Listener question:  I do not have control over other people, events, and circumstances.  Agreed.  And I do not have control over the thoughts that bubble up in my mind.  They arise on their own, for the most part.  But I CAN think on purpose.  Thoughts may arise, but I can also think intentionally.  And this applies to my actions even more so.  My instinct may be to anger or blame or withdraw.  But I CAN act another way if I choose.  Knowing I have no control, and letting go of wanting anything to be other than what it is, eases my way though life.  The idea of noticing, simply observing, without engagement is freedom, and resting in the knowledge that I cannot change anything external to me is peace.  But I’m sticking to my guns here (sorry for the violent metaphor)… I know that I can think on purpose and act accordingly.  And I create my experience to that extent.  Please comment, thank you again.