This episode explores the personal and shared journey of healing from pornography addiction and betrayal trauma within marriage. The hosts, Chelsea and Layton, discuss the question they often receive: “Does it get easier?” They respond with honest reflections, spiritual insights, scientific support, and practical steps for healing, growth, and transformation.

Dr. Anna Lembke is a professor of psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine and Chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. She has published over 100 peer-reviewed papers and commentaries, along with the bestselling books, Dopamine Nation and Drug Dealer, MD. 

In this conversation, Dr. Lembke discusses the complexities of dopamine, the brain's reward system, and how modern society's relationship with technology and pleasure has led to widespread addiction. She emphasizes that everyone is vulnerable to addiction, shares insights from her clinical practice, and highlights the importance of community and support in recovery. Dr. Lembke also delves into the science of pornography, the pleasure-pain balance, and practical strategies for overcoming addiction, ultimately offering hope and encouragement for those on the path to recovery.

Dopamine Nation

Chelsea and Layton explore the cultural implications of extreme sexual stunts, particularly in the context of platforms like OnlyFans. They discuss the impact of porn culture on societal views of sexuality, the ethical considerations surrounding adult content, and the importance of recognizing the sacredness of sexual intimacy. 

Chelsea and Layton explore the concept of eternal desires and how they contrast with the instant gratification provided by pornography. They discuss the implications of pornography on personal relationships and emotional health, emphasizing the importance of introspection and seeking true fulfillment beyond superficial pleasures. 

Chelsea and Layton unpack the concept of "messengers" — individuals who can influence and support loved ones struggling with issues like pornography. They explore the importance of praying for these messengers, the burden of trying to change others, and the role of conviction and preservation in relationships.

Jonathan Daugherty is the founder and President of Be Broken Ministries. In this episode he shares his incredible story of moving from sexual brokenness to recovery and healing. The conversation explores the impact of addiction on his life and marriage, the significance of confession, and how to build resilience in families. 

BeBroken.org

This conversation explores the complex relationship between pornography and female sexuality, focusing on how women's consumption of porn affects their body image, sexual enjoyment, and overall mental health. The discussion highlights the negative impacts of porn on women's self-perception and the normalization of unhealthy sexual behaviors. It emphasizes the need for a deeper understanding of women's experiences and the importance of fostering healthy sexual intimacy.

Resources from this epsidoe: Study from Journal of Women's Health

Chelsea and Layton explore the profound impact of words, particularly in the context of relationships and healing from pornography addiction. The discussion delves into the science behind encouragement, the challenges of communication in emotionally charged situations, and the biblical perspective on the power of the tongue. They conclude with practical advice on how to choose words wisely to foster healing and connection.

Chelsea and Layton discuss the challenges faced by spouses dealing with their partner's porn use - specifically in the context of how much they should share with others. They emphasize the importance of community support, the need for intentional communication, and the biblical approach to disclosure and restoration. The conversation also highlights valuable resources for those affected by betrayal, encouraging listeners to seek help and not feel isolated in their struggles.

Hopequest

Sarah Society

Happily Even After

Chris and Lisa Archinal join the show to discuss their marriage's journey through betrayal and recovery. Chris shares how he came to strive for a relentless pursuit of sexual integrity, while Lisa reflects on her path to receiving a new heart after experiencing deep emotional pain. Together, they emphasize the significance of community support and practical steps in the healing process, showcasing a powerful narrative of redemption and faith. 

Chris' and Lisa's Website

Relentless Pursuit by Chris Archinal

Betrayal Trauma Survival Guide by Lisa Archinal