April 22, 2026

Let’s Talk About Betrayal Trauma (Pt. 1)

1 hour 19 minutes

Thank you for y’alls patience, this week we’re finally discussing betrayal, betrayal trauma, and betrayal blindness. I sincerely apologize for getting derailed last week, hopefully this week’s episode shows you guys that I am course correcting and making up for the delay. Yes, this caption does seem quite serious but I’m just taking the time to display what this episode is all about. Hopefully you all enjoy the research I’ve collected because I sure as heck did.

Next week we’ll be going into the neuroscience of betrayal blindness as well as the “freeze” response - so be prepared for a very cold Schauer.

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Introduction Sources:

Neuroscientist To Lead Engineering-Driven Brain Health Research

https://news.utdallas.edu/faculty-staff/matthew-walker-2026/

Polyvagal Theory Has Not Been “Debunked”

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-hope-circuit/202604/polyvagal-theory-has-not-been-debunked

The obstacles to decriminalizing psychedelic drugs are political, not legal, say experts

https://hls.harvard.edu/today/the-obstacles-to-decriminalizing-psychedelic-drugs-are-political-not-legal-say-experts/

Book Sources:

How To Change Your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence - Michael Pollan

The Botany of Desire - Michael Pollan

The Great Nerve: The New Science of the Vagus Nerve and How to Harness Its Healing Reflexes - Kevin J. Tracey, MD

Tiny Experiments: How to Live Freely in the Goal-Obsessed World - Anne-Laura Le Cunff

Sweet and Deadly: How Coca-Cola Spreads Disinformation and Makes Us Sick - Murray Carpenter

The Bullet Journal Method: Track the Past Order the Present Design the Future - Ryder Carroll

Sorry, Sorry, Sorry: The Case for Good Apologies - Marjorie Ingall and Susan McCarthy

The Science of Revenge: Understanding the World’s Deadliest Addiction— and How to Overcome It - James Kimmel, Jr., JD

This book is very *ehhhh* to me but I did use it as a source. I’m not sure if I would recommend picking it up.

Reading in the Brain: The New Science of How We Read - Stanislas Dehaene

This is the book I strongly recommend for looking into the “phonological” and “lexical” pathways, as well as what information is processed by it.

Betrayal Resources:

Betrayal Trauma: The Neurobiology of What Happens and How People Heal

https://www.emotionstherapycalgary.ca/blog-therapy-calgary-emotions-clinic/betrayal-trauma#Physical_Signs_and_Brain_Patterns

Rebuilding Trust: The Invisible Thread That Holds Relationships Together

https://mindlabneuroscience.com/rebuilding-trust-neuroscience-guide/#:~:text=Betrayal%20reclassifies%20a%20trusted%20person,threat%20surveillance%20in%20its%20place

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