Life After: From Surviving to Thriving

We all have those nagging little voices in our heads that tell us what we can't do, what we shouldn't do. Those are our little gremlins. And they often keep us from doing exactly what we want in life. In this episode, and the next, we're going to talk about those little gremlins and what we can do to quiet their noise.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

We often think that this is our voice telling us what we can't do. However, that voice didn't start as your own. That voice started from someone in your past; maybe a parent, or a teacher, or a friend, family member, coach, or maybe even a bully. And something that was said to you stuck in your brain and you took ownership of it and because you said it again and again to yourself, it became your own little gremlin voice.

The good news about this is that when you recognize that it isn't your voice, that it originated from someone else, you can change it, you can quiet it down.

BEST MOMENTS

Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear. –George Addair

Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out. –Benjamin Franklin

F-E-A-R has two meanings. "Forget Everything and Run" or "Face Everything and Rise". The Choice is Yours. –Zig Ziglar

Thinking will not overcome fear but action will. –W. Clement Stone

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

I am so thrilled to have added guests to my podcast. This is a community and we can learn so much from each other…and this is absolutely the case with Courtney. It was my privilege to sit down and chat with her!

Courtney has had quite the journey and she has done a wonderful job making positive changes in her life! Her enthusiasm is contagious. The work she's done to make those change for herself, and also her girls, are attainable actions we can all do in our own lives. I hope you find her as inspiring as I do!

Please enjoy this first interview with many more to come!

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In this episode, we are going to talk about Hope and Hope Theory and the importance of cultivating hope in your life. The last quote by Christopher Reeve, "once you choose hope, anything's possible", is the foundation of this episode. Having hope, creating hope, openness towards hope, is a choice that we can all make, at any time. As we'll see, making that choice makes all the difference in the world.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Hope has three distinct parts according to Richard Snyder: goals, agency and pathways.

• Goals are the "cornerstone of hope".
• Agency, also known as willpower, is what keeps you believing you can achieve your goals as well as stay motivated to reach those goals.
• Pathways, or waypower, are the routes you choose to take in reaching your goals. When one pathway doesn't end up working, you troubleshoot and problem solve to find a new pathway.

BEST MOMENTS

The capacity for hope is the most significant fact of life. It provides human beings with a sense of destination, and the energy to get started. –Norman Cousins

Hope is not blind optimism. It's not ignoring the enormity of the tasks ahead or the roadblocks that stand in our path…Hope is that thing inside us that insists, despite all the evidence to the contrary, that something better awaits us if we have the courage to reach for it and to work for it and to fight for it.

― Barack Obama

Once you choose hope, anything's possible.

― Christopher Reeve

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

Hope Rising, How the Science of Hope Can Change Your Life, by Casey Gwinn, J.D. and Chan Helllman, PhD.

Mind Tools article: https://www.mindtools.com/aov3izj/snyders-hope-theory)

PsychCenral article: https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-psychology-of-hope#what-is-hope

Coach Training EDU article: https://www.coachtrainingedu.com/blog/what-is-hope-theory/#:~:text=Snyder's%20Hope%20Theory%20suggests%20that,low%20hope%20typically%20do%20not.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

In this episode, we are going to talk about Conflict and Conflict Styles. Conflict is inevitable, so understanding it and becoming more willing to effectively, kindly, safely and courageously lean in to resolving conflict allows for being more proactive when it happens.

The thing about conflict is that we are often so afraid to engage in any kind of conflict because most of us view it as yelling and screaming and fighting. However, conflict is really just two people with different ideas or perspectives. We can't ever completely eliminate conflict from our lives, so I'll also be giving you some ideas on how to manage it more effectively. We'll put together all the parts of conflict, including the elements, as well as the causes of conflict and conflict styles.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

5 causes of conflict:

• Relationship – strong emotions, poor or miscommunication, misperceptions or stereotypes, and past history are indicators.
• Data – which is characterized by misinformation or lack of information, different interpretation of data, and differing views on what's relevant
• Interests – this is perceived or actual competition; and substantive, procedural, or psychological interests
• Structural – focuses on unequal control, access, or distribution of resources and information; unequal power and authority, environmental factors that hinder cooperation, and time constraints
• And finally, Values – which is different criteria for evaluating ideas or behavior; or different ways of life, ideology, and religion

BEST MOMENTS

Peace is not the absence of conflict. It's the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.

― Ronald Reagan

The quality of our lives depends not on whether or not we have conflicts, but on how we respond to them.

―Thomas Crum

Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.

―Winston Churchill

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

Kraybill Conflict Style Inventory: https://www.riverhouseepress.com/en/about/style-matters-inventory

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

In this episode, we are going to talk about Communication! First, we're going to talk about what communication is and the many technical aspects involved. Then I'll mention some tips for how to improve your communication. This episode is really detailed and full of important information. I'm going to try to chunk it down as much as possible!

Good communication means that:

• People feel listened to and heard
• Others understand them
• Essential information gets to the people who need it when they need it
• And it speaks both to the content of the message and the relationship of those communicating with each other

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Barriers: For the sender these can include the message being unclear, indirect, untimely, or it contains distracting information. For the receiver they include distractions or selective attention, personal motives, or negative perceptions
• Filters: Interests, Vocabulary, Motives, Emotional State, Cultural Backgrounds, Assumptions, Experiences
• Active Listening: Acknowledging, Encouraging, Reflecting, Clarifying, Paraphrasing, Asking, Summarizing, Validating
• Active Listening Blocks: Comparing, Rehearsing, Judging, Identifying, Sparring, Derailing, Mind Reading, Filtering, Dreaming, Advising, Being Right, Placating

BEST MOMENTS

The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said. ― Peter Drucker

Communication is the lifeline of any relationship – Elizabeth Bourgeret

Communication happens on the listener's terms. –Thomas Erikson

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Hi! These micro episodes are designed to just give you a quick tip for how to facilitate change in your life and come from my podcast, Life After: From Surviving to Thriving. Check out the full episodes if you'd like to hear more!

Also, look for the micro episodes on YouTube: https://youtu.be/GKGskK_IEY0 (or just search for Locate Coaching on YouTube).

Please Share with a friend…or five! If you found this helpful, don't forget to Like, Comment or Subscribe!

New full podcast episodes are released on the 2nd and 4th Wednesday every month.

Please visit my website at www.locatecoaching.com if you are interested in being a guest on the show or would like to leave feedback about the episode.

Or, if you'd like to stay in touch, please visit this link: https://locatecoaching.activehosted.com/f/1

In this episode, we are going to talk about Grief. And because of the heaviness of this topic, we are going to keep it as simple as possible. This episode is meant to give you an opportunity to start thinking about grief in a different way and to hopefully open up the possibility for addressing any grief that you may currently be experiencing.

Grief is so intertwined with so many parts of our life. And often, it gets lost in the day to day. It impacts us in such a way that we often, without really knowing why, are just getting by. Now, I'm no expert. I'm not a therapist or a grief expert. What I can tell you in my experience is, culturally, we don't address grief well, and I've also felt a little lost because of that. Anyone else? And, grief is not just about death. It's about loss and transition and change. And the reality is that we are all feeling some form of grief, almost all of the time.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Take extremely good care of yourself. Always.
• Find someone to talk to
• Feel your feelings!!!
• Don't stifle or distract yourself from your feelings
• Know that the grief will demand to be seen…. you get to decide how
• Give yourself time, lots and lots of space and grace.
• Lean into love!!!
• Sleep when you need to sleep, take walks when you need to move, eat better even though it may not feel as easy or satisfying.
• Be gentle with yourself.
• Give to others.

BEST MOMENTS

Grief is like the ocean; it comes in waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim. — Vicki Harrison

Life seems sometimes like nothing more than a series of losses, from beginning to end. That's the given. How you respond to those losses, what you make of what's left, that's the part you have to make up as you go. ― Katharine Weber

Grief never ends. But it changes. Its's a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith. It is the price of love. –Unknown

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

Everyone Around You is Grieving. Go Easy, by John Pavlovitz:

https://johnpavlovitz.com/2019/02/21/everyone-around-you-is-grieving-go-easy/

The Grief Recovery Handbook, by John James and Russell Friedman

Healing Your Grieving Heart series, by Alan Wolfelt

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Hi! These micro episodes are designed to just give you a quick tip for how to facilitate change in your life and come from my podcast, Life After: From Surviving to Thriving. Check out the full episodes if you'd like to hear more!

Also, look for the micro episodes on YouTube: https://youtu.be/whSzB7pv0t8 (or just search for Locate Coaching on YouTube).

Please Share with a friend…or five! If you found this helpful, don't forget to Like, Comment or Subscribe!

New episodes on the 2nd and 4th Wednesday every month.

Please visit my website at www.locatecoaching.com if you are interested in being a guest on the show or would like to leave feedback about the episode.

Or, if you'd like to stay in touch, please visit this link: https://locatecoaching.activehosted.com/f/1

In this episode, we are going to talk about resilience. This is really an interesting topic because whether you refer to it as resilience, or mental toughness, or grit, there is a depth and breadth of information out there. Like mindset, it is really popular and how people talk about resilience is multilayered and diverse. We'll do a quick introduction to resilience and then will focus on how to build your resilience and how to maintain high levels of resilience when you need to.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Build your resilience:

• Prepare and practice in advance!
• Focusing on growing when things are going well.
• Set your intentions and boundaries when you are satisfied with the way things are.
• Don't wait for things to get bad to start focusing on increasing your skills.
• Manage Your Stress

BEST MOMENTS

Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will change in a positive manner.

Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.

Strength doesn't come from what you can do. Strength comes from overcoming the things you thought you couldn't do.

You become what you think about most of the time ... so think about what you want to accomplish. – Earl Nightingale

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

In this episode, we are going to talk about Motivation! What it is, how do you get it and most importantly, how do you maintain your motivation no matter what it is you want to do.

I have lots of experience reaching goals throughout my life, big and small. And I know how important motivation is when striving for change in your life. I really want to invite you as you listen to this episode to take a moment and consider something small that you would like to do differently in your life.

Now, what's the big dream?

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• What do you want?
• Know your values.
• Keep taking the baby steps.

BEST MOMENTS

Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear. –George Addair

Always ask yourself if what you're doing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow. –Paulo Coelho

If you can't stop thinking about it, don't stop working for it. –Unknown

I didn't come this far to only go this far. –Uknown

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Value words

Family Strength Purpose

Authenticity Presence Peace

Calm Connection Laughter

Humor Helping Others Loyalty

Justice Harmony Adventure

Freedom Love Fun

Mastery Learning Creativity

Service Humility Passionate

Inspiring Honesty Satisfaction

Adventurous Nurturing Excellence

Partnership Reliability Learning

Growth Friends Commitment

Optimism Open-Minded Respectful

Courageous Dependable Resourceful

Integrity Humble Global

Efficient Transformation Responsibility

Education Positivity Diversity

Community Transparency Quality

Family Appreciation Assertive

Blissful Capable Resilient

Certainty Trustworthy Confidence

Clarity Acceptance Leadership

Kindness Spontaneity Depth