already trauma-bonded. They unpack everything from childhood wounds and love languages to dead dad jokes and embarrassing moments that still haunt them.

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This week gets real. Leah - Becky's wife is dilated - contractions are happening, and somehow we still find time to talk nipple piercings, donor siblings, and whether it’s weird to donate sperm to a lesbian couple you know in real life. Plus, we unpack the parts of grief no one talks about, why breastfeeding broke us, and how monkeys might just be avoiding taxes.

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ENCORE: we are running back one of your favorite episodes! (This week Kail & Becky are testing their knowledge and seeing if they are indeed smarter than a fifth grader. Later in the episode the ladies discuss fiances in a realtionship and all the different ways couples split them. This leads into a conversation about wether or not college is necessary and is it really all about WHO you know vs WHAT you know)

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Kail and Becky are back with hummingbird drama, bisexual awakenings, and a chaotic Pride Month breakdown. They weigh in on Fletcher’s controversial switch-up, the double standards working moms face, and whether bringing a third into your marriage is karma or chaos. From Twitch debates and poly relationships to parenting realness and queer identity, this episode is chaotic...of course.

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This week on Karma and Chaos, labor is looming, crackers are criminal, and someone might be getting a bat tattoo.

Things take a turn (as they always do) when a conversation about induction leads to imaginary attic pets, religious trauma, and why giving a queer couple a prayer book could be a little upsetting. The girls also unpack internalized homophobia, breaking generational cycles, and why Pride is about way more than parades; it’s about being loud, being seen, and knowing who you are.

And don’t worry, we’ve got an Is It Karma or is it Chaos submission that includes some FBI-level iPad snooping, unsolicited screaming, and a messy friendship implosion over a rekindled marriage. Spoiler: someone got dumped, and someone got the last laugh.

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In this episode of Karma and Chaos, Kail and Becky dive into everything from hummingbird feeders to airline etiquette and co-parenting struggles. Becky shares an updates on baby prep, microdosing for mental clarity, and navigating moral dilemmas at work.

They also unpack a messy listener story about daycare drama, unresolved feelings for an ex, and the fine line between fate and chaos. Expect unexpected tangents—like feet pic requests, zodiac placements, period stories, and whether eating a gallon of butter is ever the right choice. This one’s unhinged in the best way.

Tune in for laughs, real talk, and a reminder to be kind, respectful, and maybe… keep your feet to yourself.

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On this episode of Karma and Chaos, Becky and Kail ask the age-old question: Can straight women and men really be just friends? What starts as a tan-line roast turns into a layered discussion on emotional cheating, polyamory, gender roles, and raising emotionally intelligent sons. Becky reflects on her recent trip to Mexico, witnessing healthy male friendships, and the importance of representation for queer youth. Kail opens up about therapy breakthroughs, the emotional fallout of betrayal, and how one teacher changed the trajectory of her life. The duo also tackles a jaw-dropping “Is It Karma or Is It Chaos?” submission involving cheating, steroids, and a long-kept secret. From post-nut clarity to lesbian merch and Pride prep, this episode is raw, funny, emotional and as always absolutely unfiltered.

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