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MC and Tracy discuss various grief models and frameworks, including those by Freud, Kübler-Ross, and Kessler. They explore different stages and tasks of grief, stressing that while these models can help, everyone grieves differently. The conversation highlights the importance of finding meaning after loss and the positive role of community and support in navigating grief.
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Music kindly provided by Tom Rosenthal. The song excerpted at the beginning and end of each episode is "Have We Met Before? feat. Fenne Lily" from the album Z-Sides, released in 2018.
MC McDonald and Tracy Benjamin host Keep Grief Weird, produced by Jake Youmell. For questions, stories, or comments, please reach out via DM on Instagram (@keepgriefweird) or email at [email protected].
In this episode, MC and Tracy explore the many faces of grief and its impact. They discuss delayed, inconclusive, disenfranchised, complicated, and collective grief, sharing personal stories and real-life examples. They highlight the importance of recognizing different types of grief to better support those who are grieving. The conversation also covers collective, traumatic, cumulative grief, secondary losses, and mass grief, along with the timelines of grief—anticipatory, acute, early, and mature. Understanding these helps us navigate our own grieving process and support others through theirs.
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- @keepgriefweird
- @mc.phd
- @shutterbean
- @thehandwritingclub
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- @mc.phd
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- @shutterbean
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- @tracyshutterbean
- @emseyphd
Others:
- The Handwriting Club Substack Group
- The Handwriting Club Etsy Shop
- The Handwriting Club Newsletter
Music kindly provided by Tom Rosenthal. The song excerpted at the beginning and end of each episode is "Have We Met Before? feat. Fenne Lily" from the album Z-Sides, released in 2018.
MC McDonald and Tracy Benjamin host Keep Grief Weird, produced by Jake Youmell. For questions, stories, or comments, please reach out via DM on Instagram (@keepgriefweird) or email at [email protected].
MC and Tracy dive into the impact of grief on the brain and body, exploring the neuroscience behind it. They chat about how grief is a learning process, highlighting the need for support and understanding from others. The discussion touches on cultural aspects of grieving and the difference between grief and mourning, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and supporting grief instead of suppressing it.
A call to sharing songs or playlists! ➡️ Please send any playlists or songs to us via DM at @keepgriefweird or [email protected] to share with the broader Keep Grief Weird community!
Join Keep Grief Weird on Substack for exclusive episode notes, resources, and opportunities to connect!
Instagram:
- @keepgriefweird
- @mc.phd
- @shutterbean
- @thehandwritingclub
TikTok:
- @mc.phd
X:
- @shutterbean
Facebook:
- @tracyshutterbean
- @emseyphd
Others:
- The Handwriting Club Substack Group
- The Handwriting Club Etsy Shop
- The Handwriting Club Newsletter
Music kindly provided by Tom Rosenthal. The song excerpted at the beginning and end of each episode is "Have We Met Before? feat. Fenne Lily" from the album Z-Sides, released in 2018.
MC McDonald and Tracy Benjamin host Keep Grief Weird, produced by Jake Youmell. For questions, stories, or comments, please reach out via DM on Instagram (@keepgriefweird) or email at [email protected].
In Episode 8, MC and Tracy delve into the power of music in grief and memory. They share personal stories about creating playlists that remind them of lost loved ones and discuss how music can evoke strong emotions and vivid memories. The hosts explore the science behind music’s impact on the brain, its therapeutic benefits, and its role in healing and connecting with the past. They also touch on the evolution of nostalgia and the historical and cultural significance of music in transcending time and uniting people.
A call to sharing songs or playlists! ➡️ Please send any playlists or songs to us via DM at @keepgriefweird or [email protected] to share with the broader Keep Grief Weird community!
Join Keep Grief Weird on Substack for exclusive episode notes, resources, and opportunities to connect!
Instagram:
- @keepgriefweird
- @mc.phd
- @shutterbean
- @thehandwritingclub
TikTok:
- @mc.phd
X:
- @shutterbean
Facebook:
- @tracyshutterbean
- @emseyphd
Others:
- The Handwriting Club Substack Group
- The Handwriting Club Etsy Shop
- The Handwriting Club Newsletter
Music kindly provided by Tom Rosenthal. The song excerpted at the beginning and end of each episode is "Have We Met Before? feat. Fenne Lily" from the album Z-Sides, released in 2018.
MC McDonald and Tracy Benjamin host Keep Grief Weird, produced by Jake Youmell. For questions, stories, or comments, please reach out via DM on Instagram (@keepgriefweird) or email at [email protected].
The conversation in episode 7 explores the concept of disenfranchised grief, which refers to grief that is not acknowledged or recognized by society. Examples include grief over unmet expectations in parenting, miscarriage, the loss of a loved one during the pandemic, loss of a sibling, and the end of a marriage. The discussion highlights the judgment and lack of empathy that often accompany disenfranchised grief, as well as the importance of creating a relational home for grief.
The hosts share personal experiences and discuss the complexity and longevity of grief, emphasizing that there is no defined timeline for healing contrary to popular belief. MC and Tracy reflect on the different stages of grief, comparing them to the growth and development of a child. They discuss the challenges and demands of early grief, the changes and adjustments that come with time, and the ongoing need for support and understanding.
The conversation also explores disenfranchised grief in relation to the loss of older family members and the absence of mentors and role models.
Join Keep Grief Weird on Substack for exclusive episode notes, resources, and opportunities to connect!
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- @keepgriefweird
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TikTok:
- @mc.phd
X:
- @shutterbean
Facebook:
- @tracyshutterbean
- @emseyphd
Others:
- The Handwriting Club Substack Group
- The Handwriting Club Etsy Shop
- The Handwriting Club Newsletter
Music kindly provided by Tom Rosenthal. The song excerpted at the beginning and end of each episode is "Have We Met Before? feat. Fenne Lily" from the album Z-Sides, released in 2018.
MC McDonald and Tracy Benjamin host Keep Grief Weird, produced by Jake Youmell. For questions, stories, or comments, please reach out via DM on Instagram (@keepgriefweird) or email at [email protected].
In Episode 6, MC and Tracy explore the emotional and practical aspects of dealing with the physical items left behind after the loss of a loved one. The hosts discuss the complicated relationship we have with belongings, the challenges of living with possessions left behind, and the dilemma of deciding whether to keep or let go of these items. They also examine the emotional weight of these objects, how they can reveal secrets, and provide insight into the person who owned them. The episode wraps up with a discussion on the significance of replacing lost items and the hope—and joy—this can bring.
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Instagram:
- @keepgriefweird
- @mc.phd
- @shutterbean
- @thehandwritingclub
TikTok:
- @mc.phd
X:
- @shutterbean
Facebook:
- @tracyshutterbean
- @emseyphd
Others:
- The Handwriting Club Substack Group
- The Handwriting Club Etsy Shop
- The Handwriting Club Newsletter
Music kindly provided by Tom Rosenthal. The song excerpted at the beginning and end of each episode is "Have We Met Before? feat. Fenne Lily" from the album Z-Sides, released in 2018.
MC McDonald and Tracy Benjamin host Keep Grief Weird, produced by Jake Youmell. For questions, stories, or comments, please reach out via DM on Instagram (@keepgriefweird) or email at [email protected].
In Episode 5, MC and Tracy delve into the topic of anniversaries and navigating grief during the holidays. Through personal anecdotes, they discuss their rituals and the emotions tied to anniversaries.
The conversation explores the intersection of grief and anniversaries, and how individuals cope with these experiences after losing a loved one. MC and Tracy also shed light on prolonged grief disorder, a frequently misunderstood aspect of long-term healing and growth.
Laughter and humor weave throughout the episode, taking you on a journey that references everything from the delightful "Skinnamarink" by Sharon, Lois & Bram, to Tracy's mother's fondness for the music of Gordon Matthew Sumner.
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- @keepgriefweird
- @mc.phd
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- @thehandwritingclub
TikTok:
- @mc.phd
X:
- @shutterbean
Facebook:
- @tracyshutterbean
- @emseyphd
Others:
- The Handwriting Club Substack Group
- The Handwriting Club Etsy Shop
- The Handwriting Club Newsletter
Music kindly provided by Tom Rosenthal. The song excerpted at the beginning and end of each episode is "Have We Met Before? feat. Fenne Lily" from the album Z-Sides, released in 2018.
MC McDonald and Tracy Benjamin host Keep Grief Weird, produced by Jake Youmell. For questions, stories, or comments, please reach out via DM on Instagram (@keepgriefweird) or email at [email protected].
In this episode, MC and Tracy's conversation revolves around the first year of grief and the challenges and experiences that come with it. Specifically:
MC and Tracy continue with discussion around topics such as the lack of support from friends and society, the changes in identity and relationships after loss, and the importance of self-care and finding new ways to cope. The conversation highlights the need for more open and compassionate conversations about grief and the transformative power it can have.
Join Keep Grief Weird on Substack for exclusive episode notes, resources, and opportunities to connect!
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- @keepgriefweird
- @mc.phd
- @shutterbean
- @thehandwritingclub
TikTok:
- @mc.phd
X:
- @shutterbean
Facebook:
- @tracyshutterbean
- @emseyphd
Others:
- The Handwriting Club Substack Group
- The Handwriting Club Etsy Shop
- The Handwriting Club Newsletter
Music kindly provided by Tom Rosenthal. The song excerpted at the beginning and end of each episode is "Have We Met Before? feat. Fenne Lily" from the album Z-Sides, released in 2018.
MC McDonald and Tracy Benjamin host Keep Grief Weird, produced by Jake Youmell. For questions, stories, or comments, please reach out via DM on Instagram (@keepgriefweird) or email at [email protected].
In this conversation, MC and Tracy discuss the concept of grief waves, which are sudden and intense waves of grief that can knock a person off balance. They explore the stages of grief and how they can be misunderstood, as well as the transformative effect of loss. They also discuss the self-consciousness that can come with grief and the importance of allowing oneself to grieve in an active and productive way. The conversation highlights the power of art, conversation, and personal rituals in processing grief.
Quote from Judith Butler referenced at the start of Episode 3: “Perhaps, rather, one mourns when one accepts that by the loss one undergoes one will be changed, possibly for ever. Perhaps mourning has to do with agreeing to undergo a transformation (perhaps one should say submitting to a transformation) the full result of which one cannot know in advance. There is losing, as we know, but there is also the transformative effect of loss, and this latter cannot be charted or planned. One can try to choose it, but it may be that this experience of transformation deconstitutes choice at some level. I do not think, for instance, that one can invoke the Protestant ethic when it comes to loss. One cannot say, "Oh, I'll go through loss this way, and that will be the result, and I'll apply myself to the task, and I'll endeavor to achieve the resolution of grief that is before me." I think one is hit by waves, and that one starts out the day with an aim, a project, a plan, and finds oneself foiled. One finds oneself fallen. One is exhausted but does not know why. Something is larger than one's own deliberate plan, one's own project, one's own knowing and choosing.”― Judith Butler, Precarious Life: The Powers of Mourning and Violence
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- @keepgriefweird
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Facebook:
- @tracyshutterbean
- @emseyphd
Others:
- The Handwriting Club Substack Group
- The Handwriting Club Etsy Shop
- The Handwriting Club Newsletter
Music kindly provided by Tom Rosenthal. The song excerpted at the beginning and end of each episode is "Have We Met Before? feat. Fenne Lily" from the album Z-Sides, released in 2018.
MC McDonald and Tracy Benjamin host Keep Grief Weird, produced by Jake Youmell. For questions, stories, or comments, please reach out via DM on Instagram (@keepgriefweird) or email at [email protected].
In this episode, MC and Tracy discuss the losses MC has experienced. They explore the different impacts and meanings of each loss, as well as the ways in which grief is processed. In this episode, Tracy and MC discuss the impact of parental loss, the unexpected nature of grief, the shattered future, finding humor in grief, the transition into death, and the beauty and fear of grief.
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- @tracyshutterbean
- @emseyphd
Others:
- The Handwriting Club Substack Group
- The Handwriting Club Etsy Shop
- The Handwriting Club Newsletter
Music kindly provided by Tom Rosenthal. The song excerpted at the beginning and end of each episode is "Have We Met Before? feat. Fenne Lily" from the album Z-Sides, released in 2018.
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