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What happens when a high school English paper becomes a 911 call that saves a family?

In this deeply vulnerable episode, fractional COO and horsewoman Kallai Plummer takes us through her transformation from survival mode single mother to conscious parent and the therapy journey that made it possible. We open with a grounding breathwork practice before diving into the messy, beautiful work of healing generational trauma.

Kallai reveals how her daughter's cry for help became her own catalyst for change, leading both mother and daughter into parallel therapy journeys with the same therapist. The result? A complete rewiring of their relationship, from angry silence to radical honesty.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• How to recognize your nervous system as a "wild stallion" you can ride, not tame
• The difference between integration and suppression in trauma work
• Why returning to horses after 20 years became narrative alchemy for Kallai
• The parking lot mishap that revealed everything about reparenting
• How to listen without fixing when your child (or anyone) shares pain
• Why generational trauma is really about nervous system replication
• Practical somatic tools for regulation in everyday moments
• How to build a business that doesn't run you (boundaries as nervous system care)

This isn't a quick-fix episode. It's a honest map for the long game of healing complete with therapy hangovers, next-morning lifts, and the courage to show up differently than you were raised. Whether you're a parent, leader, or anyone committed to breaking cycles, Kallai's story offers both permission and practical tools.

Connect with Kallai:

• Instagram: @_kalandco
• Website: www.thekalandco.com/links
• Podcast: That Big CEO Energy

"You have an opportunity to embrace what will happen and what you can make happen, and you have an opportunity to write it differently." - Kallai Plummer

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What if mental health isn't something you're diagnosed with—but something you train daily, like physical fitness?

Arnold Beekes watched the mental health system fail his sister. Institutions prioritized filling seats over healing people. Two of her classmates died by suicide that same week. That bike ride home changed everything.

A former corporate executive turned global citizen, Arnold created "brain fitness"—a preventative approach to mental and emotional well-being that treats your mind like you treat your body: strengthen it before it breaks.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Why mental health cases exploded from 197 million (1952) to 2.4 billion (2024)—and it's not just population growth
• The difference between "mental illness" (the label) and mental wellness (the practice)
• How Arnold's near-fatal car crash forced him to rebuild his relationship with movement and safety
• The "inner cheerleader" technique that replaces self-criticism with self-compassion
• Why his sister's story taught him the hardest lesson about boundaries and willingness
• Three demanding but simple principles: be kind, be present, be creative
• Practical tools: nasal breathing, daily walks, and making space for emotions without drowning in them

GUEST RESOURCES:

Arnold Beekes Website: braingym.fitness Book: "The Adventures of Doctor Alfred Moore" 15-Week Program: "From Fitting In to Flying Out" Masterclasses available on: Curiosity, Emotions, Habits, Aging, Uniqueness

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"What if the smartest part of your brain is the one that learned to hide?"

We start with a grounding practice to meet the body where it is, then sit with therapist and podcast host Malisa Hepner to unpack how the "golden child" mask, complex trauma, and perfectionism can quietly fracture a life—and how she pieced it back together.

In this conversation:

• Trauma as separation from self, not just "bad events"
• Why high achievers often carry hidden hypervigilance
• The spiritual awakening that felt like rewiring in real time
• Planning a suicide date—and the unexpected relief that created space to rebuild
• Launching Emotionally Unavailable podcast imperfectly on purpose
• Hospice lessons on presence when words fail
• The difference between being "healed" and living in ongoing healing

Malisa reframes tears as movement, not weakness. She offers hard-won language for the "fine while drowning" experience. And she proves that emotional availability isn't a badge—it's messy, daily practice.

Connect with Malisa Hepner here: empoweredwithmalisahepner.org

If you've ever felt like you had it together on paper but were quietly unraveling, this conversation offers tools, language, and a kinder map home.

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The cards wouldn't shuffle. Then "Chop Wood" appeared twice. The universe was insisting on one message: transformation doesn't live in breakthroughs. It lives in what you do every single day.

In this episode:

• Why your nervous system resists simplicity (even when you crave peace)
• The real reason "just breathe" makes you roll your eyes
• Who you are when life isn't a crisis and why that scares you
• A guided somatic practice: breath, body, nervous system regulation
• Why consistent tiny practices create more change than dramatic moments

If you've ever wondered why healing feels so unsexy and repetitive, this is for you. We explore the gap between what you want (ease, flow, calm) and what your body chases (adrenaline, problems to fix, crisis to solve). Then we practice together: hand on heart, feet on ground, breath as devotion.

This episode includes a guided meditation you can return to anytime. No props needed. No perfection required. Just you, your breath, and your willingness to choose the sacred ordinary over the dramatic.

After a decade of this work, 250+ podcast episodes, and countless clients, one pattern is clear: the people who transform aren't the ones with the biggest breakthroughs they're the ones who show up to the small stuff consistently.

Keywords: nervous system regulation, daily practice, somatic healing, breathwork, trauma recovery, self-compassion, meditation, anxiety relief, emotional regulation

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What if your body could trust your dreams? 

In this raw EFT tapping session, we tackle a high-stakes fear: promoting a deeply personal book while living with brain lesions, chronic pain, and the very real risk that stress could trigger relapse. 

Tapping coach Amy Vincze guides a live session that moves from 9/10 head pain to 2/10 in 45 minutes—not through bypassing fear, but by meeting it exactly where it lives in the body. 

You'll learn: 

✓ The complete tapping sequence (follow along)
 ✓ Why honest words must come before affirmations
✓ How early trauma shapes current procrastination
✓ Safety-first strategies for ambitious creative work
✓ The real-world tangle of disability benefits + visibility

This isn't about pushing through. It's about building nervous system capacity *first*, then taking one small step from that regulated place. Perfect for anyone navigating chronic illness, creative blocks, or the fear that ambition might break you.

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(See the tapping points demonstrated and follow along)

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Website: https://soarwithtapping.com/
App: Soar with Tapping (160+ tapping scripts) 

If this lands for you, share it with someone who needs nervous system-friendly courage.

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What if two minutes of breath could change the story you're living? We sit down with Rocío Aquino & Ángel Orengo to trace a path from chaos to center, through failure, forgiveness, and the everyday practices that make self-love practical. Their novel, The Orchid: The Secret Code of Modern Goddesses, isn't just a beautiful narrative; it's a field guide woven into story, where five women mirror our realities survival, perfectionism, hidden truth, anger, and longing and offer tools to move from pain to possibility.

We unpack why Orchid became their symbol: resilient, diverse, unmistakably feminine yet rooted in a surprising masculine etymology, embodying the balance our culture craves. Rocío speaks to trauma, nervous system safety, and the long road from external approval to inner harmony. Angel shares the ego's impulse to interrupt, the discipline of awareness, and the power of choosing where attention goes in a noisy world. Together they model respectful communication, mindful pauses, and a love that holds space for growth without codependency.

Expect practical takeaways: an accessible forgiveness framework, a two-minute mindful reset that actually works, mirror work to rebuild worth, and gratitude practices that shift focus from lack to sufficiency. We also explore how to navigate hard headlines without bypassing pain redirecting energy toward peace and intention while honoring reality.

The heartbeat is simple and brave: when you love yourself deeply and completely, you stop living at the mercy of externals and become the force in your own life. If this conversation sparked a tear, a laugh, or an aha, share it with someone who needs it.

Connect with Rocío Aquino & Ángel Orengo
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Mindfulness extends beyond being a buzzword into a practical, accessible tool for navigating life's challenges with greater ease and presence.
Alan Carroll, a public speaking coach with 50 years of spiritual practice, shares how creating space between thoughts transforms our relationship with emotions and enhances our ability to respond rather than react.

• Mindfulness lives in present time, while the ego lives in the past and future
• Creating space between thoughts allows us to observe rather than identify with our emotions
• The parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest) counterbalances the sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight)
• A simple breathing technique can interrupt anger patterns in just 10-12 seconds
• Daily practice of just five minutes with no expectations can begin transforming your relationship with thoughts
• Mindfulness doesn't negate human emotions but provides tools to experience them without drowning in them
• The "fifth element" of space is available to everyone, regardless of age or background
• Learning to "play the note of silence" alongside sound transforms communication

Find Alan Carrollat acamindfulyou.com or through his podcast, Mindful You, where he continues to share insights from his extensive experience training public speakers in over 60 countries.

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Amy Robeson, an Akashic Record Master teacher, explains how to access the Akashic Records and receive guidance and healing through this spiritual practice. We explore how the records contain every thought and experience from the moment of soul inception, providing a judgment-free source of wisdom tailored to each individual's journey.

• Akashic Records defined as a field of infinite possibilities containing your soul's complete history
• Different people perceive the records differently - as a library, nature, or cosmic energy
• The records provide guidance without judgment by considering your entire soul journey
• Specific, open-ended questions yield more profound insights than yes/no questions
• Betting on yourself and clearly defining intentions helps manifest desired outcomes
• Writing to your younger self can be healing and reach others who need similar healing
• Slowing down helps align mind and body, breaking illusions and creating space for clarity
• Words carry energetic frequencies that can heal both the writer and reader

Find Amy at https://theamyrobeson.com/free to access her free sacred gifts including 20+ free healings. Check out her podcast "Awakening with Amy Robison" and follow her on YouTube, Facebook, and Instagram for free group readings and Akashic record classes.

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87 days left in 2025. How did you invest your most valuable asset—your time?**

If you keep saying “I’ll do it next time” and never do, this episode is for you. We pull apart the unspoken rules keeping you small, be polite when disrespected, stay small so others feel safe, don’t ask for too much and replace them with clarity, boundaries, and self-trust you can feel in your body.

You’ll get a guided mindful reset to calm your inner critic, plus practical steps to stop performing and start living like your life is yours. We talk about naming rock bottom as orientation (not failure), setting boundaries without drama, and what changes when you finally ask: *“Is this even mine?”*

**In this episode:**
• Time audit as a reality check on what matters
• Exposing inherited rules and people-pleasing scripts
• Clarity over being “difficult” as a reframe
• Guided breath and inner coach activation
• Naming rock bottom as orientation, not failure
• Micro-steps to shift from performing to living
• Boundaries you can enforce with calm
• Choosing breakthroughs by asking “Is this even mine?”
• Choosing now over “next time” with simple actions

Rock bottom can look like heartbreak, burnout, grief, or quiet misalignment, it’s all valid data. When you claim where you are, your brain stops wasting energy on the facade and can finally help you navigate forward.

**If this opened something for you, join the LiftOneSelf community** for emotional sobriety tools, meditations, and conversations to get off autopilot.

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Bob Martin shares his remarkable journey from flunking out of college to becoming a mob lawyer and eventually a meditation teacher, illustrating how unexpected doors can open when we remain open to transformation.

• Born to immigrant parents who survived persecution in Eastern Europe
• Received a football scholarship but flunked out of college
• Worked as a prosecutor under Janet Reno during Miami's "cocaine cowboys" era
• Transitioned to defending the same mob figures he once prosecuted
• Discovered spirituality through a 72nd generation Taoist grandmaster
• Moved to North Carolina to start fresh and deepened his meditation practice
• Now teaches at Elon University and helps others find inner peace

Our nervous systems evolved for a much simpler environment with clear dangers, not today's chronic, ambiguous stressors
• Meditation helps create space between ourselves and our thoughts
• With just 10 minutes of practice daily for 2-3 weeks, we can begin breaking conditioning
• True happiness comes through service to others, not self-focus
• Both Eastern and Western spiritual traditions share core wisdom when we look beyond surface differences

Visit awiseandhappylife.com for free meditation resources, downloadable guides, and contact information. Email Bob directly at [email protected].

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